October 2013 - wobbling and sweating through the last trimester

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Baby due dates/sexes/name choices here

So glad all is ok Flyer!!

Glad all is well with you flyer - how scary for that lady. I really must start carrying my notes and getting organised....

Feel terrible today as didn't get to sleep until gone 2.30am and then up at 6am with DS. DP and I started bickering at bedtime about what he was been feeding DS this week, and the row then escalated to him being an irresponsible moron with no regard for the consequences of his actions, and me being a neurotic controlling bitch. He stormed off to the front room leaving me fuming/tearful in bed for hours. Graa! I fear I may have been slightly hormonal and over the top, but after specifically asking DP not to feed DS crap all week, and filling the house with healthy food, fruit, homecooked meals in the freezer, yesterday DS had jam on toast for breakfast, a cake for snack, fish, rice and veg for lunch (one I prepared earlier), crisps in the afternoon, then an ice lolly, then a sandwich and crisps for his dinner. Thats crap isn't it - or am I just being dramatic?

And have long meetings today at work with a real pain in the arse sales manager who is going to attempt to blame my team for his team not meeting their target.

Sorry for moan - feel better now

Well, yes Bowl that isn't great, but its one day. So you're both right

Never mind, today is a fresh start.

It is pretty crap Bowl.... Sometimes DS gets similar at the childminders (if she's being pestered by the after school kids and then DS wants some too) and I inwardly seethe. I would outwardly seethe at DP though :o

Bowful, I'd probably have a rant too at my DP, but only because I often need to get a grip and be less uptight about things!

I do tend to have a go at him without realising that I would have given myself a break in the same circumstances... (I'm thinking specifically of such HotSoup-mandated offences such as leaving shoes around the house)

Flyer - good you are well, and very reassuring that the NHS took your concerns seriously. Although you mentioning that lady makes me a bit scared about my lack of preparation! (quickly adds 'maternity pads' to the supermarket list...)

I think I'll be washing baby clothes beforehand. Probably because it's the PFB and I've got time. I can imagine giving up after a while! But it is true that the clothing industry treats the fabrics with all sorts of crap to make them stay crease-free and look good. And my secondhand ones smell of someone else's home/baby/washing liquid, and I want my baby to smell of us!

Not the best day of food but it could be worse i guess. My dh is even worse if he takes dd down in the morning ill say what did she have for breakfast his reply is usually a biscuit and shared my cereal and by shared he means about 4 spoonfuls.

Have really let dd's behaviour slip alot recently and it really is getting to me she doesn't do naughty things like smack kids or draw on walls or break toys etc she just has a rediculous amount of attitude refuses to do anything I ask and cries about literally everything and she's almost 3. Wish my luck, cos I'm gunna need something short of a miracle to get me trough the next few days.

I only have one pack of nappies so far and they r tesco ones I think off the top of my head x

Asda nappies are very good......I bought loads in different sizes when they had their last baby event.

I washed all of the babies stuff in non bio and baby baby comfort softener. It all smells so yummy now. You just don't know who has touched it or sneezed all over it while its been in the supermarket or being transported.

For drinks in my hospital bag, I've put in loads of Capri sun drinks. They have a straw so I can drink it lying down and because they are in a foil pouch, I have squeezed them down into crevices in my bag and they dont take up too much space.

Glad you have the all clear flyer Poor lady at 28 weeks but as i have said before this is when I was born I was in hospital for a month and it was very traumatic for my DM but I have no lasting issues at all and this was 1984 so I am sure things have improved in neonatal care since then too and baby might not be in so long.

Feeling overwhelmed at the hospital bag situation but i have a list so it might be ok! I plan to use Gnappies so I will buy there newborn starter set :)

haha - wicked, I misread your post at first and thought you said you "squeezed them down in your cervix"! Then I read slowly again...

bowlfull have you guys been eavesdropping on our arguments with DP?? "irresponsible moron not thinking about consequences" and "control freak bitch" - yes, I believe both of them have been used, and in a very similar context :-) A lot of our arguments are about food or DP's drinking (he never actually gets drunk but I just think he drinks too much for his health). I am very health conscious and he is not... and his mother is even worse. I would react exactly the same as you! I really believe that these early years are super important as we develop their eating habits for life and can teach their taste buds what to like! I also hate DS going to the holiday club. His school is really healthy and their school lunches are great (they are a trust school so have more independence and money to spend on food etc) But the holiday club is a different matter and they have kids from many nearby schools there. A real mix. So he often comes back complaining that everyone else had crisps and chocolate in their lunch box and he didn't. Very difficult to reason with a 5 year old who feels wronged and deprived of chocolate... Hope I don't sound like a snob but I really believe we are what we eat...

flyer so happy you and the baby are OK! How scary about the other ladies... I'm well paranoid now about DP going to HK in September!! It's a reminder to all of us that it can really happen anytime now... BUT I've seen so many great stories around me. My close friend had her twins at 27 weeks. They are 5 now and both perfectly OK - full of energy, healthy, bright and doing really well at school. You would never know. And DS goes to school with twins born at 31 weeks and again - they are perfect. Personally, I find it so reassuring but hope all our babies will stay inside for a few more weeks... I've been thinking about crookie a lot recently... I really hope all is good with her.

re: nappies, I used Pampers with DS and planning to use them again. Strange, I never noticed any particular smell! Need to smell them again now :-)

Haha, thanks for the comments ladies - I do know that for one day it really doesn't matter, and I'm not a food nazi, DS does get treats on a fairly regular basis. It's more DP doesn't see this as a one off bad day of food, he would quite happily feed DS that crap everyday. But probably do need to hand myself a grip .

30 weeks and my get up and go has got up and gone - roll on October!

wow falcon I forgot you are our own early delivery success story!

and bowlfull re: your meeting, sales teams ALWAYS blame other teams for not meeting their targets :-) I get it pretty much every quarter! Part of life

Cross post Clapham - yes sounds very similar! I doubt I am as healthy as you from your previous posts, but am very conscious of getting a balanced diet and especially ensuring that DS does. If we are out and about for the day I won't stress about him having crap - but will make sure he is getting something nutritious as well as the treats, and then having a super healthy few days afterwards. DP doesn't care, and doesn't seem to think it matters. Mind you, when I met him and he was living in a flat share his weekly shopping was lager, tins of tuna and pepperami's, so I suppose I should have known .

And yes it's par for the course I know - but feeling particularly short tempered today and really don't want to end up telling him to fuck off, especially as my boss is in the meeting. Ho hum.

First day of the holidays yay! My lie in lasted until about 3am then 6am. i think i will try afternoon naps instead.

I am really achey after taking down my classroom displays and emptying out boxes last night. I got DH to come home early from work to help me with lifting and a couple of colleagues carried boxes to the car too, but still think I overdid the bending, stretching and standing. Very glad I booked my pregnancy massage for this afternoon!

Going to lunch with my friend and god daughter (15 months) first and having a very lazy morning looking at baby names lists online for inspiration. It seems all the names I like are in the top 50. Oh well we will have a common baby!

Clapham, the children who have only cake/chocolate for their lunches don't do very well in the afternoons at school. It is supposed to be banned at our school except for Fridays but there isn't a lot you can do when they don't have anything else other than give a bit of fruit. I have had to have a word with a few parents and give out a list of healthy suggestions which I hate doing as it often doesn't go down well! E.g when lunch is regularly just a bag of maltesers, or 4 cupcakes, or two slices of cake with chocolate spread as a sandwich, plus an extra slice cake. Another child regularly scoffs a few rushed pringles at the classroom door as 'breakfast' and then doesn't have a very good morning.

I have also had two children in my year one class over the last two years who have had to have all of their teeth pulled out and many with rotten orange/brown/ black/ crumbling/infected teeth? Your son with thank you for the decent lunch boxes one day!

Bowlful your DS had a decent lunch and a sandwich, and one day won't hurt as others have said, it takes long term neglect to cause the sorts of teeth I see. But I am a big believer in giving children (and adults) good food so I don't think you were being unreasonable to be a bit annoyed, especially as you had bought healthy foods.

I used / will use Naty baby care nappies, then washables. Once DD was one and DH took over, we switched to pampers, as they are the best for big wees once the baby is that age! For newborns though, I couldn't do pampers.... The chemical stink plus occasional chemical crystal explosion was too foul for me!!!

Oh, and meant to say... When I had my stitch at 24 weeks, the lady in the room next to me (I was on labour ward - own rooms) had PROM (ie waters breaking) at 25.5 weeks and was contracting every 4 mins... V scary at that stage. Getting beyond 30 weeks is really good... We're all doing great!

Thanks orange and your stories sound really scary... Gosh - it must be so awkward having to talk to parents about it... I really don't envy you this part. I can only imagine some reactions you get. DS's school doesn't allow (informally as they can't disallow formally) packed lunches in Reception. Probably for this reason? So all children eat school lunches. Then it's optional from Year 1 onwards but I believe a vast majority of children do school lunches there. I never see any children carrying packed lunches on the way to school. It's only afterschool and holiday clubs that give junk. However, I'm planning to be a SAHM for a bit once DS2 is born so not stressing about it too much as I know it's temporary.

And.... (sorry) re getting stuff ready, I would realistically expect that you might well need it all done from 34 weeks....

"For newborns though, I couldn't do pampers.... The chemical stink plus occasional chemical crystal explosion was too foul for me!!!"

That's exactly it!!

Errrr, what's this about Huggies no longer being sold in the UK and Ireland?

www.boots.com/en/Mother-Baby/Nappies-Wipes/Huggies-Nappies-Discontinued/

I was told Huggies were the best nappies, balls!

Back from the hospital and all fine - green light for a vaginal delivery. As I suspected there wasn't a great deal to say, and though she was lovely it was clearly not her area of expertise, so I was very surprised she wants to see me again in 6 weeks

Flyer pleased all is ok with you and baby.

Can't remember which nappies we used when DD was small. When she was older we stuck to pampers active fit as they were by far the best fit for her body shape (very round tummy). I remember we tried loads of different brands but we ended with leaks in all sorts of places.

It's true very sadly :( They couldn't cope with not being market leader. It's very interesting how opinion on nappies polarises - people who love Huggies, love them (like me). People who hate them, hate them!
My suggestion would be to go to places that are running their stock down (my Waitrose still has them, and some Boots) and buy them up.

Glad all is ok flyer! As for premature births, DH has regularly taken to telling baby to 'stay in there for a little bit longer please!' when I am getting braxton hicks or baby is being particularly active.

Reading through your discussions about what your children eat has got me thinking about what I have been eating lately. I think I really need to cut back on the sugar (she says, tucking into a chelsea bun). I haven't been putting on more than a pound a week and the midwife seems happy with the baby's development, but I know that I have too much fruit, orange juice and chocolate. I might download that Fitness Pal app and try to monitor what I am eating in the hope it will encourage me to cut back on the sugary stuff.

All I want to eat is sugar and carbs though. Vegetables and salad do absolutely nothing for me at the minute.