May 2013 - roll on 12 weeks!

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Thread n2 for those due in May 2013

Oh MissMedusa, am so very sorry to hear your news. It's such a big fear for all of us during this stage and to have to live through it must be so hard.
Hope you recover in heart and mind as well as body soon and that there is nothing but positive news for you from here on out.

Glad to hear I'm not the only insomniac, it's been a bit of a surprise most people go on about how they slept through the first trimester.

Unfortunately I think DH has caught some pregnacy hormones, we were going out shopping and he took great offence to a well meaning minor comment from me and had a hissy fit.
Well I don't put up with that behaviour from the 3 year old I certainly won't from a 43 year old. I demanded he drive me home which he did, while insisting I was really out of order! He's gone out by himself.
WTF has happened to my mild mannered hubby?!
I'm more amused by it at the moment but if he doesn't come home with an apology I'm going to be very cross about it.

MissMedusa my heart goes out to you. Take care of yourself. My sister had the same thing so I know how devastating it can be. Love to you and your DP.

Wow, this is my first post in the new thread - am a bit behind, really. Hello to all the newbies!
Beaut sorry to hear about your totally insensitive letter - horrendous. Hope it works out. These things are just precautions but that wasn't the best way to do it...

So, I need a bit of a moan, really. Feeling a bit blue. I'm now 9+1 and MS is awful. Throwing up all day and having to work long hours. I'm freezing all day, foggy-brained and exhausted and no food or drink appeals at all (v unlike me).

Even bloomin' ginger tea - previously a godsend - is making me ill. The very idea of it....eurgh.

Reading is hard, my vision is blurry...hell, even Mumsnet makes me feel queasy.

I'm really struggling to cope at work. I have a job that means I have to be ideas-driven and highly motivated, and yet I spend more of my day in the loo than at my desk. Boss knows (otherwise he'd think I was slacking).

Contemplating getting signed off for a week just for a break - anyone else done this? I feel weird asking the GP as it's not like I have serious hospital-worthy sickness, but it's like having flu!

Hand holding welcome!

littlebairn could it be that he's a bit more stressed? not saying that I wouldn't demand an apology (I would most probably BE out of order! :))!

LittleBairn I can so relate - DH, also 43, has reverted to childhood, replete with brattishness. Has occasional moments of being nice and normal and then back to stroppy tantrums. Announced yesterday that this 'whole thing' has already been too much (at 6+6 mind you, with nary a complaint from me) - I told him he was lucky then that I had to do most of the work and asked him whether he was feeling jealous about not being No.1 lately. He admitted this may be so (my fault, I pamper him quite a bit and he's always come first for me, except these last few weeks) - he's his momma's pfb btw if you hadn't guessed already.

beaver I would seem sensible to take some time off, that way you would have time to rest but also go back to work refreshed and give a better performance.

tweaty yes I think he's a bit stressed about work not having enough hours in the day.

fertilty sorry I snorted at the " it's all been to much already..." he's not the one that has to carry it for another 8 months!
My DH is the first born and apparently FIL took it really bad that MIL no longer gave him her undivided attention. Clearly she did there is only 11 months between DH and his brother...

I think he's probably worried about money, even thought we have no financial concerns he has awful bag lady syndrom. He's also read one too many Newspaper articals that kids cost £100k per year or some other rubbish.

Well he just creeped in and out again, he sent me a text which I missed because I was cleaning. I made it clear that of course I'm happy to make his meals ( he went to M&S to buy food) but don't come home until he's calmed down as I don't need the stress.
He's just sent a txt back that he'll stay away for now since I'm so pissed off....

Think my nausea may have been related to my determination that my jeans still fitted. Just put on a pair of DH's and I'm much more comfortable :) Wonder if he'll notice when he gets in from work tonight...

Have also just spent £100 on maternity trousers (that's 3 pairs, not one uber expensive pair!) which feels like tempting fate but then what am I meant to do when nowt else will fasten? Can always send them back I suppose.

Beaver - that sounds utterly rubbish. I'd definitely ask for time off - the more tired you get, the worse it'll make it and you'll just send yourself into a downward spiral that won't help you or the bean. Hope you're having a restful weekend. And I'm freezing too! Thought pregnancy was supposed to make you too hot?

LittleB - because YOU'RE pissed off?! Bloody men. Hope he comes back from M&S with some seriously nice apology food else I'd be making him do the cooking too. At least he's still going to M&S - mine tried to boycott Waitrose last week because of the expense (we're also pretty free of financial concerns, and most of our baby stuff is coming from our divine kind SIL who has had 2 DCs, spent huge amounts on them and is now passing it all on to us so we don't even have too much to spend on the initial outlay) and tried to suggest that we don't need a phone or internet at our new house because mobile coverage is reasonable. Glad I have an independent income sometimes.

weatherwitch our DH sound like twins.
He's actually gone into the office to work, under the impression he's not welcome. I've let him know that he can come home and time and I'm not angry.
When he's being unresnoble hes usually quick to apologise but he's completely convinced its me at fault.

I actually have a baby fund that should cover everything baby needs for first year. All he's paying for is the scans. IMO he should also be paying for the doula since he's opting out of being a birth partner.
Maybe the responsibility of a baby is scaring him? The problem is being Autistic he can't always recognise his own emotions.

wow so many typos and grammar mistakes in that post. I swear it's this iPad I never have these problems writing or using a computer!

I'm now feeling guilty - DH just called and I mentioned the maternity clothes I've bought, and he immediately said that he wanted to buy them for me because it wasn't fair for all the expense to be on me when it's his DC as much as mine. And men say we're changeable?!

I think there is a fair amount of fear over the responsibility with my DH - and I also think he feels a bit helpless because for the next 6 months there's not a lot he can do, and he's used to being the one who takes charge. And he also feels a bit guilty I suspect because he's going away on deployment for 6 months shortly after my EDD and I did have a (completely unreasonable) rant at him about this the other night when I was tired and hormonal - it's not as if he volunteered for it. The money thing might well be his way of taking control over something since there are so many things he can't control. And he's from Yorkshire and has always been a bit that way inclined anyway :) I suppose that it's a big change for them too and lots of new and conflicting feelings even if they don't have the perfectly valid excuse of hormones.

MissMedusa so sorry to hear your news, hope you are taking it easy and get pg again very soon.

Hello everyone else! Wave to conception buddy Wild!

fertility your DH's comment made me laugh too! Honestly, these men! I remember my DH was a right arse when I was pg with DC2. He's normally all loved up when I'm pg at the start, and then gets a bit bored and can behave like a brat. I think it's the shift of your attention (ie not so much on them) and also maybe some anxiety. Hope he and your DH, little, improve!!

Another here who hates bigger boobs in pg. I am already an E cup so to go up to a G is just a joke. Luckily this doesn't seem to happen to me until later in pg, so at least I'm some way from that yet.

I have got 3 appointments coming up. One is my booking in, at 9 weeks, then a week later I have bloods, then a week later I have the scan. Bit of a pain as they are all at the hospital. I'm hoping to change the bloods one, but I'm happy with the scan one as it's nice and early but I don't know if they'll let me move just one of them - they all seem carefully times (so that I can get nuchal results at scan having had blood tests before). For those asking about it, I booked my own booking in appt, then got the letters about the other 2 appts in the post.

I normally love tea too but am totally off it. I can only stomach savoury right now, and salty. Hope everyone has good weekends!

also, weather I heard that about whooping cough jab on Radio 4 too. I feel like I want some more information about it though - might look on preg boards here. If it is so safe to take, why not give it to newborns? Sorry your DH is being stressy too. It is an emotional time though.

boob something that recently occurred to me they tell us the vaccine is completely safe for pregnant woman and the unborn baby yet I believe they can't provide any evidence of this because you can't test on pregnant woman and babies.

Hi little yes just checked this out there is a thread in pregnancy on it, worth a read. They can't test on pg women, but it has been taken before by pg women - the question is how many and with what results? Also i'm not really sure how common Whooping cough is...

It says that the idea of giving it to pg women is that they develop antibodies that pass to the baby, as you can't vaccinate a baby under 2 weeks (I think). This is the info from dept of health:

www.wp.dh.gov.uk/publications/files/2012/09/Pertussis-whooping-cough-immunisation-for-pregnant-women_factsheet.pdf

Whooping cough was thought to have been very rare but it's making a come back, mainly because the vaccine doesn't seem to work very well but also different strains. Strange how it's increased in babies yet they are supposed to be vaccinated against it in the first place.
Will have a peek into the vaccine threads, it's a more appropriate place for me to ramble.

Just in from work- ill try a catch ip ;-)

Quicky- those with cramp pains - have they been constant? I had them last week qhich I expected and they went away-now come back with a vengeance this afternoon and I'm worried it means it's going wrong :-(

Well I'm being SO lazy today. DH and I are still in our pj's watching crap films and planning on going to the chippy for tea !

Making the most of lazy life before the craziness begins !

Hi scooby cramps my cramps come and go, but not constant like AF cramps. Are your cramps painful? Could it be trapped wind? that bloody hurts at times and feels constant until I fart
Hoping its nothing for you to worry about scooby.

scooby mine come and go sometimes I have none for day. I assume the baby is going through a growth spurt. My baby book actually shows the exact size of the baby week by week and althought they are tiny at this stage they are doubling their size each week.

rachy that sounds like a lovely chilled out day.
Think DH is going to get a shock when we can't on spur of the moment pop out for dinner at 8:30 mid week...

Oh yes the trapped wind why on earth did no one ever mention this, people are always keen to talk about their piles, stretch marks and tears but no one ever mentioned server wind!

I'll share my trapped wind with you littleb worse at night as it hurts when I roll over.

missmedusa am so so sorry to hear your news. I hope you are ok and looking after yourself, it is a huge shock and bereavement. I had a blighted ovum in my last pg that was finally diagnosed when I was 10 weeks, in April, so if you want to pm me at all to chat please do. The mc board were so kind and supportive too. do take care chuck x

oh these men! I just logged on having had a barny with mine and laughed when I saw I'm not the only one! He's been out all day working (and was out socially last night) only to have a moan at me that I wasn't showered and ready to go to the supermarket. Um, maybe you could do that for me?? No, I had to trawl round too. Anyway, thats now done and he's gone out to the pub to watch the football. Then, when I'm being hormonal grumpy that I'm spending the rest of the day on my own too tells me he plans his whole week round me. Seeing as he's a musician and works evenings I don't quite see that. Last weekend I asked if he could help me out with breakfast and cooking some freezer dinners (I'm a teacher and he's usually asleep still when i leave the house), this worked for monday then stopped. I'm used to spending a lot of time on my own when he's working but I do take umbrige when my pg friends tell me how their other halves are making them breakfast or doing the housework for them and mine is doing balls all. ahhhh, rant over. that feels much better!
And as for trapped wind! I've never known anything like it and it can be pretty painful at times.
scooby my pains have been around for weeks. I found out at 7+4 and had had the pains for 3 weeks - just thought it was pre-menstrual. Week 8 wasn't so painful, less constant. They can be pretty painful sometimes but not constantly so. Seems we'll all get them a bit differently but supposedly the growth is quickest this trimester so thats why.
Long post! sorry. better go put that shopping away now....