Sorry for the length but here is my got the tshirt story:
Birth story
16 May community midwife did sweep but also noticed that bp was high and some protein in urine. So off to triage and ctg monitoring + blood test. Result of ctg was ok so no issues and blood test result waited for (NHS cyber attack so slower results) but consultant said fine go home and come back in 2 days.
18 May: drove there myself, all good again, bp normalised and no protein. Ctg showing wriggly baby.
19 May: planned induction but had no clue they'd keep me in until baby would be born.
CTG monitoring during morning all normal, then gel on ribbon inside cervix for 24 hours (13.00-13.00 next day) p. We naively thought we would meet our baby in the next 24 hours...
Contractions from 14.30. Managed with paracetamol, laying in bath (bliss!) and breathing technique with OH and my mum as a fantastic support! Contractions were now picking up and increasing intensity. CTG in evening picked up high HR of baby so I was moved to consultant led unit. Was given entonox there as intensity of contractions ramping up. This seemed to help managing pain better and baby HR down again so they wanted to send me back up to antenatal ward, which I refused as no gas and air available there. Also the consultant refused to reply to my questions directly (how do you know I'm not in labour with these contractions?) and laughed at me in a patronising manner when I challenged him. He said it must have been the entonox talking when I said we were turning in circles with him handily avoiding my questions. I nearly burst out but had enough calm to ask him how he determined I didn't have it all together. He kind of walked out the room and I think from his later attitude that he may have been mildly embarrassed about that...
So I was put in 'induction' room at 10.00pm. Following night I was managed on my own with gas and paracetamol. OH and mum went home so they could rest well. Amazing midwife (team lead) looking after me. I slept as ok as I could and noticed (but wasn't disturbed by) neighbour in full labour! That should tell you a lot about how I (used to) sleep.
20 May: Mum and OH arrived back at 11.00am to help support and encourage. I was miffed that the consultant had skipped me on ward round as I'd wanted to know what the plan was and how they'd support me but there'd been quite a lot of theatre work so they hadn't had time.
Midwife removed gel around 1.00pm and did internal examination but not possible to break waters so then decided to have 6-7 hours 'break' from hormone induction. Contractions still going although not as intense. Eat and drink well was solid advice taken on board with absolute gregariousness! Man I was hungry! And Thirsty!
8pm internal examination showed 0.5 cm dilation and placing of pessary got contractions going again.
1am phoned sleepy OH at home to come back. 2.00 am went to sit on improvised stool in bath with gas and air and had water running over bump, plug in bath so lowered myself into it when It was full enough and I kept at it breathing until no longer able to maintain vertical position. I scooped up out of bath and probably ran to be back on the bed and asked for more pain relief which I received in form of Lorazepam, which I vomited up violently together with all the fluids I'd been taking in so carefully. This happening limited options for further pain relief. Options discussed and epidural now considered. Transfer to other side of corridor to delivery room.
The bloodied Show happened around 3am. Waters broke spontaneously in fountain style after this (think about 4.30am but not sure). Contractions from 2am had become extremely painful and fast / relentless with gas and air making it only just manageable (or not for some of them). They offered me epidural which I accepted but Ultrasound (carried out by same consultant who by now had toned down his patronising behaviour) showed awkward position of baby slightly sideways, so I had to wait and see if I could push into better position. Mum said I did very well but my recollection appears slightly different. Water birth being off the table was the least of my concerns. I had gone from 0.5cm to full dilation in less than 2 hours. Difficult breathing in the entonox gas when screaming ! I wanted pain relief ! Whispering doctors in the corner worried my OH. I Finally went to theatre at 6am. 2 failed catheters for fluids in left hand and then arm but more success in right hand. Relentless contractions and hoarse voice from screaming.
Spinal block injection by very skilled anaesthetist gave bliss relaxation. Monitoring of head showed good condition of baby without distress. Contractions could not be felt so pushing during 3 forceps attempts impossible as no sense of direction in which to push. I can't remember being asked for consent to try forceps or go straight to C section. Decision to carry out c-section with him born bright pink and crying at 7.32 am. OH said it's a boy and we named him together: Geoffrey Georges Mitchell. Then OH was whisked away to help with early care daddy duties whilst one of the anaesthetic assistants took a photo reportage of him weighing, 3.495kg, cutting the cord whilst obstetrician was sewing me up which I seemed to feel every bit of. I asked the male midwife if my belly had already reduced sizes and was given reply with dry sense of humour : 'No comment, darling' then I received a suppository of ibuprofen and continued fluids. I then went to recovery where Ed was awaiting me, with our son and he was so moved to tears with love for his son! We stayed there when looked after by Anna, one of the midwives I'd met the night before. She told me she had a specific interest in placenta qualities and said she'd had a good look at mine, which appeared in amazing condition! I'd have loved to see it somehow but I believe her word. She helped me with skin to skin time and placed baby on my breast for first time. Mum joined us shortly after that, and met our little star.
We went to postnatal ward shortly after that where I'd stayed until Wednesday 24 May. I've received support with breastfeeding (they had asked me if I wanted that) and there seemed to be a big difference between personalities of the midwives and nursery nurses which affected the ways they approached me and Geoff and the breastfeeding support. The last night before discharge I had the best nursery nurse supporting me with expressing breast milk and showing me how to give this to Geoff. As I found it particularly hard to feed from left (slow let down) we decided to express from that side to take pressure off.
Geoff met his 2 sets of grandparents on 23 May and they finally met each other too! We bought a pump on the way home from hospital to home. We 'managed' 2 nights, one of which my parents were still at our house (they live abroad).
Thursday 25 May: Midwife visit with student on day 4 confirmed I did alright with feeding but Geoff just wouldn't latch well unless occasionally and more so on right than left. They suggested to combine next day visit with nursery nurse to address this. Dressing of the c section scar was taken off, leaving some stickiness and it seems to need some airtime...
Friday 26 May (due date) : midwife visit to carry out heel prick, weigh and nursery nurse as agreed. We were taught different method and tasks during feeding by extremely experienced and knowledgeable nursery nurse. But...
Weight was 3.050kg, meaning lowered with 12% so phone call to paediatrician and agreed to assess, possibly admit to hospital to continue bf support. Pack suitcase but forgot my breast pump! Tears from both of us whilst driving to hospital in bank holiday traffic! Once there we were taken through straight away and seen by paediatrician who suggests readmission to Gloucester Ward after weighing him again.
Geoff was feeding well during the early evening on children's A&E with 2 sessions of 45 minutes. Despite this, a pump was given with set but I was in pain during expression and also had a disappointing yield. I felt there was poor understanding from night staff on this occasion where both of us were so emotional. Ed decided to stay with me during the night this time, and help with the waking up as I couldn't do this on my own. The night was ok thanks to Ed's support and the techniques we had each been taught by the nursery nurse, but not great with 3 hourly feeds.
Saturday 27 May: Luckily, things improved in the morning when my little sprout picked up his appetite along with daylight and the care of a wonderful midwife and nursery nurse reinforcing what we already thought was right. The paediatrician told us that she was happy with Geoff's reflexes, reactions and his overall assessment. She feels that the biggest weight loss must have happened in the first 3 days and that things were definitely looking up now.
3 monster feeds during the day surely helped to get the weight up again to 3.122kg, so we were discharged and as soon as we got home, we 'resumed' normal life. Evening feed was absolutely incredible and this has set the tone for the night feeds as well with incredible latch and longer endurance. I have kept the bar open all night and today resulting in a happy and milk drunk little star. We followed the advice given about my activity recovering from C-section and giving my essentials to Geoff, so rest, eat, feed and sleep. I'm now as confident as to open up my top in public to give my boy the best of myself!