Is anyone out there preg and due this month for 1st time after a stillbirth/miscarriage?

[wannabump2006]

hi there,don't really want to make too big a deal of this,but am feeling quite nervous as i am due this sunday 26th,and its my first pregnancy after losing a baby in may 2005,(had a thread on miscarriage/breavement page:Have lost our first born son,stillborn at 33wks).
Have dealt with the whole thing very well i reckon,but as the time is drawing ever closer i'm really getting nervous and it hasn't gone in atall that this baby is fighting fit and really,well,...there??(if you know what i mean?!)....I have been hovering on the due march thread ever since i first found out i was preg,but haven't dared to send a message or get involved as i was soo scared that it would all be for nothing,but i guess i've got to start believing it now,especially as if bubba hasn't arrived by sunday,i'm being induced on the monday!!(its a little girl).....
Anyway i was just wondering if anyone else is feeling this way,as it would really put my mind at rest and 'hopefully' convince me that this is really and truely happening after everything i've been through!!.x.x

no experience of this myself, but wishing you good luck and bumping this for you

I lost a baby born very prematurely.

I was convinces that I wasn't meant to have children and was in denial and even when pregnant again I thought it was probably not going to work out - despite everything seeming fine.

All I can say is that when I held my son in my arms it was the strongest emotion I have ever felt - it all fell away as I realised I was a mother. I cannot express in words how I felt.

I have gone on to have a daughter too - I am so lucky.

I felt like you - around the due date it became very strange as the reality crept closer and closer. You feel odd - that is fine. Statiscally you will be holding a baby very soon.

I know how you feel but I cannot put it in words - confused, happy, sad, excited, grieving - I don't know - but I know how you feel.

The very best wishes and I look forward to reading about your girl soon (do post when you can)

Best wishes my sweet. Will think of you.

No personal experience but i have cared for many women who have lost a baby then had successful pregnancies. All will be well. Best wishes, mears

thanks for your words of encouragement ladies!I'm just running all sorts of scenarios in my head about something going wrong,and i hate feeling like that because its not this babies fault!So i really have to try hard to be positive i guess!!!

Hi wannabump, one of my baby buddies lost her little boy at 38 weeks. She went on to have a little girl who will be a year old in a few weeks, she is the most beautiful little girl. Please don't worry you will soon be holding your little girl too!
Looking forward to reading your post next week.
Katy X

p.s. Don't beat yourself up about the way you feel its totally natural.

Wannabump - no experience, but just wanted to wish you lots of luck for the weekend. Hope that all goes well and that the labour is trouble-free for you and babba...

Hi wanna - I think its perfectly understandable to feel like this.

I gave birth to my second son at 21wks pregnant in December 2005 and am now 21wks pregnant with my third son. Each milestone has felt like a hurdle to get over, every scan, doctors appt etc. And I've been so worried all the time, imagining every scenario of what could go wrong. I hardly tols anyone about this pregnancy and waited until 19 wks to tell work even though it was fairly obvious by then. I just struggled telling people as they would be so pleased and all I felt like was "It'll probably go wrong". But I'm pleased to be over the 21 wk mark and will probably relax more when over the 24wk mark and the baby could survive if born early. I know I'll feel like you do when the birth is just round the corner.

Anyway the reason for waffling on is just to say that as far as I can tell its all perfectly natural and there is no reason to think you wont have a wonderful labour. Best of luck and please let us know how it all goes. Enjoy your little girl

Hi there,

I had a miscarriage in Jan 2004 and we had been TTC ever since.
Like you ,since I found out I was pregnant in July last year I found it hard to believe it was actually happening to me.There was always the worry that something would go wrong in the back of my mind.
My daughter was born 1st March,perfectly normal delivery and shes great.I still look at her now and dont believe shes mine.
I know its hard but try not to worry too much,it wont be long now till you will have your little girl in your arms