May 2013 - roll on 12 weeks!

[DizziDoll]

Thread n2 for those due in May 2013

milk he has Duchenne, do you know someone affected by MD? Apologies if not, most people don't usually ask though unless they know anything about it. Glad it went ok with non man, I read your thread the other day (before I knew I was pregnant, I promise I'm not a stalker!)

Yes, I meant to say before my outburst , I'm so sorry hooya. Tricky times for you.

I hadn't thought about the judgemental thing, I hate that. I get bad enough when people make comments on how I look after my dog! (and only think of the appropriate cutting response much later)

milk, sounds like an unusual situation. Bit of chemistry there between you still, despite the new agreement?

littlebairn that's not a high functioning autism thing, it's a really lucky thing. Only around 5% (stats i was given from the NAS) with autism have high intelligence levels. My son is high functioning and certainly isn't highly intelligent he struggles a lot in school and scored very low when having his cognitive assessments, although that doesn't stop people telling me I'm lucky as he'll be a genius .

Seven that is disgusting I can't believe someone would say that to you about your baby! People just come out with ridiculous opinions sometimes, I was asked once if I'd have aborted my DS (hfa) if I knew about his ASD whilst pregnant. And my dp's aunt asked us last week if we'd be able to have any normal children in the future.

milk lol my catholic mum got pregnant with me as an unmarried teenager, the family were mostly concerned that my dad was raised protestant. I would loved to have seen their faces when they realised he is actually an atheist.
They love him now.

thunder really people make comments about your dog ?!?! bloody hell. that said I have been told that mine is too big - like I can help that that is the size they grow too.
Umm ohh we have piles of chemistry - we just don't want 'us' to be the focus at the moment.
seven i'll believe you thousands wouldn't but I will. My cousin DS has just been diagnosed with Ullrich congenital MD. And I sometimes work with people with MD. that is horrible about the man in the pub.

ooh milk?! snuggles? really admire the maturity between you both. Sorry to hear it will be awkward with your family. When do you think you will tell them? are you close generally?

the attitudes some of you are suffering towards your DCs is just appalling. I never knew such nosiness and openly rude opinions as when I had DS and that was on basic issues of weaning, BFing etc. With having a HB and then we did baby led weaning and breast fed on demand, and MIL thought we were on a mission to kill him. And you can't make nasty responses because all to often these are your friends and family. But if people had uninformed opinions because of disability etc? Fuck right off.

little I bought mine because I wanted three childers and they have a fantastic resale value. I got the birthpool in a box i think it was called, was about £40. Each time you use it you have a new liner in it so it is effectively a new pool each time so renting would be fine as far as hygiene goes... but is a very personal choice. Some areas actually lend you a birth pool c/o the MWs if you are having a HB! Nice.

my 2.9 year old son keeps talking to my tummy to wake the baby up . Bless. He saw it on the tv at the scan so knows about it (which means all the neighbours will soon enough I guess!) He also wonders if it is coming soon... I say emphatically NOT!

pecantic sorry that did sound dismissive, I know that a lot of children/adults on the spectrum struggle with their education. And that schools are very I'll equipped to give them the care and support they need.
But I do find that many ( particularly high IQ) autistic are undiagnosied and unsupported so I'm not convinced the figures are always correct.
DH was only diagnosed young because the IN Laws paid for private evaluation as they wanted to know if he was 'made' like he was or if was because be spent about 3 years of his childhood hospitalised.
If they hadn't he would have been another undiagnosied autistic.

I'd like to have a home birth but I'd be too conscious of the neighbours hearing the screams! Plus, I had an epidural last time so I'm not sure if I may end up demanding one in the late stages of labour this time - although I aim not to!

boo the consultant led care bit seems to be just because it's their protocol. If you've had a 4.5kg or over baby you have to start under the consultant. I guess I'll wait and see what happens when they want to see me?

It was a pretty straight forward ish birth. The biggest problem wasn't so much his size more that he was back to back. I was induced, just needed gel to get me going. Everything was moving along swimmingly. Finally got moved up to labour ward. And then an anterior lip wouldn't go and I was stuck at 9.5 for a couple of hours. That wasn't so nice. But out he came. Had a bit of a PPH (500ml) but they treated it pretty actively, due to his size I think.

I shall just see if I start measuring big for dates and go from there this time I suppose. And try not to get my hopes up too much for a homebirth again.

I've had a homebirth before so if you want you can ask me stuff too :). I made a little mess on the cream carpet but thankfully cold water got it out!

Perhaps in hindsight at the 'chainsaw massacre' comment from the MW for DC3 it was better not to have had the homebirth. She was soaked up to her knees with my waters and had to change, fluids spilled out from under the bed when it was moved hours later, there was meconium splattered up the wall and the placenta was hooooge .

Those of you have people say unpleasant or downright rude things - about pregnancy, child rearing, disability, LD's, everything? Why do they do that? Why can't people just engage their brain or do they really not care about hurting people? It's horrible. I think I must just have a do not fuck with me face. Wish my sister could. She gets so upset.

Meant to say before...thanks for the welcome everyone :)

ladies in the end unfortunately you will need to remove me from the list as well... :(:(
I went to the EPU today and they confirmed that my HcG levels are not as high as they should have been since the last time I was taken blood, so even though the woman at the EPU told me to go back tomorrow for another blood test she also told me that she thinks I have miscarried and gave me the leaflet. :( And currently I am bleeding and feeling lightheaded so I think they got it right this time.
DD has been very sweet and caring since yesterday as if she understands (she's only two). :)
Best of luck to all of you and enjoy your pregnancy! Even though not as glamorous as one would think it's still a lovely period of a woman's life. :)

oh tweety i'm so sorry to hear that. Glad you've got the help and support you need. Take care of yourself, rest up and lots of love.

pickle I think hope being up and down is normal at the moment. So many changes are happening. I've been feeling really similar, but I think it's mostly because I haven't been letting myself think about this whole thing as a baby yet because my sister found out she had a blighted ovum at 11 weeks. So I'm terrified.

Also, just had a good old weep myself which is no bad thing. Just heard about a friend who's been diagnosed with incurable secondary cancer. She's 33. and that made me feel so bereft, lucky and angry all at once. Weird times.

I'm sorry to hear your news Tweety. Look after yourself.

Beaut & Terracotta - I have quite a big age gap too, not as big as you guys but DD1 will be very nearly 7 and DD2 will be 4.5. I actually thought I should wait until they were 8 and 6 as that seemed the most civilised gap to me. DD2 is still quite young for her age, she enjoys playing the baby of the family, so an actual baby in the family may be rather a shock.

Today I am reading everyone's experiences of judgemental comments about parenting and for once I want to celebrate living in London. No strangers ever talk to you here so there are no unwanted comments. I even managed to breast feed both DDs to 15 months without so much as a raised eye brow!

I'm so sorry tweety I am glad you're being looked after at home. :(

tweaty I so sad for you tweaty, I hope your taking care of yourself.

beaver DH friend wife is terminally I'll, very sudden and they have a young child too. I've had a bit of a weep about it and I barely know her but it's such a sad situation.

I'm worried about the fact that I probably won't have a scan until 15 weeks, its such a long time to wait to have a confirmation that the pregnacy is healthy.

RT I nannied and lived in London for 6 years and yes it was lovely be ignored. I mean that seriously, in Scotland everyone chats to each other like they have know each other all their lives instead of the 5 mins waiting for a bus.
Even those that would help the buggy up the tube steps would do so without a word and disappear before I could say thank you. That is my kind of society. [anti-social]

Hello all, can I join you please? Had a scan today and saw the heartbeat so very relieved as had 2 m/c (one before and one after the birth of my DD). Last one was only 3 months ago so still very nervous about things. EDD is 30th May.

I live in France so am going to have fun working out what the process is although have a lovely gyne so that's a start.

Tweety so sorry if it is confirmed bad news, look after yourself x

I think i have a crush on Ed Miliband. Is this normal?

What's brown and sticky? A stick

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It's taken me hours to read and catch up on this thread

So sorry, medusa, tweety and hooya. You are all in my thoughts tonight.

Anyone else thinking the anxiety is getting worse?

Hi ng, your EDD is the same as mine, though my other 2 were both born a month prematurely.

gertrude I'm afraid odd crushes are a normal part of pregnancy, just wait until you start having erotic dreams about them.

I'm so sorry tweety, and to hear about your friend beaver.

maybe I agree about the anxiety, I'm still nearly a week away from when I had my mc last time. The line on my test was a lot darker though, last time it was only just visible so I'm hoping that's a good sign.

Tweety So so sorry.I really don't know what to say.But thinking of you.

oh tweety. I am so sorry. :( Big hugs and look after yourself won't you x

tweety I am so so sorry. I was really hoping for better news for you :-( I'm glad to hear you have the comfort of your DD!

MaybeA I have moments of panic that I could MC at any point because the longer the pregnacy goes on the more attached and 'real' it all becomes and I don't want it stop.

What helps me the most is to look around if somewhere crowded ( or look at baby photos of family) everyone that you see baby, young man, old lady was once a 7 week pregnacy. It helps calm me down.

On raging hormones front, I was walking down my street today and realised this time next year I could be walking down with it with a baby and burst into tears. TBF they were happy tears.