October 2013 - only 3 months to go!

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Baby due dates/sexes/name choices here

MoN how far are you from the hospital if you were to start early? I think in your case, having had so many previous CS and a baby who potentially may need help then if it were to happen you'd be we'll within your rights to call an ambulance. I'm the last person to think this btw as the system is often abused, but def think you should.

textbook Thea is my god daughters name - very pretty

MoN have you told them that? Have you/they ever been out on your dates before with other pg's?

tarlia do you mean metanium nappy cream? It is amazing stuff for sore bottoms but can stain clothing

Around 20 mins by car Tarlia but neither of us drive. I've read that in the case of uterine rupture they only have between 10-20 mins in which they can intervene to save the life of the baby and there's the risk of maternal death too.

I've tried telling them and they agree that the scan may be out on the dates but are unwilling to change it. They've said that since I've not gone into labour before c-section date before that it's unlikely to happen this time but surely the weaker the uterus is (as mine will be due to multiple ssections) the higher the chance of early labour.

Every "heart baby" case I've heard of the baby had been born at least 4 weeks early. I don't know if this is just coincidence as I couldn't find any correlation when I googled.

Phew,glad I didn't kill the thread dead!

The best thing any of us can do (those going into labour) is to enter it with an open mind I think. I was devastated also not to be allowed my hoped for water birth due to lack of fluid around baby,I came to terms with that but from that point on,every plan I had had went tits up. Anyway,I really don't think I need to drag on about that. Open mind,stay as relaxed as possible & all will be marvellous!!

textbook I agree Thea is a lovely name. I think it allows her a lot of room personality-wise - it will seem "her" whatever she grows up like. If you see what I mean?

We seem to have narrowed it down to probably being between Merryn,Rebecca or a couple of others. I am rather taken with Thea though... Hmmm. I really love Merryn but can't decide if it is a bit too unusual.

I think the nappy cream being thought of is Metanium. Yellow box,purple writing/heart outline. It is brilliant. umlauf I think you'll want more nappies,pads, etc. I'm not sure on whether you need the bottles to fit the pump but I'd say probably. I breastfed ds,but after 4 weeks ended up expressing for two solid weeks. I used a manual avent pump & avent bottles,but stored it in the freezer in lanisoh breast milk bags (another who was extremely proud of her freezer stash & might have counted it somewhat obsessively to marvel at her milking cow abilities). I'd say probably easiest if you do have the same brand bottle because makes sense to express into a bottle that attaches to the pump.

Really ought to get ready for work. CBA.

wicked Yes, Metanium. Um you need to take some of that.

MoN can you print the 4 week early evidence and show them? Ask for second opinion? How long ago did you have L? Perhaps they think you'll be healed enough that you are low risk for that complication? Also, if you were to go into labour and called for help it may be that they'd seen a bleep (doctor) car with ambulance anyway.

MoN doesn't uterine rapture usually happen during the pushing stage? I didn't think it could happen during early or even later contractions? The initial contractions are not that bad so it should give you 30min to get to the hospital after you feel the first one? I would check though and I would go to the hospital the minute you feel anything!!

tucking haha, I was also so proud of my breastmilk freezer collection! Like it was a stash of gold in my safe!

Clapham with multiple c-sections you don't even need to be in labour at all for it to happen.

I'm going to ask about the risk of premature labour at my next appointment Tarlia just incase there is a link that they've neglected to tell me about.

Meant to add that a rupture is most likely to happen in early labour. I'm going to be panicking at every little twinge as my due date approaches.
I don't want to tell Dp how much this is worrying me as he's a real worried anyway and is already stressed about everything. We've had so much bad luck I feel like I'm just waiting for the next lot to hit us.

urgh. as I've said before I'm a youth worker in an evening youth club. I'm at work at the moment but currently in the office upstairs as we had an incident of some young people we don't know coming in trying to start a fight with some of our kids and one of them had a knife on them. generally things like this don't happen, but have been known to on occasion. I only have till the end of next week to do youth club before our work with younger kids starts for the summer. I'm going to have to tell my boss I'm not working at youth club anymore as I don't feel me and baby are 100% safe. I know its the right thing to do I just feel bad as we're so under staffed as it is!! but its a very reasonable request to make considering right??
sorry, just wanted to get that off my chest, i would ring dp but don't want to cry!! Haha

Sorry to hear about your worries MoN sounds like them mucking u about with dates is the last thing u need especially with all the extra worries u already have hopefully the consultant will sympathise with u and consider doing the c section a little earlier xx

I'm have a preggo moment and can't actually remember anything else I've written

I was one of the lucky ones with my first labour and everything went as per my birth plan couldn't have asked for more and what I like about my area is u have one midwife care for u for all your appts and then when u are in labour they attend the hospital to deliver the baby and I have the same midwife this time as last time not that I specifically run the hospital and hunted her down when I got BFP or anything lol

Jacket potatoe and beans for dinner and OMG am I excited sad hey lol

Bit TMI but is this hot weather making anyone a little smelly in the downstairs region? Probly just where I'm hot and sweaty but don't think its thrush as I'm not itchy or dis-chargey if that makes sense xxx

Sorry roofio cross posted with u, sorry your having such a horrible time at work! That sounds very very scary! I deffo don't think you are being unreasonable by asking not to return to youth club especially as like u say its only one week left of the older children its not like your dropping your boss in it for a long period of time. Xxx

Tarlia is this the flexibath you have? I'm just surprised because the dimensions don't look that big. I'm hoping to shower the toddler as well but we'll see what works.

I had the dumbest moment today that I trying to blame on baby brain but I don't know. My new team in my new job (my first day working unsupervised!) was discussing the Apprentice and I could have sworn that I watched the final last week. I was telling them I saw it and the Irish doctor won. The conclusion was I must have fallen asleep and not seen the end properly. They were nice but I could have died.

Also my new manager explained how I get a bit more annual leave because of the bank holidays that fall during my mat leave, and I get to carry one week of annual leave into the next year, both of which are great news. It looks liked can stop working the last week of September like I planned, and still have an extra week at the end of my mat leave next year.

Agree roofio that I wouldn't want to be there either. We have an agressive parent at school and I was furious that she was not banned from school property after throwing a chair at a member of staff's head (it missed). I asked for senior leader back up at the door the next day. I also did not go to the door to let children in or out on a day when she had been complaining (loudly and swearing) in the office the night before about me not letting her daughter do PE in unsafe shoes. You need to protect yourself.

Great news for me, our inspection due tomorrow has been cancelled, yay!
We are going to do "cooking" instead, fruit kebabs. I've bought £60 of fruit but drove round three shops over the last hour looking for skewers and nowhere has any, argh. It will probably have to be boring fruit salad instead.

Glad today's scans and appointments went well.

Came home from work early today as i felt rubbish but arrived to a house full. DH knows i came home feeling rubbish but he still away out drinking with his dad and brothers tonight, hmpfh! So I am now sitting on couch with back ache, strong braxton hicks and a baby that thinks its funny to kick me in my lady bits feeling very sorry for myself. I swear he will be a battered DH if he even thinks about snoring tonight.

Sorry for moany me post but need to grump to someone

jelly mine is also out drinking tonight and my first thought was - drink induced SNORING!!! At his own peril...

roofio sorry to hear about your experience. Must have been quite scary...

ana this is so funny! You must have dreamt it :-)

I'm really struggling with heat today... it's the worst day for me. Is it hotter today than ever or is it just me? I could hardly breathe on the tube, even this morning, and felt so hot that had to have a cold shower as soon as I came home, to cool down. My face feel so hot... Also - rings are off, struggled to put them on today so didn't want to risk it

At least Luther is on tonight so I can watch him and lust after another man when DP is out drinking

I'm sure you're making the right decision roofio.

Natalie not smelly but an finding underwear very uncomfortable in this heat and have taken to going commando much to Desperate Dans delight.

Thanks for all the name feedback - tucking how strange, Merryn was on our shortlist too we obviously have very similar taste. If you like Thea you should totally use it too - it's a good'un (although so is Merryn). I think they are both lovely. Names are so hard!

Hmm just noticed I have two missed calls from my gp surgery at 7.30 tonight. I am not waiting for any test results and I haven't missed an appointment as far as I know. Want be able to call them back until tomorrow, I wonder what it is about? I wish they had left a message.

How frustrating orange. Hopefully be nothing serious to worry about xx

ana that's it, but of course from about 9 months they are sat up in it. Hair washing is done with the shower head or cups. Over here a bath tub is very rare, much to my despair so all toddlers shower without a problem.

roo doesn't sound nice. How are you feeling now? Must have been worrying.

orange what a crazy mother :/ Didn't they take any action at all when she threw the chair??? How about cocktail sticks and a couple of foil covered baking potatoes? Make 80s style fruit hedgehogs ;)

textbook and tucking like both Merryn and Thea, both very pretty.

No smells here, Nat. I think you can get thrush without the itch and a watery discharge too, so..

Granny pants are most certainly being worn with delight though, proper up past my belly button size with my pretty new bras. Last time I wore normal undies throughout pregnancy but learned granny pants rock after giving birth, so any excuse.

Hope you're feeling better falcon. Don't have any pets but can imagine its another individual you feel responsible for. I'm sure you'll make the right decision for your family.

Roofio that work situation sounds unsafe for you at the moment. I don't think your boss will blame you for taking care of yourself and little one.

mon try and have all your concerns/questions written down for your next consultant appt. that way they will have to try at least to give you answers or options. Also is there anyone that can go with you to act as another set of ears? I know your dp finds it hard to get time off work?

Textbook Thea is a lovely name. Haven't heard it in a while. Still no name ideas here ..........

Thinking about the heat and underwear situation hadn't considered thrush tarlia but you're right. I'm very sweaty at the moment as its hot and humid here. Bump is rubbing and even thighs rubbing together boo. Using loads of baby powder. How glamourous!

orange could you try and ring gp practice first thing??

jelly and clapham hope the snoring isn't too bad.

Chat tomorrow

textbook I may be confusing you with someone else (very likely) but did you once say you liked Thomas for a boys name? I have a William & before we knew this one is a I,Thomas was a frontrunner. I just seem to remember having similar boys' name taste to someone on this thread too! Hoe funny that we both like Merryn - I have never heard it before,saw it on a thread on here & fell in love with it. Because I have never heard anyone called it in real life I am wondering if people will think I made it up! But I don't want her to be one of 3 or 4 in her school year,just don't want her to be too unusually named either. You're right - names are hard!

roofio sorry to hear of your experience at work. You're not unreasonable I don't think,to want to keep yourselves safe. In my old job when I was expecting my son,I used to have some very unpleasant customers,you don't need the stress of wondering who's carrying what & what might kick off. You're sensible to remove yourself from the situation. I wish I had had the balls at the time to do the same.

jelly & clapham hope your fellas had the decency to not snore and allow you decent sleeps in between loo trips. Mine snores every sodding night. Drinks nearly every night too,a few cans. Does my head in but what can you do? I prefer him having a few cans at home,to him going to the pub & getting stocious. Which happens rarely but is bloody bloody bloody annoying when it does as he is 6'1 & built like a brick sh!t house & therefore not easy to roll when comatose & unresponsive to hissed/shouted warnings to stfu or die. Luckily he doesn't drink to excessive often at all,or he would no doubt be thoroughly dead several times over. Do love him even though I know I don't sound like it very often!

orange I hope you get an answer from gp early doors. Perhaps they need to rearrange your next midwife appointment (if you see her at the surgery...). Fingers crossed for you though that it is nothing important. Pretty inconsiderate of them not to leave a brief message.

MoN I think you & Desperate Dan have had enough bad luck & to-Ing &fro-Ing to do you for this pregnancy. I think you would feel better if you could share your concerns re c section/early labour. Doesn't seem fair that you should have to shoulder all that worry yourself. A worry shared & all that...

Blimey,can you tell I'm tired & should be in bed?! Terrible typos,must really pay more attention or preview before just merrily posting a load of old drivel! Hopefully most of previous post is understandable!

natalie I would consider the thrush possibility but not discount the idea that it could simply be a whiff due to the heat. I know from working in a hot environment on.my feet all the time that my knickers haven't always smelt divine by the end of a weekend night shift in a busy pub/club. the things that are divulged & admitted on this thread,so glamorous!