October 2013 - Anyone remember a time when we weren't pregnant?

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Stats sheet

Key:
SC - still cooking (pre EDD)
SFW - still f*ing waiting (post EDD)
OWT - on way to theatre (CS)
IP - induction in progress
SWIL - somewhere in labour
LIT -lost in transition

Just want to thank everyone for their lovely messages last night. You've all been amazing the last few months and I was so grateful to have you all here to talk to when I had that awful scan with the diagnosis.

moonblues I've never got on with hormonal contraception and when I had a copper coil previously I had awful heavy periods. Condoms aren't even an option because they always give me thrush. If I thought it wouldn't be too much of a risk to my health to have another pregnancy I would put up with the less than desirable side effects though.

MrsO Me and Dp knew we were taking a risk trying for this baby and agreed that I would be stetilised but that was before the heart condition was diagnosed. Ideally don't want to have to go through another op and recovery if I delay being sterilised and even if the worst did happen I'm not sure my body could cope with another pregnancy and c-section. Maybe the best thing to do is ask the surgeon just how bad my womb looks once they're in there and take it from there.

Falcon So happy that breastfeeding is working for you now. I hope I manage it this time.

Tarlia I'm sorry you're one of the unlucky ones who still had wound pain. I hope you're feeling better soon

Pseudo hoping the monitoring goes well.

feminist It might not be long for you now then fx.

Forgot to add Tarlia I hope your scar pain heals and you can get home soon.

Serious tell your landlord it's not good enough, as it isn't to be honest, you are heavily pregnant and shouldn't be expected to be moving out and sleeping in the living room etc, at least he should be offering you some type of compensation, like a rent reduction for the amount of weeks you've suffered disruption. Get tough...are you renting through an agency? Check your tenancy agreement see what that states.

Is anyone else really thirsty at the moment? I can't drink enough water I'm on about 10 glasses a day.

flyer I'm thirsty as anything too! Oh how I wish I had a downstairs toilet is be drinking all day long if I could

serious deffo not good about the house! Your landlord cannot expect u to live like that and must have some kind of legal obligation to put you up elsewhere why the house isn't fit to live in?

falcon good to hear your home and feeding is going well :-)

tarlia sorry to hear your having problems and still suffering, do u have any idea when u will be going home?

Sc @ 37 weeks whoop whoop!! I finally made 37 weeks, now I just need to hold on and anytime from next Monday suits me just nicely lol

P.s after scrolling through our Facebook group last night I had to make an early morning dash after the school run to buy trifle lol

MoN its not an easy decision but you will do what's right by you and your family. So pleased you have found a support network, we have only recently made contact with parents in America who's kids share same diagnosis as DD and it had made things so much easier. A problem shared is definitely a problem halved.

Last night I promised DD we would bake today after we have been to wheelchair clinic for re-assessment. Do you ever wish you had never uttered the "lets bake" words,

mon Don't envy you having to make that decision. It's very brave and responsible of you to consider it. Most couples i know that have done this, it's been the man who has had the op. I think because it's a less complicated procedure for them. Is that a possibility for you and dp if you decide to wait a while or if the surgeon advises against it?

Another thirsty one here. I asked mw today and she said it was common and they haven't picked up any signs of diabetes, which they would have.

Serious it's a huge inconvenience and more to be sleeping in the living room. I agree you should push for a rent reduction.

I actually can't believe I'm 36 weeks tomorrow and could have a home birth next week! Mw is coming on thirsday to do pre- hb visit. I don't feel ready and I do all at the same time. DH and I need to pick up all our click and collects!

Jelly you have inspired me to bake today, it's one thing I'm actually ok at. My parents owned bakeries when we were growing up so it must be where I get my skills from.

A simple Victoria Sponge and some Chocolate and beetroot brownies I shall be attempting.

MrsO The surgeon is very unlikely to advise against it and I have suggested vasectomy to Dp but he's very squeemish. It would be much better if he could get time off work to come to my next appointment with me so we could discuss it together with the consultant but since it took him all his time to get his boss to give him paternity leave that looks unlikely.

I still need to get a lightweight dressing gown for my hospital bag. Does anyone have any recommendations? I think I'm going to order the Boots hooded baby towels too. £15 for a pack of 3. I like the idea of the cuddle-dry towels but at over £30 each I think I'll give them a miss.

falcon glad to hear things are in control
serious you've put with a lot Hope you get some action from your landlord.
tarlia hope your body recovers soon

I've just come back form morning shop with last supply of Clexane (yay!) Interestingly the consultant has advised that I stop taking it 3 days before delivery. They didn't give me a crystal ball to go with that instruction so I guess I just have to fx that Madam arrives on her due date

Dangerously, along with the Spatone, VitC & Gaviscon I bought a 4 pack of YumYums. Somehow there are only 2 left

I can't believe I'm now telling people I have 3 and half weeks left. That sounds so soon!!!!

MoN matalan had some lightweight dressings gowns the other day xxx

Hi all

Glad you're home falcon and willow is feeding well.

serious that's awful, especially with you being heavily pregnant. Hope you are freezing any rent payments until it's sorted...that should make him speed things up :) just what you don't need though.

38+5 here and still cooking. Really hope something happens this week...

pinkforboys something simular happened to me this morning, I brought a trifle and 3/4 of if has bloody dissapeared. I'll have to make the other 1/4 dissapear before dh gets home or I'm not quite sure how I'll explain it lol

mon wishing you all the best whatever decision you make. You're so brave. You're not alone if you do need to vent, moan, get advice etc. on here
I'm also interested in any advice on lightweight dressing gowns. I've seen white waffle ones in a few shops but really want a dark lightweight one (although not a satin one). Not that I'm fussy!

I got up only 30min ago and just eating "breakfast"... is it terrible...??

serious this is unacceptable and totally understand how you feel. We all need stability and some peace and quiet right now, not sleeping in the living room and having builders around. I agree with everyone - you should push your landlord. This is very basic and he needs to fix it asap. For all he knows, you could have this baby today! And I'm not an expert in renting, but why did he rent a house with a boiler that is not fully functioning? Isn't there a clause in the contract that says that all appliances are functional and serviced before you move in? It makes me so angry when I hear about landlords behaving like this and rents are so expensive these days... hope you manage to push him to get things moving

falcon so delighted for you that your milk has come and BF seems to work It's hard to advise really because, after 20min, you don't know if there is still any milk in your boob or she is just sucking for pleasure... I would say - perhaps try to move her to the other boob and see how it goes? Sounds like she is not losing weight so she is getting enough right? I always BFed DS from one boob only at a time as I found it easier and I had a lot of milk, so one was enough. I was also told by one of the NCT counsellors that it's good to empty boobs completely now and then as it prevents mastitis. Saying this, I had mastitis 4 times last time and ended up walking with uneven size boobs and one usually leaking . I really think there are many ways to do it and it's whatever works for you really. It's not an exact science!

tarlia so sorry you are in more pain... and hope it gets better soon. I think we would all want to share it with you if we could to make things easier for you! You've had such a hard time... xxx

pseudo hope your monitoring goes well today!

flyer I'm also constantly thirsty and have read that it's normal - I think we are refreshing out amniotic fluid every 30min or something equally crazy. That's another reason we wee so much. And, if you are planning to BF, prepare yourself to be even more thirsty! I was walking around with a 2l bottle of water at all times.

bowlfull lol at your brown stuff on the toilet paper. Wishful thinking And I would be equally annoyed with my DP - I must say he's been good, especially this morning as he let me sleep, but it's more of my job now to wake up early if needed as he needs to go to work... yes they do but we are heavily pregnant with their babies and we need rest too...

oddlife are you already on FB? I haven't seen you... Has someone already added you? If not, please PM me your real name and description of you profile picture and I will do it today!

Again - sorry if I'm forgetting someone! The speed of this thread is making my head spin sometimes!

Thanks Nat. I'm in town for eldest dd's orthodontic appointment anyway so might walk round to Matalan for a look when we're done.

ah, forgot to say the other day bowlfull - can't believe you've finally packed your hospital bag!! Are you sure it's not too early...??

MoN/MrsO I love the Caro London ones, but they're a bit pricey when not on sale. H&M have got a dark satin kimono in at the mo- only in larger sizes, but that's prob about right to accommodate bump.

I'm supposed to be doing some research for work. Not v successful at the mo.... (clapham yes that is the very same Open House. Glad you enjoyed it last year. I was in amongst the kids activities yesterday and woah, it was busy!)
Off to and procrastinate some more do some work...

Oh how I wish I had a downstairs toilet is be drinking all day long if I could

I read that at first as if you were thinking of drinking out of the toilet Nat preg brain ahoy!

cuille it's not just you! I also had to read it 3 times as first thought Nat wanted to be able to drink from downstairs toilet...

I bought a waffle dressing gown from m&s the other day. I got it in chocolate colour. I also bought some pyjamas they had buy one get one half price on in a lot of the nightwear section.

Here is the link for dressing gown
m.marksandspencer.com/mt/www.marksandspencer.com/Pure-Cotton-Waffle-Dressing-Gown/dp/B004WH17NG?ie=UTF8&ref=sr_1_28&nodeId=43314030&sr=1-28&qid=1379933992&pf_rd_r=0XE4R15348RTWA9Z62WX&pf_rd_m=A2BO0OYVBKIQJM&pf

I've also been baking whilst on maternity leave, glad to get back into it as I haven't done very much throughout the pregnancy.

Yesterday I made Viennese Fingers and Chocolate Whoopie Pies, yum!

Not a great sleep either last night, just very restless these days - feel sorry for DH as I don't want to disturb him especially when he's up for work each morning.

Thanks for the thoughts when I was having my moan this weekend. I've had such a lovely pregnancy but these past few weeks have been awful as I just feel done and really want baby to arrive now but I shall try and enjoy these next few weeks!

Hope everyone is doing well x

Serious Clapham has a point with boilers and rental properties, dp has to have his boilers serviced annually by a registered corgi plumber for his properties to be classed as 'safe to rent out' then they issue him with a certificate to advise they are in good working order. Any that haven't come up to scratch have been condemned and he has to either replace or get it fixed, he is liable as the landlord. I'd ask to see this otherwise he is in breach of contract I would presume. There is a load of new stipulations come out recently regarding boilers and rentals I don't know what they are, but I remember his plumber advising him that he needs to get things changed in one property.

this is lovely flyer - I may have to copy you again and order the same one!

By the way, I'm also thinking about ordering another top from the Seraphine range for the winter - this one: www.seraphine.com/rollneck-jumper-chesnut.html

The only question I have - how does it work if you want to BF from the other boob, not the one where the buttons are... I'm not entirely clear... or am I just a bit slow and not getting it?

also like this one: www.seraphine.com/grey-cable-knit-crossover-nursing-jumper.html

They are both lovely, I see what you mean with the roll neck though how would you get your other boob out? haha, not the best design.

I like this one saw it the other week but it seems to be out of stock at the moment.

www.mothercare.com/Blooming-Marvellous-Maternity-Grey-Marl-Crossover-Knit-Jumper/LZ6282,default,pd.html

Not looked at asos for bf clothes must do that today...much to dp's dismay

Need to get on, I have baking to do and a pile of Washing to sort out. I wish I had a full time house keeper