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August 2013 Part 2: Looking forward to scans and the beginning of bumps!

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chocolatesolveseverything · 08/01/2013 21:48

Here's a new thread for us summer mums-to-be.

A link to the first thread is here.

This first trimester will end eventually... it will, it will!!! Grin

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duende · 14/01/2013 19:13

waves and scuba, my 12 week scan is also tomorrow, at 11.20.
I will be thinking of you!
Hopefully all will be well and I can start getting excited and contribute on here a bit more.

Jollymummy2 · 14/01/2013 19:14

Ooh the nausea Hmm I'm trying to eat to stop myself feeling sick, but I eat and feel sick! Can't win.
I'm also struggling with extreme thirst that nothing seems to quench. I drank a pint of milk which helped a but but gave me an upset stomach!

You would think 4th time around I would be used to this stuff. I hate this bit of pregnancy. In fact I'm not sure any part of pregnancy agrees with meShock
9+3

greenj1 · 14/01/2013 19:18

Im finally near 12 weeks and the awfukl sickness is def getting better thank god!! Still completely shattered though, getting 9 hrs a night, taking kids to school , Then going back to bed for a few hours! I cant function otherwise!!! This is my 4th pregnancy as well jolly and i think its the worst one!! xx

LexiLoganberryBump · 14/01/2013 19:22

Thanks Jolly, thekat, sunflower and James

I believe my bmi is at the highter end of the 30's.

James I was worried that they would make me have a consultant and that will put a stop to our early plans for a home birth, I really don't mind if they want to do extra tests but I'm not to good at speaking up for myself so will probably end up getting pushed into doing things in a way I don't want to. DH will be mad with me if it affects things too much as he's been trying to support me in losing weight for a while now, in a good way not in a nasty way, but I've struggled.

I don't have any other health problems, have one doggy knee thanks to the dog tripping me over and me landing on my knee on concrete but that it.

FoofFighter · 14/01/2013 19:43

Lexi my bmi is 32.5 (mw put it up to 33 though Sad) even though this time last year it was 37 and I stressed to them how hard I had worked to lose weight :/ I have to have a consultant appointment plus one with anathestist too. If they think i am giving birth flat on my back they can do one!

James is correct in that there is an awful lot of scaremongering surrounding overweight mothers to be, and in the medical fratnerity full stop - put it this way pretty much everything I go to the GP for has been at some point attributed to my being overweight Angry There's only a hospital here anyway so that doesn't really affect where I can give birth, but sorry if someone banned me from a homebirth if i wanted one, with my weight being the only reason, then again, they can frigging do one!

LexiLoganberryBump · 14/01/2013 19:58

Foof I've just been doing some obesity in pregnancy related reading so I can ask the midwife tomorrow some questions and it's all pretty dire, has scared the living hell out of me, like James said all the extra monitoring it suggests they'll do will only inhibite labour, I'm not saying I want to go unchecked or anything but don't want to be confined to bed, would like an active labour, also saw that it said ultrasounds aren't as clear and can make it difficult to see abnormalities, very worried about that, wish I'd never bloody looked.

I've been so excited about being pregnant but now it all feels rather scary.

Yvonney · 14/01/2013 20:58

Jolly - yeah its crap, I felt bloody awful last week, sickness not as bad last couple of days though. Tiredness really kicked in tho, thought I was going to fall asleep at work today! Sad x

Yvonney · 14/01/2013 20:59

ps forgot to say 8+0

wavesandsmiles · 14/01/2013 21:00

sunflowerlady - promise to update you about the slapped cheek tests etc after I see the midwife. Amazing how something you've never heard of can cause such a worry.

Duende - hope your scan is good tomorrow.

Super tired and off to bed soon - hope that the next trimester brings a return to energy!

CarriePie · 14/01/2013 21:11

waves and scuba good luck with your scans tomorrow. Only two weeks for me to wait...excited.
Where do I sign for this reduced hours lark? Exhausted today!
Just a quick post from me tonight as early night is calling. I've eaten about 6 spoons of Ben and Jerrys and now feel sick so I'm going to bed to burp alone in bed! Grin
Ps orgasmic birth...I'm not really sure what to say about that.

FoofFighter · 14/01/2013 21:33

Lexi did you see my scan pic from weekend on profile? I wouldn't say it was unclear really? i'd take a lot of what you are told/read with a pinch of salt unless you have a severely high BMI to be honest, and remember also that they cannot force you into anything. You have a voice x

RainboxFX · 14/01/2013 21:44

Just to add, my BMI is high 30s. While I am working on getting it down for health reasons (obviously not while pregnant!) it has never affect ultrasound clarity or how I felt baby's movements. There is a lot of scaremongering out there.

FoofFighter · 14/01/2013 22:06

If anyone is interested, you can follow the Slimming World plan whilst pregnant, it's approved by the Royal College of Midwives, but you do need signed permission from your midwife to take into class.

JamesAndTheGiantBanana · 14/01/2013 22:26

Lexi, before I had my second I met with the supervisor of midwives to address some of my concerns, and she said that these days they can put a scalp clip on the baby (to monitor it) which is mobile, so shouldn't stop you from moving about during the birth. Unless a problem/deceleration is detected, or if you or the baby is poorly in some way obviously, there's no reason why they can't monitor you intermittently with a hand held monitor. I think it's just easier for them to have you on a stomach monitor, but as you say it's not ideal for a labouring woman.

My scans were ok to be honest, they may not have been quite as clear as a slim woman's but they were good enough to check for abnormalities, it wasn't a problem. I felt plenty of movement, I don't know why you wouldn't, the fat is on the outside, not in the womb getting in the way of the kicks Hmm

Try not to worry Lexi, they see women much bigger than you (and me!) every day. Smile

I'm off for a scan on Thursday, to investigate this mild bleeding I've been having. It's really only a tiny amount but it's starting to worry me now as I've had a couple of short stabby cervix pains.

Feelthefear · 14/01/2013 22:33

Hi, I have decided to take the plunge and join after lurking for a while!

I am 10+6? Is this right if I am 11 weeks tomorrow? (Sorry, new to all this!)
All seems to be going well (I hope) now that it is finally sinking in. Was a bit of a shock to say the least.

Still waiting impatiently for my scan date but had my booking in appointments. I have also been referred to the consultant, but for low BMI which was a surprise.

Oh and I am due August 6th
xx

ScubaSarah · 14/01/2013 22:39

Welcome FTF yes, you've got the weeks + days bit right. Hope you get your scan date soon Smile

peacefuleasyfeeling · 14/01/2013 23:22

Hi there, August sisters. This isn't "my" thread, I belong on the June thread, but I just want to share a little nugget of information with you in the hope that it might save someone some worry along the way. If it has already been covered here, I apologise for doubling up, I just couldn't read all 11 pages Wink.

I know not everyone will choose to (or have chosen to) take up the offer of prenatal screening (the NHS combined test in particular), so this only applies if you are looking in the direction of such screening.

I received what I considered to be a high risk for trisomy 21 when my results for the combined test came back before Christmas. Knowing that invasive diagnostic testing (such as a cvs or an amnio) carries with it an inherent risk of miscarriage, however small, I spent a sad and frightened day wrestling with how to proceed, very much feeling like I wanted to know if my baby was OK, without risk to the much-anticipated pregnancy. Late that night, after lots of phonecalls and googling and with a heavy heart, I chanced upon a thread on here (good old MN) about the Harmony Test (it's running in the ante-natal tests and choices forum). Now, in mid December, this was only just being introduced in the UK and certainly wasn't very well known. Perhaps things have snowballed and it is now a better known procedure, but just in case someone doesn't know, I'd love to share the possibility of non-invasive screening with a high accuracy rate.

The Harmony test analyses "cell free DNA" which is basically fetal DNA present in the maternal blood stream, and is able to to pick up, with a remarkably high accuracy rate (99.6 %) evidence of trisomy 21 (DS), 18 and 13. The procedure which, I believe, can be done from 10 weeks and onwards (I was 15+4), involves a simple bloodtest (from your arm) and an ultrasound scan. The bloods are sent to the US for analysis, as there is as yet no laboratory in the UK with the necessary facilities. Results take a fortnight. The downside is that it is so far only available privately, as far as I know in London (The Harley Street Centre for Women, The Fetal Medicine Centre, The Birth Company and possibly others) and in Cardiff (Spire), and comes with a matching price-tag Blush (prices vary, but appears to be roughly the same; £400 for the blood test and £170-£210 for the scan, depending on how far along your pregnancy has progressed). None of these clinics actually advertise the test on their websites yet, so it is best to ring them directly.

I had mine done at The Harley Street Centre for Women, with the thorough and knowledgable Dr Pandya. I cannot praise them enough; very professional and efficient, yet very warm and accommodating; the admin team doted on my travel-weary 2 yo DD (we'd been on the road all day) and plied her with chocolates, the nurse let her "help" take my bloods, Dr Pandya was well versed in all things Peppa, and expertly multi-tasked; taking his time to answer all my questions with patience and kindness and performing a reassuringly detailed scan while keeping up a polite chat with DD. I really felt I could not have been in better hands (but then I had done extensive research into his credentials before booking).

I had my results today, I feel confident that they are reliable and I would whole-heartedly recommend this procedure to anyone who is worried about the results of their combined test but who doesn't want to risk invasive diagnostic testing. I am aware that the price is a considerable obstacle; for me, the possibility of peace of mind won out, we've made some sacrifices in other areas.

Whereas I kind of hope I have posted this in vain, and that nobody will receive anything other than the screening results they were hoping for, I also hope that it may be of interest, should anyone find themselves in unforeseen circumstances.

Best of luck to all!

ScubaSarah · 14/01/2013 23:43

Thanks Peaceful and congrats on your good results. I happened across the Harmony thread mere moments ago and was discussing with DH. My 12wk scan is tomorrow. I'm 39 so starting at 1:110 and nervous. Knowing there is an accurate and non invasive option for further testing, should it seem necessary, is reassuring and worth the £££ I'd say!

peacefuleasyfeeling · 14/01/2013 23:53

Good luck, Scuba. I'm 38 so I think worrying goes with the territory. Having said that, I have a few friends of 40+ who had babies in the autumn who all had great results from the combined test, so one just can't tell. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!

LittleMissSnowShine · 15/01/2013 07:49

Congrats peaceful and thanks for info :)

feelthefear - wow, low BMI! Even tho I have been boking solidly for weeks now and barely eating anything, as usual the only things I can keep down are carby and stodgy so no chance of that for me! Good luck with consultant tho, they'll prob just recommend Complan or those little cartons of drinks they give to people recovering from surgery to build them up. Good excuse to nom!

I had perfect BMI when I got pg wth DS because it was only a few months after my wedding that I'd slimmed down for (I was a flipping size 10!) and it was good when I got pg in June last year cos I'd been eating really healthy and going to zumba once or twice a week but I don't think it's great this time round tbh!! Blush And won't be able to do much in way of healthy eating or exercise for another few weeks when nausea passes. So prepared for pursed lips from MW when I step onto scales at booking appt next week lol

Chuckaluck · 15/01/2013 08:09

James thanks for sharing, sounds like a nightmare. I am quite worried about what my birth might be like. I have a BMI of 35, having got it down quite considerably prior to getting my BFP! The midwife has referred me to the consultant although not heard anything yet. I really want an active birth but already I have been referred for a hospital birth rather than midwife led, which I would have preferred. Your story makes it clear I need to stand up for what I want rather than just think the medical people know best!!

JollyRedGiant · 15/01/2013 09:01

My MW didn't actually weigh me this time. I was weighed by the doctor in June so she just put down that weight. Obviously things are a bit slacker round here.

I did get a new version of Ready, Steady, Baby. Which, despite its stupid name, has to be one of the best books ever :)

Feeling a bit less grumpy about sickness today. Because we haven't told anyone I've got no one to rant at except Dh and you lot.

Oh, I've nced but I'm sure you can guess who I was if you're interested. Will change my name on the stats page later.

OxfordToLondoner · 15/01/2013 09:17

Thanks peaceful that's really great to know. I'll be 42 (am I the oldest on this thread?) so I have been worrying about a poor Combined result. Fingers crossed I won't need your advice!

On a more light hearted note...some advice of my own to all: Don't be tempted to wear maternity trousers just yet (despite the alluring comfort)...they fall down! Am just on way to work and feel like I'm wearing a nappy the crotch (ick - hate that word!) is so low! Can i keep my coat on all day?!

LittleMissSnowShine · 15/01/2013 09:30

Oxford - I had this problem when I was pg with DS - normal leggings, trousers, tights all felt really tight and uncomfy. Maternity ones don't stay up until you're about 5 months. Nightmare!!

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