February 2014. Bodystockings at the ready. We make pregnancy sexy.

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Ok we don't. We're sick a lot, cry at adverts, moan about back/hip pain and if we got a quid for each new stretchmark generated we could all give up work and employ a nanny.

In fact if you know any teenagers feel free to show them our threads...we are the most effective contraceptive since sliced bread don't ask.

Ladies...as you were....

Bare, I have that exact experience every day in London, and I've seen others comments on it too. How rude are people? They clock you and then studiously ignore you so they don't have give up a seat. I am minded to take my pram into central London during rush hour when I'm on mat leave. That will teach em! Obviously I won't actually be bothered to do so, plus the pregnancy rage will hopefully have subsided by then!

Unfortunately there are some who have the attitude that 'pregnancy is not an illness' and have absolutely no idea or empathy with how hard it can be. Not always, but mostly people who've never experienced it. Some people are just very hard-faced and selfish.

Personally I'd give up my seat for anybody that said or indicated that they needed it. But I'm a kind soul. I wouldn't be able to cope with a train commute, far too sensitive and easily upset esp when pregnant!!

Have you seen this thread Shrops? Could be the sept puppies thread you were looking for!

Yep, I share your strategy Champagne - pregnancy induced inward rage - rather than actually asking for a seat!

I remember when I was around 7 months pregnant last time and commuting, I was standing and no one offered me a seat and I was obviously pregnant, not just fat! A guy with crutches was the only one who offered me his seat. I said don't be silly, you need it! But he insisted and I felt awful sitting there while he was standing (although I think he got a seat at the next stop!).

It's true, it's not an illness. But at the beginning you can feel sick and dizzy and need a seat, and later on your sense of balance just goes as your bump grows, so train surfing with a bump is not easy!

I've always been too shy to ask for a seat though, and may just rub my belly to get a sympathy seat. But I'm in the North West so can't imagine how awful it would be on the tube.

For me it's not about needing a seat because of my bump, it's because I get dizzy and feel like I might faint. It might be the bump in months to come though!

I'm usually ok on my train as it's a 90 minute journey and I always get a seat on the way there. It's when there are delays and we get kicked off and put on another train, as happened earlier this week.

It is rubbish though, people do ignore the badge or bump, which makes me angry. I remember getting on the tube when I broke my foot, so not weight bearing and with crutches, and no one offered me a seat and I couldn't hold on. I asked someone to give me a seat and he looked most annoyed.

There was a thread about this last year I think. One lady felt really poorly and approached a business man who was sat in one of the priority seats that you're meant to give up if someone needier than you needs it. She told him she was pregnant and feeling very sick hoping he would move, he just looked at get and said 'not my problem love, complain to your husband'

Looked at her. Not looked at get!

Omg that's horrid! I would have said "yes it is because you're in a priority seat and I've asked you to move!" :)
I think the only solution is to go right out and ask people if you can take their seat but agree it's quite a scary thing to do! Although if I was sitting down and someone with a 'hidden' illness or something asked me I wouldn't mind at all. But I might not offer my seat automatically in case they were fine standing if you know what I mean?

Please can someone put a link to the fb group here? :)

I am a country girl and the idea of commuting to work on the tube horrifies me. It's bad enough driving into my little county town and fighting over parking spaces. you are stronger women than I!

Though I have travelled by train a lot with large groups of Guides, and regularly have to ask people to get out of our reserved seats. They don't like it, and they argue, but if I've paid for reserved seats for 30+ ten year olds I can be be quite argumentative and I get my own way :-)

Ok this might be tmi but has anyone else's nipples suddenly expanded/darkened like.....well I don't know what?! Almost had a heart attack when I looked in the mirror earlier. The amount of bio oil I'm slathering on every 5 secs does not seem to be assisting

People who don't give up seats on trains/buses for preggos are clearly twits..

Oh and prelim amnio results came back clear for 3 most common disorders....but got to wait another week or so for the rest....fingers crossed.

Glad to hear the first lot of results are clear Zazou - fingers crossed for the rest. X

Hello pregsters, just caught up on fab new thread. SO exciting to read that we have a new grandma among us!!
Having a lovely holiday and haven't been sick once to my amazement. Baby has been crazy active and DH can now feel from outside which is great. Finally Getting a bump thanks to American portions and no vomit combo!

Great to hear of tests coming back clear zazou, here's hoping for more of the same.

Happy weekend all!

PS here's an idea for commuters. Carry a zip lock bag of veg soup with you. If someone refuses seat, dangle it menacingly near them and say, well, I just really hope Im not sick again as Im all out of bags...

Marzipanned ref veg soup, great idea!

Glad to hear your news Zazou x

Good news Zazou!

Sorry to hear so many of you can't get a seat on the tube! I actually have the complete opposite experience (commuted through London a lot and lived there a few years too) - I have been offered seats countless times, mainly by men, and never been pregnant or in any particular need of a seat, they've just been nice! Perhaps I have looked pregnant?

Morning!

God this commuting talk has got me worried. I currently have an easy 15min bus journey through w.london but that will change to an hour train and tube commute once we move into the new house. Will have to channel my inner 'bitch that takes no shit' to make sure I get a seat! At least it will only be for a few months till mat leave kicks in.

Congrats on the puppy Shrops, what a shock that must have been!

So glad to hear your results were good Zazou

Ooh Champagne you have to share your mothercare shopping decisions! DH won't let me buy anything until we've had the 20 wk scan and moved into the new house. So until then i'll have to get my shopping fix vicariously through you guys!

Have a wonderful Sunday!

zazou good news, I hope the full results come back clear.

Shropshire how is Betty this morning?

harlem I think you're right and you need to ask for a seat of you really need one. I have done twice this pregnancy and had no problems, it's only been once that I didn't answer then felt like a dizzy idiot!

DH and I are off baby shopping today. Ikea and then looking at buggies/car seat combos. We're going to Thurrock so we've a choice of John Lewis, kiddicare, mamas and papas or mothercare. neither DH nor I will have the energy to do ikea and more than one baby shop, so any views on which is likely to be the reasonably priced, helpful and with a good selection?

eeyorish I'd hit John Lewis and find out what you want, then do some serious googling and get them to do a price match.

Betty is still with us, squeaky and tiny. Her Mummy keeps carrying her around which is bothering me, she needs to chill out a bit really. Obvs I'm not going to be an even vaguely neurotic mother.

It's still such a massive shock. We have a big and so fucking expensive you'd cry shooting and fishing holiday at the end of October where we would have taken the dogs but can only take Doug now. And who knows who will look after Lulu and Betty?! AND the dog walker is away all next week. What a palava.

zazou glad to hear first set of results came back ok.

shropshire congrats on your new arrival! Betty is a great name!

Had my spa day yesterday which was lovely, despite not being allowed to use all the facilities (jacuzzi, steam room & sauna). Had 20min back & shoulder massage which I lay on my front for so now I'm anxious I've hurt bean.

20+1 today... not long now!