October 2013 - Countdown to D-Day!

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Baby due dates/sexes/name choices here

Legally I really like the look of those nursing bras, gonna head to John Lewis later and try them on.

WRT leaking boobs, I also have not had the pleasure. The lady last night told us that your body is making colostrum as we speak, but what generally happens is it doesn't start to flow until your placenta is delivered. Another interesting fact is that the bumps on your areola secrete something from them and the smell is the same as your amniotic fluid, so this is how why your baby goes to latch as it recognises the familiar smell....full of interesting bf facts here today

Erm, hello ladies.
I've hit 30 weeks today and finally accepted that DC2 is definitely on her way (DS is almost 6 so it's been a rocky journey!) and I need to get my head into the world of births. What better way than to chat to other October expectants- can I join you?
Anyone else in North London?

I have ordered a if those bras too legally,you should get commission!

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Welcome pink and Kelly!

Welcome Kelly and Pink for boys...plenty of room on the October bus, we are a chatty bunch.

Welcome new people - we're a busy old bus!

Thanks for the reassurance too, over leaky boobs. I didn't think it mattered, that nature would take its course, which is why the mw advising massage surprised me. I'll do the massage anyway, but try not to stress if it has no results.

I watched the bump to breastfeeding dvd, yesterday. Suddenly overcome by how real this is all getting.

Oh, and ((hugs)) Tarlia - hope the meds help and your lo stays put and healthy for many weeks yet x

Hi Kelly & Pink! Welcome (and all the other new ladies I missed).

roxvox - thanks for the link, I've sent that off to my HR asking if I can add the 2 days to my annual leave this year. I'd booked a 3 week holiday before I knew I was pregnant so I'm really short on annual leave now.

I'm 30wks today and really happy about it, 3/4 of the way there now!

Funny how many people are mentioning rows, I wonder if it's something to do with the stage we're all at? A few days ago DH commented on how 'normal' I'd been, which was shortly followed by a row over me reading over his shoulder , I went to to bed in a huff and cried myself to sleep too. I can look back on it now and it was a combination of feeling sidelined at work, DH snapping at me, tiredness, hormones and feeling that we're not ready for the baby at all. I got a good nights sleep last night for the first time in ages and feel back to usual today.

legally - those bra's look amazing, thanks!

Tarlia - there's absolutely nothing you could have done to prevent PE, so don't beat yourself up about it. If it's any help, when my mum had me, she didn't actually know she had PE until the doctor brought students round to her bed afterwards and went 'this is the lady with PE'. She was a bit stunned. So with the drugs they can give you, you might not be affected much at all hopefully.

to anyone I've missed who's not feeling great...

Oh Nat I'm so sorry, I meant to say good luck today and I hope you get the answers you want!

Ha ha "orange"... Wearing it today for the first time.... Total bliss!

Kelly - welcome from the other thread! I am 33 weeks now, so feel v lucky to have made it this far as 32 weeks was the goal!

Good luck today Nat. I was chatting to DH last night and apparently he was born with an abnormally large head (something they did not realise until after the birth as the technology wasn't as advanced in those days), and he never had any implications as a result.

I seem to sleep quite well every other night, so last night was a good nights sleep but I have woken up with a trapped nerve in my groin which is sending shooting pain down the inside of my left thigh. It's pretty sore, but not as extreme as sciatica which I am prone to generally, but have only suffered from a few times so far this pregnancy.

Welcome to the newbies! Kelly and pinkforboys - if you'd like to add yourselves to our stats sheet then it would be lovely to have you join us on there

I thought amniotic fluid peaked at 28 weeks Nat, but I could be wrong . Also good luck today!

Welcome Kelly and Pink.

Those 1st timers that haven't had any leakage, agree with everyone don't worry, I don't think it makes a blind bit of difference to your ability to breastfeed. Did want to say though that if you are trying to get some out, you need to be squeezing your boob, not your nipple - so sort of cup around around the aerola (sp?) and squeeze in towards your nipple. Sorry if that's obvious, I just remember that I had not a clue how all of this worked before DS. I was astonished when I realised the milk came out of lots of different holes, not one jet out of the middle .

roxvox - woohoo! My HR got back to me so I've got 2 extra days now, thanks! :-D Really wish that they'd give you a pamphlet on employment rights when you go to your booking in appointment!

Woohoo! Well done sparkeleigh that 2 days seems to have made all of the difference to my 'time left at work' countdown!

I never had any leaking with ds and don't this time either. I get colostrum if I squeeze though . T doesn't make a difference to feeding capability I'm sure.
Just going to have a mil rant. So, she offered to look after ds this afternoon so I could have a rest. I'm really really tired and I do practically everything on my own as DH isn't home from work until late. I'm heavy now and tired and my back hurts constantly and i could just do with a hand. So she offered to have him and has just text to say she has pulled a muscle and can't take him. I have only ever asked her twice to look after him and both times she's let me down. I was up at midnight, 3 and 4.30 with ds last night so am shattered and DH has invited people over tonight. So, instead of having a little lie down I am now going to have to go and sodding well make a pudding and prep supper for everyone tonight and all I want to do is crawl into bed cry and then sleep. Not sure how a pulled muscle stops her from wheeling him to the park and feeding the ducks but never mind. I'm not going to bother asking her again she clearly doesn't want to help me

Hello new joiners - Pink, all being well, I'll have a similar age gap to you (my DC1 will be 7 in December) and it is only recently that I've started to dare to believe that DC2 may actually arrive (we've also had a long and bumpy journey to get to this point).

31 weeks +4 today and I haven't had any boob leakage whatsoever (didn't have any with DD either) and I had bucket loads of milk once it came in. I didn't manage to successfully breast-feed but it was definitely not a supply issue (it was literally dripping onto the floor).

Have had a 'challenging' morning with DD. First of all, she breaks down into a combination of tears and a tantrum at trampolining because she couldn't do one of the activities and got all frustrated at herself. Ironically it was actually meant to be a special fun treat/game because it was the last session! Then, in gymnastics, she fell awkwardly during the warm-up and ended up having to leave early with a sore ankle.

She is now on the sofa all miserable because she didn't get to practice her backwards roll.

I know babies are blinkin hard work but their needs seem refreshingly simple at this moment!

Oh Shooting I really feel for you, that sounds a hellish night.

How utterly gutting to think you're going to get a much needed break only to have the offer of help withdrawn at the last moment.

Even if she has pulled a muscle, unless it is terrible, couldn't she at least come around and play with DS in the lounge whilst you have a sleep/tackle the food prep.

Is it too late to cancel tonight? Could you just order food in?

Shooting I was going to say what Bridget has just said, do you have a nice restaurant nearby that will do a take out for you? Maybe get a nice ready made pud from Marks & Sparks? If dp sprung that on me at the moment I'd say fine but he would need to cook.

Thanks bridget I just feel a bit hormonal and let down and being so tired doesn't help. I'm not going to ask her to come round although I'm sure she could manage that. Have decided that mr marks and mr spencer can take care of tonight's cooking so am going to bundle ds into re car shortly and after we've done that I'm going to take him to soft play where hopefully some other babies will entertain him so I can at least have a cuppa.

In the circs, would bought pudding not do, Shooting? I'm sure no-one would mind.

Cross post flyer!! M and s are going to do all the food tonight and I'm going to treat myself a wine!

Thats a pain. A pudding I have done the last three times we have had people over because I can't be bothered to spend ages cooking in the heat is sundaes with a ready made box of chocolate brownies, a ready made raspberry coulis, ready made ice cream and some strawberries and raspberries all layered up.

I am back from a three hour round trip to collect the chair and footstool I bought on ebay. Now I need to pack for our holiday but a tired out from the drive so am going to have a but of rubbish tv gazing time.

bowlful its possible we are both correct then? Reaches its peak at 28 weeks then gradually declines until birth? Xx

Oh Orange sitting down in front of daytime tv is a risky strategy ... it could be hours before you move again.

Shooting I'm glad you've decided to let Mr Marks and Spencer take the strain - I'm sure your guests won't mind a jot or even notice. Just get DH to keep the wine and conversation flowing (you deserve a quiet doze at the table)

DP's mum rang. It turns out that DP's nephew (21) is going to become a father in Jan/Feb. This is in addition to DP's niece (19) expecting her first in December.

I am now feeling positively ancient at 36 and DP is feeling very odd about becoming a 2nd time Dad when his younger sister is about to become a Grandma two-times over.

The strange thing is, even though DP and I are objectively in far, far, more stable circumstances, D'Mil' seems rather put out about our baby. Because DNiece announced her pregnancy first, it's almost like she thinks I've copied her and jumped on the baby bandwagon even though I'm actually due 2 months before her!

It doesn't really matter because we live miles away and have minimal involvement with DP's family, but it's all very odd.