June 2014: New Year, new trimester, new thread! June bugs no 7!!

[hackneybird]

Ding dong!

mylittle - I'm avoiding imagining it, there's no point getting scared about it now!

Marlena - I'm the same, and does anyone know a good place to get maternity sports clothes? At Pilates tonight and my running tights certainly aren't big enough anymore!

summerbaby2014 i think for me imagining is the only option to prepare myself and avoid traumas in hospital

Redcliff I would google home birth & then stick to official looking sites or you'll get seriously extreme stuff on both sides. Things like hospital websites, midwifery websites, I think a few universities have released some research etc. There's lots to read once you get hang of searching around & avoiding blogs!

Riblet that's quite funny 'cut her open' - my birth plan was let doctors decide on interventions - but I think I didn't have confidence to have one last time after hearing a bunch of Doctors laughing about them (they were like how ridiculous they are like we want to cut people don't they know it's to prevent life time incontenance & only done when necessary not for fun....what patient turns up with instructions on which procedures they'll accept if brain surgery goes wrong)! But given how my last birth went I'm going to think through birth plan this time - I think I want to have something down - more for confidence than necessity tbh. Although I'd hate to be cut open (just the thought of it) it just sounds such a nightmare (obv I wouldn't refuse if it was necessary but the idea terrifies me!). I had forceps & ventouse delivery with 1st but no tearing so no stitches required (despite back to back baby) so it's the one bit of my labour I'm quite relieved about but it still worries me for this one.

No idea summer my running tights were seriously straining last night too but not as badly as my t shirt when I was stretching! Might try a size up but some of the women looked so stylish and I looked like a tramp!

After a bit of googling...
www.sportybump.co.uk/
fitandfabulous.co.uk/product-category/maternity-sportswear-2
Ooh you can get "running for two" top

My cousin refused an episiotomy because some research suggests tearing heals better.

Great minds! I've just ordered some trousers from here:

www.maternityfitwear.com/workout-wear-bottoms

Next... the search for maternity tights for tall people, hmm

No help there unfortunately begrudge paying £12 a pair though!

oh my, thats why i prefer exercising at home-1)cheaper, 2) cheaper

Lol mylittle my exercise at home consists of going downstairs to get more snacks

haha) i had loads of ferrero rocher yeasterday, still hate myself for that( i bought my dh a fitbag, which i hopefully will use, he also won exercise ball at work, so we are lucky to have these all plus a treadmill (i try to walk 20-30 mins daily on it)

Bee a small tear does but episiotomys are to avoid severe tearing that can cause life time incontenance - many women suffered before they introduced the method & I'm not sure I'd feel the best placed to judge the situation but these are all personal decisions & I certainly understand not liking the idea of being cut open - it sounds awful :(

I think it's just an example of how out of control you feel, though - they were talking about the strange mindset you go into when giving birth, completely different to how you normally are, and my cousin said the doctor stood next to her with his hands clasped behind his back and she became completely obsessed with the idea that he was hiding a pair of scissors in his hands and was going to do it, anyway!

I think it's terribly easy to get a fixed idea in your head about how things should work out and it can be hard to cope when they go completely 'wrong' = differently.

At home treadmill sounds great, walking in front of the tv! ??

I prefer sleeping in front of the tv...

unfortunately its too heavy to move it around, we placed it under the stairs and i just listen to the radio or mp3)

Bumble, apparently the use of episiotomy to prevent future incontinence is bs. Results of loads of studies when compiled showed they didn't prevent trauma to the pelvis floor or perineum. Results of studies on pp 46-53 in this report archive.ahrq.gov/downloads/pub/evidence/pdf/episiotomy/episob.pdf.

If I was to refuse an episiotomy it would be with this research in mind.

As for home exercise, I bought H a spin bike for Christmas, hopefully we will both get good use out of it once we move into the new house!

So I finally gave in and looked up what an episiotomy is.

Lol summer I had one and it was fine. Stitches were a bit itchy when healing but not painful ever. I was wearing jeans a day later. The doctor was lovely and said he would try not to if not needed but I did need it apparently. And I was much too tired to care by then!

I had an episiotomy with DS. Had a lovely midwife who did a great job with the stitches and I never had a problem. To be honest, if I need another one this time I will be okay with it.
I also know cases of friends who just tear and were absolutely fine too. As everything it is always a bit of a gamble.

I am such a wimp! I never considered a home birth as I feel more "secure" in a hospital environment - if it makes any sense. But really admire those who have natural home births!

liquid my ideal would be to give birth in the mlu and come straight home. The delivery suite was awesome last time, but the post natal ward was every level of hell. Definitely want to avoid that chaos! And seeing as everyone I know is pregnant and due in June I am guessing the wards will be busy again!

I agree Marlena. I stayed 3 nights in a ward with 3 other ladies, and many crying babies! I was then moved to a private room for 6 nights so I could have DS' incubator in my room and that was such a big difference!

MarlenaGru do you mind me asking about postnatal ward? were you in the room with others? what was bad about it? need to prepare for the worst)

I'm thinking of going for the private room option, if it isn't too expensive. But then I'm hoping to go home after about 6-8 hours if possible, so it might not be worth it.