Graduated elderberries - 30+ and looking forward to DC1! (Thread 6)

[HazleNutt]

Oh, looks like I wrote the last post! So new thread here where we will see more berry babies and hopefully loads more graduates as well.

Haha. Second all the comments on this new job!
Had my 10 day mw app today and baby has put on 7oz from birth weight. I've been told that us excellent and I should be proud. Obviously spending the whole day attached to my boob is working well for her lol

That's good news Lol I find that all the ridiculously long feeding sessions and sore nipples are much more bearable when you find out you're getting a decent weight gain.

Elodie has been a right PITA today - she just won't be put down. Every time she goes to sleep I try every cunning way possible of putting her down but as soon as I do the little monkey wakes up and starts whingeing. I really hope this is a new trick she doesn't keep up. But she's also given me a couple of lovely big gummy smiles so I'll let her off just this once.

Have any of you other postnatal ladies dared to DTD yet? After an episiotomy the thought of it makes my eyes water, but I have to concede I am not really in any pain any more so I can't put it off much longer and wonder if we we should give it a try very slowly with gallons of lube. DH isn't expecting it yet but it's our anniversary on the 17th so it would be nice to be able to surprise him with a celebratory shag.

That's exactly how I feel. Especially after a night last night - she must have spent more than half the time attached to one boob or the other! I'm knackered this morning.
Re dtd- the only thing I did is start to think about contraception. What are you doing about that!? Dh doesn't want to risk another one so soon if ever so that needs to be sorted first. I'm considering going back on the pill. What's people's thoughts on that?
Cav I think if its been 6 weeks you may give it a go? If all else fails guy can give him an anniversary blow job and I'm sure he will be happy

That should pass Lol, Elodie sleeps from 9pm until 6am now and wakes up generally twice and sometimes 3 times for 20 min feeds and then straight back to sleep. I know at the time you feel it will never end though.

I'm not a fan of hormonal contraception - I had a copper coil pre-TTC which I liked so I think I will have another one put in as soon as I can. Not sure when that will be though, i've got 6 week check on the 20th so I will ask and I suppose any action before then will be with horrible condoms. I'm sure DH will eagerly accept anything I can offer after his recent drought.

haven't been brave enough to dtd yet, but I don't have issues with hormonal contraception, so have a prescription for pills that I should go pick up. We will probably want a second one quite soon, not getting any younger, so would not go for any 5-year methods at the moment.

I did go to my first bodypump class though. Not so bad as I thought it would be, but I still expect to be in a lot of pain tomorrow. Baby had of course just slept the whole time. And yes lol it will hopefully get easier for you as well, Victor slept from 9 to 8 last night with 2 brief feeding breaks.

Haven't DTD here, I'd be up for giving it a go but OH hasn't shown any interest no bloody change there then, it's a bloody miracle I ever managed to get pregnant

Can I ask the new mums what you actually do all day? I'm pushing the vacuum cleaner listlessly around the house while the washing dries...again...my life has turned into the most tedious groundhog day imaginable, I may be just a matter of days from losing my mind, any suggestions?

I haven't DTD either. My bleeding only finished two days ago though. I'd also be up for it. Not sure how attractive DP finds my weirdly spongy stomach though!

I'm impressed you've managed to get any housework done. When I've been on my own I've really struggled to leave the sofa! I have just arranged a weekly meet with the NCT girls, so that's weds lunch sorted. Apart for that I'm thinking of going to some baby type classes despite things like that putting the fear of god in me. I've also had a few lunches with friends and intend to do lots more! Now I can drive there'll be no stopping me ;)

Hmmm, Purple that's a good question as I'm not entirely sure what I do all day. One minute it's 6am, the next DH is getting in from work and I seem to have done bugger all in between some days (except keeping a small human being alive).

I make a point of going out at least once a day, whether it be just taking the dog out or to the shops for a walk, but it gives me a reason to get washed and dressed otherwise I suspect I would sit around in my PJ's all day if I hadn't got anything planned total slob. I guess I'm lucky that I have a few friends who are also on ML so we idle our time away together, but I get what you're saying and can easily see me going a bit stir crazy if I'm stuck in for a few days.

Everything is such a mammouth task with a baby - just going to the supermarket for some bits suddenly involves forward planning to predict when she'll next be hungry, loading the pram into the car and trying not to forget the adaptors for the travel system because you can't rely on there being a special trolley free which you can attach the car seat to. FFS all I want is a few bits and it's like packing for a weekend away!

I popped into work on Monday to drop some receipts off. It was lovely to see everyone and I have to admit I thought for the first time how much I am missing it and how much things have changed (well, the people I am, can't say I'm missing the actual work much).

It was a race to see who would be first to give birth, and now it's a race to see who'll be brave enough to DTD first. I'm aiming for our anniversary on the 17th. Now I'm expressing I might even get a babysitter for a few hours so we can go for a meal. That will be a novelty just the two of us.

Lol apparently they have crazy nights between days 3-5 and 7-10... Horatio was awful then, I nearly lost my sanity. Now at day 15 he is much easier to settle. We generally get a 3-4 hour sleep followed by a couple of 1-2 hour intervals at night.

It makes me mad how much breastfeeding is sold as this utopia but no one tells you about the first couple of weeks being so so tough.

Unsurprisingly no thoughts of dtd here yet but I am feeling surprisingly horny. Pragmatically the thought of going near the epi wound terrifies me but I am hormonally up for it. Weird.

Desperate to avoid hormonal contraception, hate the invasive nature of the coil but we cannot afford a number two until number one is at school so may have to just suck up the humiliation in the interim :(

What news from the pg berries? I keep getting strangelyjjealous of pg bumps... think it's because a part of me still wishes I'd had a different birth experience? God knows why as it's pretty pointless now!

Ooh a dtd date Janey! How exciting and brave!

I'm so glad we had a really lovely dtd sesh in week 39. Will keep me tied over til I get the all clear (and get brave)!

I can't even remember the last time I DTD, I think if it hadn't been for giving birth it would have healed over by now from lack of use.

It's cavort with the DTD date, but somehow now I feel the urge to beat her to it competitive, me?!

I understand what you mean about birth experience, Brave. No need to be worried, pregnant berries, it was overall fine, but there are certain aspects that still irritate me whenever I think about it. Oh well, we know better next time..

hm not really sure what I do the whole day. A bit of work too, just to keep an eye on things. Or that's the idea, yesterday I spent hours on the phone with our IT to sort out why I could not access anything. Apparently there had been some stupid security training I didn't do - you know, one of those "what will you do if you get an email that looks like a virus and quacks like a virus?" or "your colleague asks for your password, should you give it to him?". I'm sure our IT systems are a lot safer now that I've seen the video..

Today had breakfast, expressed some milk, played with the baby, fed the baby, fed the baby again, went to the gym, expressed, fed the baby, went for a dogwalk, did some laundry.. and that's pretty much it so far. Not exactly exciting and glamorous. More like 'The Life of Daisy the Cow'.

Oops sorry Janey and Cavort!

I'm the same I think Hazle- overall job done and all fine but I'm sad I missed the picture postcard moment that I hadn't really realised I'd become attached to!

Am also achieving very little. .. my mum is up this week to help and has been amazing basically cooking and holding the baby so I can get showered etc.

Am eagerly awaiting the arrival of my sling in time for next week so I can get stuff done in between feeds. Currently sat around with sleeping baby on me- he doesn't like being put down in the daytime at all.

This barely pregnant berry is in meltdown with morning sickness... how do people work while this is going on as I am seriously struggling?! Proper vomiting started today malt loaf tastes foul in reverse so have not managed to keep anything down (including folic acid) plus off the Thailand on Sunday which I am now dreading.
And if you can't be bothered to read all of the above, simply think me me me moan moan grumble and you will have got the gist of it

My DTD date is subject to me bottling out at the last minute and postponing until after Christmas. It's quite nerve wracking but I feel it's an obstacle which needs getting out of the way.

Many people would view my birth experience as less than ideal, but I am quite pleased with it when I look back. There was a valid reason for intervention which was fully explained to me at the time, and both baby and me were fine at the end of it whuch is all that matters. The 5 feckin days of latent labour on the other hand....

Oh dear Merk

This probably isn't helpful at all but one I started vomming at work I just told a few closer colleagues the truth so I could st least moan about it and get some sympathy and then they covered for me to stop other colleagues gossiping.

If it's that bad I think the doctor can give you something to alleviate it to try to stop it ruining your holiday?

Oh merk poor you. And you shouldn't make comments like the malt loaf one, as it just made me chuckle - any what you want is sympathetic online chums, not some idiot laughing at your misfortune. like I did when cavort (was it you?) sicked curry out of her nose

Re contraception - god knows. Like hazle I want to get on with having another because I'm ancient but due to cs can't get pg for a year, plus given I'm getting married next sept I don't really want to get knocked up before then. All this means I really ought to sort something out, but do t really fancy the mini pill as it might take my body ages to sort itself out when I come off it... Tricky...

Hope you feel brighter soon Merk and can still enjoy your holiday. I was lucky enough not to actually throw up but I remember how much the relentless nausea got me down so it must be really shit for you

I'm very impressed that some of you are planning ahead for another one already you must be crazy the mini monster is likely to get a sibling just this side of NEVER. I'm hoping I forget change my mind in a couple of years but at the moment I'd rather stick pins in my eyes than contemplate going through it all again.

Aw Merk it properly sucks :( eat whatever you fancy, little and often can help. Definitely worth seeing a doc before you go away if you're really struggling.

Really hope you're feeling brighter before you get away.

I must be a hormonal crazy lady, as I was actually thinking the other day that if I wasn't get married/had a c section I'd suggest we start trying for number two at Christmas

Nutter!

I am currently on the fence with regards to DC2. I want to in theory but I disliked pregnancy and I'm not sure I want to do it again. No rush to decide though, we'll prob wait until Elodie's well past one before TTC if we're going to so I will bury my head in the sand until then.

You guys make me feel awful with all your talk of DTD! Its been about 2 weeks since my OH got any, I just dont fancy it at all at the mo I'm not exactly feeling attractive at the mo, plus the bump gets in the way, the boobs are uncomfy if on top so it leaves us a bit nowhere. Sorry for TMI!

Merk I really really hope u feel better soon! Sucks feeling ill, esp at the beginning when you can't tell anyone! I do suggest little and often and if you struggle to keep it down see your doctor! I'm sure I heard vit b6 was meant to be good for nausea/sickness....ask google though before trusting me!