October 2013 - Countdown to D-Day!

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I don't get paid for bank holidays as it is written into my contracr to work them, very unfair I think!

Rox I also sold my soft top car a few months ago, hardly ever had the roof down but still i was sad to see it go. I part ex'd it for a sensible 5 door golf tdi, which i love. It's nice having a big boot and a none gas guzzling car.

I have another NCT session tonight. Breast feeding workshop, it's bad but I really can't be bothered to go. I hope it's better than saturday.

Well done Mr Roofio! A nice treat.

Just got an email back from the children's centre day nursery on my school's site, their nursery costs £48 a day and there is no one on the waiting list for next September yet. My sister tells me that is loads cheaper than other nurseries and childminders in the area even though it isn't a special deal for school staff. It is in a very deprived area so I don't imagine it is very popular with those who can afford the nicer kingston areas but it might be a good choice for me and would avoid extra travelling. I am not sure that I want to go back at all but good to start thinking of my options.

Hope it is better than last time flyer, that is the nct class I am most looking forward to as I want to make sure I have had all the help and preparation I can get with bf.

flyer we didn't use our's enough to justify it really. Only ever took it out on dry days, and only doing a few thousand miles a year. My current car is a 3 door small hatchback, so I would love a 5 door Golf or something, but DH would like me to get something bigger so we can utilise it for all of our needs. For that reason I am looking at an estate of some sort. DH is looking at people carriers! (Which I have said is a bit excessive when, for the majority of it's use it will just be me and 1 baby). Anyway, we will see

smitten I was fortunate enough to not have to prove it to my boss; I just said that the midwife had queried whether I get them (this was a lie, but I didn't want to say I had read it on a forum!) and I wasn't sure so thought I would ask her (my boss) , she then did some research into it along with the accountant for the company (we don't have an HR department) and they approved it... I did look it up first though and what bowlfull says is what I came up with too, that if you normally have paid leave for bank holidays, then it would be unfair to not pay you your full pay for those days whilst you are on maternity leave, and therefore the most straightforward thing to do is to give them to you as annual leave. DH's company apparently gives you a percentage of your pay for those days instead or something

smitten I do not know how official this site is, but it might help - link

What it says (I have cut it up to include the main bits);
The Employment Rights Act provides that a woman is entitled to all her terms and conditions during both the ordinary and additional maternity leave periods, apart from remuneration, as though she was at work ... a woman must be able to take her annual leave at a time outside her maternity leave. Bank holidays are effectively a fixed day's leave and it is believed that this principle should therefore be applied in such cases.

Oh forgot to say well done mr roofio too, send him round to mine when he's done please

Great news bowlFul a glass of something tonight to celebrate your windfall.

rox I only have dd just now and have a Renault scenic (5 seater) I love the room in it! (Only had a ka until dd was a year old!) and next year I'm going to get a 7 seat zafira. Dh has a Megane convertible at the moment and although its a four seater because he's 6'2" there is zero room behind his seat. So as a family we ALWAYS go out in mine. Grrrr!

roofio cert impressed with your dp! I just said, think I'm going to sort out dds room and sort out her clothes that don't fit. Because I feel like it... His reply "can't you feel like cleaning the kitchen?" Cheeky b! I told him to do it bit he's gone for a lie down hmm* being pregnant must be so tiring for him!

Well I went sainsbos to get dd some trousers for school but they didn't have her size so I spent £80 on baby, clothes for dd, some post natal pyjamas for hosp bag long with some maternity pads bd breast pads. My hospital bg is officially started!

I think my DH is more like bowful's than roofio's...but he is getting so much better now I look and 'behave' more pregnant than I used to.

I really enjoyed our NHS breastfeeding class, much more than I thought I would.

We have a scenic too, Haylebop. It is a nice spacious car, and have found it great in pregnancy as you climb up into the seat rather than having to squash yourself down into the seat as you have to in more sporty cars.

(Ps check us out, bunch of ladies discussing cars on an Internet forum :-) )

Grr! I have had a very trying day at work indeed - someone has set their phone to whistle every time they get an email, so about once evey 5 minutes, one partner has spent the day telling me things to deal with things I have already done if he'd bothered to read the effing paperwork and generally behaving as if I were fresh out of graduate school rather than with 7 years experience under my belt and another has got huffy with me because a third partner has failed to do something in time.

Normally I would have gone to the pub and worked my way through a few glasses of wine but if course that's not going to happen!

Thanks for all the info guys. I spoke to my HR friend and she said that they do have to pay you bank hols and also if you get any bonuses you should get paid those too. Not sure they'll go for the bonuses but I'll try.

Talking of cars I think we're swapping my 3 door Polo for a 5 door Golf of the same age. I love the size of my car and that it has a small bonnet so I can park easily.

I'd be happy to keep the Polo as I think it's fab but I think I'll struggle to get the car seat out and later a wriggly baby out of a 3 door and DH's car isn't Isofix compatible or we'd swap - argh! Really can't be bothered with the hassle of getting and selling cars.

Wow this thread moves fast! I can't keep up. I did nct classes first time which I didn't love but I made good friends who I still see 5 years later. No refresher courses near me but I did an nhs class on Tuesday -I felt like an idiot as only not-new parent there AND only one on my own as dh was babysitting but I think I'll give it one more try next week.
Roofio your oh sounds amazing, mines normally not bad but he works full time and on call, one of his days off I work so he has the boys and he is just finishing his masters too so doesn't have any free time to help round the house. It actually looks like we've been burgled today but I'm shattered and having contractions again so we'll just have to deal with the mess.

roofio, that sounds lovely, he's a keeper!
natalie, how are you feeling now? Have you spoken to anyone?

We don't have a car just now, so I can't join in with the car chat. My last one was a convertible though so I understand how much you'll miss it.

Good news, bad news at the scan today. The good news was that everything is looking, and measuring, absolutely fine. However, I asked the consultant if there would be any impact on how much past my due date they'd be comfortable with me going (because the danger is placenta failure, so the longer I go the more chance there is). She said that, in the unlikely event I get that far, they'd be inducing me around my due date. So firstly, theyre expecting something to go wrong before 40 weeks, and secondly, even if it doesn't I'm unlikely to avoid induction . I know getting the baby out safely is the priority but I really didn't want an induction.

I'm now thinking 37 weeks is too late for me to finish work, they're going to love that little piece of news on Monday!

U chatty lot!

How exciting about starting your hospital bag haylebop x

Car wise I have an 05 plate focus. It definately wouldn't accommodate 3 car seats but luckily I will only have 2 children and has a decent enough boot and I've got the babystyle oyster buggy so should fit nicely in there, dh hates it for no apparent reason but he drives a brand new corsa that he has from work we've had out car since feb and he's probly driven all of 60 miles in it since then so I don't care if he hates it tbh lol

Sorry to those not enjoying their Ante natal classes, I've never been to one before so can't offer any tips or advice

Wanna swap dh's roofio? Mine has bathed dd this eve and ill kick him off the sofa in a min to fetch me a fruit pastille ice lolly which will wash down my shepards pie lol. That's about as much activity as I will probly get out of him today.

Sorry for cross post soup. I decided not to harass the hospital and wait for Monday when I see my midwife as me and her have a great relationship and I no she will answer all my questions to the best of her ability and hopefully have a telepathic ability to guess what the squiggles in my notes mean as to me they are un readable lol.

I no how u feel for not getting the plan u would have liked for your birth (possibility of induction) but right now id give my right arm for an induction instead of c section

Plus legally I can't remember if I responded to u earlier when u asked why I'm so against a c section? I can't give a definitive answer to be honest cos I don't really no why but the thought of a c section absolutely petrified me, the stitches the recovery risk of infection just literally everything involved with it, I worked on labour ward briefly when I worked at the hospital and assisted in a c section from the bottom end and I have to say it was a truly gruesome experience (sorry to those having a c section I don't mean to cause offence its just personal preference) xx

Lol, I'd prefer an elective section to an induction! Both are far from my ideal, but induction terrifies me.

Thanks everyone. I think part of dealing with the crazy physical changes in pregnancy is learning to accept how little control I have. I expect that's something I need to learn before giving birth and dealing with the surprises of motherhood.

I've come to the conclusion that I'll eat when I want and stop worrying. I did a lot of research today and I'm reassured about the lack of weight gain. I also spoke to a diabetes specialist nurse who was shocked that

Sorry posted too early.

She was shocked that clinical decisions would be made based on urine ketones. They're "old ketones" and not necessarily reflective of bloods. Somehow that conversation made me feel better than any other. My urine ketones were normal about 1-2 hours after that initial test.

Also congrats sanjion the ogtt results.

roofio your dp sounds lovely.

Natalie and soupqueen I hope you guys have safe that births that are as close to your wishes as possible.

Excitement! Just did some shopping after finishing work early (early for me .. i.e 5.30) and have discovered the best nursing bras ever! From John Lewis, called Bravado the body silk seamless nursing bra. I have tried loads after bf DD for so long... Def the best. And they come in s, m, l or xl, so less trouble to order without trying on...

Soup sorry to hear your news - im sorry ive forgotten why you are at risk of placenta previa?? I have my fingers crossed firmly crossed that you go into spontaneous labour at 39+4. Just like to say, I had an induction last time, 3hours from first twinge to baby with positive outcome - no drugs, just oxygen, so totally manageable.

My appointment was both good and bad news today too. Baby is estimated at a perfect 1.8kg so average for gestation. However, it's me they are worried about as I now officially have pre-eclampsia. Still at home, but we've started medication. Fingers crossed I can stay home and keep baby in for many more weeks to come. I feel like I've failed again.

Who was it was the amazing DH? legally? Whoever it was, good for him! Tell him all the thread ladies would like to borrow him for the day :P

So sorry there are lots of worries today again. These tiny babies can cause such can cause such huge emotions.

Oooh and sanj congrats on your fab news from the GTT!!

Soup try not to worry too much about an induction. I was induced with DD and it was a really good experience. It was calm and I was well informed and in control. I spent a long time im the hospital bath which the midwife put lavender oil into, and had a v active birth (lots of bouncing on ball) apart from the hourly or so monitoring of the baby's heartbeat (which was lovely and reassuring). It was tricky at the end as I had a long pushing stage and had an episiotomy, but I was fine on just gas and air throughout. It was really positive and I wish I hadn't bothered worrying about being induced!!!

tarlia, you absolutely have not failed. I'm really sorry the news isn't better, but you have not failed!

My blood test results at 12 weeks had abnormally low Papp A and high HCG so heightened risk of placenta failure.

legally, do they give a size estimate of the cup sizes that each size covers? They sound like lovely bras.