July 2014 - Here comes the 3rd trimester, hold on to your knickers! Thread 6

[ZingWatermelon]

hope you like the title!

Ps ismarah I am also the DIYer so feel your pain-just SO frustrating not being able to get on with stuff and I object to paying someone to do stuff which I can do myself!

Aww maggie I know how you feel. physio told me not to hoover, clean etc so am feeling a bit bad for hubby having to do everything. So to take some responsibility I have arranged to have a cleaner every fortnight...so excited about this although I've been told that once you have a cleaner you'll never go back!
At least I can feel like I'm contributing by giving directions to the cleaner as well as doing the ocado shopping
ickle I really have a craving for gingerbread now! yummy!

patchwork its frustrating isn't it? I made the mistake of saying something about it taking too long for DP to do the diy and housework (meaning there wasn't enough time for him to do it all because there was so much to do today) and he took it to mean he wasn't working hard enough! Tbh our house is too much of a mess to have a cleaner at the mo as there is stuff everywhere.

Blue
I think it takes about 3-5 days minimum to build up the iron to a level it has a positive effect (depending on dose).
but to feel really well I'd say about 7-10 days minimum.

baby doesn't just kicks - s/he holds it for a few seconds. it's so painful I have to gently "rub it away".
Anyone else has that?

Yay, have just won a Quinny Buzz on ebay for the princely sum of £70 and the seller is only a mile down the road from us! We liked it in the shop although it doesn't seem to get rave reviews. However if we don't get on with it we can resell and buy something else.

trying to get to sleep but little man had decided to have a burst of starjumping energy after my late supper of beans&cheese on toast.
zing I think bubblegum was being a twat altho I only read first few pages, others did not need to gang up on you also. my hosp appointment on thurs had a male gynae dude & my feelings were I dont care who gives me an internal exam etc if its for my benefit/baby benefit regardless of how shy or whatever I was.
on a lighter note; 7 wks left of work but only 27 of those days working - can't come soon enough :)

Ladies, serious question:

Can we have a forum thread somewhere after beans are born? Is that how MN works?

Without Zing to give advice and cake and all the amazingly heroic commuters and teachers and all other fabulous posters on here, I'm not sure how I can cope. I'd have to find another forum, break them all into my weirdness gently and hope they'll be nice. They might not. They might not even bake!

zing had a feeling that was the case- I'm just being impatient!

ismarah I'm sure there'll be a postnatal thread :)

Managed about 1.5hours sleep so far but woken up so so bunged up, unable to breathe again! Hoping I'll be able to sleep again soon...after applying yet another layer of Vicks to chest back and nostrils though!!

Oh dear blue I always wake up bunged up. Hope iron kicks in quickly and you start to feel better soon.

Dh went out last night and came back at 9.30- I was fast asleep snoring on the sofa. Was not impressed at having to go to bed! And now its 4am!

ismarah there must be somewhere we can carry it on, early morning feeding I recon will be a popular posting time. Can we put some tmi rules in place now ;-)

Mummy yes to 7 weeks work to go - although only 1 bank holiday for me so 34 working days. Will be getting my countdown on from next week when less than 30- 2 blocks of 3 weeks with half term in the middle. Jealous of all those who can use holiday to extend start of maternity- boo to low pay over 6 week summer hol then again at least next year going back to work won't be too bad because of it!

plate good work £70 is a bargain- if you like it bonus if not you might even make a profit!

ismarah - I was thinking the same thing - but there's a 'post-natal clubs' section for continuing the chatter in the big scary world of actually having a small dependent human to look after 24/7. Some threads in there are still going from 2008!

So just to go off track slightly...talk to me about baby baths.

Is it worth getting one just cheap with a plug like this?
www.mothercare.com/Mothercare-Baby-Bath/481224,default,pd.html

Am keen to get a support for when bit bigger, perhaps this
www.mothercare.com/Angelcare-Soft-Touch-Bath-Support---Aqua/635715,default,pd.html

So do I need the baby bath first-thinking especially if we're to have to have a c-section or if bad back continues? 2nd/3rd/zing help me out!

Hello all, just caught up briefly with this thread - haven't been on since 1st tri.

We are having another boy, got 7 weeks left a work, and getting really excited, even though we're not at all ready !

Is anyone else going for a homebirth? I am doing hypnobirthing classes in the next few weeks, really looking forward to spending some time preparing for labour. I didn't even think about it beforehand last time and although I had a textbook easy birth with no pain relief, I found it scary and hard work (not to mention excruciating...).

ickle, we didn't get one first time round, I had a bath with baby or put him in v shallow water and held him all the time. He got quite sore skin so we didn't bathe him that frequently, so wouldn't have been worth it for us. The second link support thingy looks good, if you don't fancy having baby in the bath with you?

ismarah

I've seen loads of "graduate threads" some have been going on for years.
so once we've had our babies we can just carry on linking new threads (maybe in a different topic).

don't worry. those who birth together will stay together!

Yep thinking a lot of the time will just have bath with baby but seems to be less common with those I know with babies...not sure why!

Well a slightly better night here, at least I didn't spend any of it sleeping on the sofa which is a first for nearly a week so hopefully I'm on the mend!

ickle Re baby baths we found it v helpful to have a dedicated bath as our hot water supply could be a bit dodgy but I knew there'd always be enough to fill up a small bath. Having them in with you is ok but then difficult when you're wet and trying to get slippery newborn out, dry and dressed etc- fine if there will always be two of you there but DH was working shifts so I was often on my own for bath time. The supports are great- we bought a flexibath (great for storing and travel) and a fabric covered support that would fit inside. As DS got bigger and he moved into the big bath we moved to a smaller and then larger plastic support. I've tried to link them all below...

flexibath

fabric support

example plastic support

Hope that helps!

ickle

a horrible admission - I don't like bathing newborns. I
I have an irrational fear of dropping them and causing them harm while they are in the water (that is a few inches!)
so DH does that in the first few months and with the last two he found it easier to bath them in the bathroom sink!

he is very tall (6' 5") so bending down to a baby bath or kneeling by the bath is just not for him.

when I get brave enough I use a baby bath that is placed on the floor and we bought a moulded "seat" that supports their bodies so both hands are free to use.
(will check where from)

hth

(I need cake now as bathing babies talk leaves me weak)
[weirdo]

Blue

yes to having a bath with baby, that I love.
but only when there's another adult to receive them and get them sorted while I get out of bath.
that's when they are newborn & very little.
once they can sit unsupported the whole game changes.
and I actually get them used to showers very early on, which comes handy at times cleaning them of explosive nappies contents!

Exactly zing they're so small and super slippery when newborn! I remember being oh so scared the first few times with bathed DS...the bath supports where you have both hands free are amazing as not sure how I'd have coped trying to hold onto said slippery thing whilst preventing drowning and washing them at the same time! I haven't bathed with DS much but if it does happen now he gets totally over excited...and often thinks all Christmases have come early...ooh look mummy I could have bath time, cuddles and sneak some milky too...all at the same time which is why I often avoid the dual bath for now!

Right...have taken the first of the evil iron pills in lieu of spatone this morning so will see what havoc it wreaks on my digestive system today!n the meantime I think I'm going to cancel my whooping cough jab I was supposed to have this afternoon as I really don't need any more drugs or virus in my body right now! This cold and sorting out iron is quite enough for this week I think :) I'm still soooo bunged up with this cold...must be the impact of lack of iron on my immune system that I haven't kicked it yet as normally it'd be gone by now but I feel no better than. Did this time a week ago!!

Ps sorry about silly iPad typos and zing if there's cake on offer can I have some too please :)

zing that's a good idea about showers, going to give that a go this time!

Found DSs baby bath was hardly used. It seemed like a bit of a faff and if you're as unorganised as me you'd realise you didn't put towels/lotions etc within reach and make a pigs ear of it.

We got on a lot better with a support for the bath. I seem to remember DS hated being naked so I'd have to put a flannel on his belly. He's 3 now and would happily be naked all the time!

DS actually has chicken pox at the moment so that's more time off work when I only had 2 weeks left.... I'll be popular in the office!

Oh dear the iron tablet has (sorry TMI) given me awful diarrhoea rather than the predicted constipation. I feel awful and v sick too. Not sure what I'm going to do with DS today now as I could do with going back to bed and staying there :(

zing baby pushes me a lot at times like its trying to get out so I end up rubbing it and stuff, especially up near my right rib which is uncomfortable!

I think the shower thing early on is good as it gets them used to it and then they aren't such a wuss about it later!

Part of the reason I'm getting a baby bath is so its easier to bathe them and less opportunity for me to drop them when they are little plus uses less water. Our bathroom sink is too small I think

Ickle I found this bath interesting in case of C sections as it fits on top of a standard bath tub: www.pramworld.co.uk/the-neat-nursery-co-supabath-white-blue#.U14Y0nm9Kc0

If you have a shower cubicle separate to a bath tub, for instance in an en-suite those can also be useful for bathing baby without bending over too much. Or a big enough sink. Kitchen table even - if you figure out the order you need for things and have everything within reach.

Glad to know about the post-natal threads - and thanks Plate for freaking me out with uni maths!