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Chefette · 07/09/2012 10:09

New one marchers sorry on phone and can't link! Will post title in our old thread x

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GummiberryJuice · 14/09/2012 15:11

Thanks Manda I definitely took it with dd2, although this was prescribed by my very laid back gp who I've being seeing since I was 11, it was the younger gp who deals with all my dcs said no way but today I feel like someone has punched the left side of my nose so I think I shall buy a pack tonight, as I have no sickness today but just horrible fuzziness of the mind becasue my nose and eyes are annoying me!
Oh and I got highlights a few weeks ago, the hairdresser said it was more black dyes you had to worry about.

Oh Jojo you'll have to get the green veg in, I was thinking thats a good excuse to have a chicken saag and now I have put myself in the mood for an indian!

Panic you'll be amazed the shapes your tummy can take by the end of the year

Dame my friend had the same problem , she also said that the DP she went into no longer stock maternity clothes in store, or maybe that was next, she gave the poor assistant a right telling off then apologised because it wasn't his faultGrin

Oh another straight talker, although I have now found that if the person I am talking to won't like what I have to say, I don't say anything so people who know me best will always know my stance on a subject wiether I say something or not

theTramp · 14/09/2012 15:21

Flamingo - that's rubbish. Please pop on the maternity clothes thread and forewarn anyone tempted by Dotty Ps.

JoJo - the pregnacare seem to be working for me. I think the only thing to watch for is constipation, but that's something to watch for regardless. ah, the glamour of pregnancy. Where is that glow?

Well I'm just back from my NHS 12 week scan, which is of course 13 weeks. As predicted, I was in there for about 12 minutes. When I went in I was informed that I shouldn't have been booked in today because they don't take blood on a friday (?!?) - so if I was worried about downs etc I would need to make an appointment to come in next week or week following. At which point I explained I had paid for my bloods to be done privately because I was concerned that there might be another administrative error that seemed designed to make me worry for longer. I wasn't horrid about it, it wasn't her fault. Anyway, she said that was a smart plan and asked to see the results, which I gave her. The scan I had was perfunctory, although she was nice enough and I explained I'd had some cramps recently so she checked for an increase in size of cysts or anything else. And then out the door.

If I hadn't had the scan last week I would be left with more questions than answers and there is no way I would be happy with that service. What I don't understand is if the private sector can charge £150 and make a profit, why the NHS can't do this more efficiently and effectively. And I am willing to bet the cost on the NHS works out more than £150 a head as well.

Sorry, I am moaning. I'm just very unimpressed. The people are perfectly lovely but the service is non existant really and if you're a first time Mum the lack of time and information you're provided with is appalling.

Anyway, my advice - if you're worried pay for a private scan, it was worth every penny as far as I am concerned.

theTramp · 14/09/2012 15:23

Also Lewisham Hispitals Womens Health reception has to be one of the most depressing spaces in London. And it is full of women who are pregnant and should be happy. How is this possible?

Sheldonella · 14/09/2012 16:25

Hi everyone, I'm back from the peaks. Got a little bit of walking done but kept ended up in bed by 9 both nights. Still, it was a nice break and we ate some nice food.

I have been reading as best I can on my phone, lots of nice chat going on. Glad to see you are doing well after your op zoey.

Tumble driers - I have a condenser and it is great, will join in recommending them.

Returning to work - I had all the same worries when I was pg the first time, about losing my identity and the like. I cried a lot about it. After the mc I realised it wasn't really worth worrying about and this time have just decided I will muddle through a bit and hope it all works out. I know I want to work, so will find a way to make it happen. I am usually someone that needs to have an exact plan for the future but after everything that has happened I realised that it is hard to have total control, so am just going to see what happens. I really really hope I can return to study and do a masters. This is my main aim.

dame I've had that problem ordering from Dot P's too so have decided not to bother again. So many places are hopeless with mat wear aren't they.

Is anyone still wearing heels at all? I just bought some lovely wedge boots as there was a deal on in John Lewis but I don't know whether or not to keep them as they are a bit high. They are comfortable and I'm not likely to fall off them. What do you think?

JoJoBella84 · 14/09/2012 16:30

tramp I'm loving all the glamorous talk of the pregnancy body!! Constipation, sore boobs, peeing, vomiting. We're all so classy!
I found a massive difference in the NHS hospitals Aberdeen and York when I wend for scans.
Aberdeen was a narrow corridor waiting area with no pictures, dull grey walls and lots of posters telling you to turn off your phone and to not ask the sex of your baby!!
York is a lovely spacious, bright area with a tv advertising baby products, happy posters of little ones and lots of information!
Oddly through I found the sonographers in Aberdeen friendlier than those in York!!
None of them rushed the scans though and I don't think I've had a scan that lasts less than 20 mins.

Funnylittleturkishdelight · 14/09/2012 17:21

Hey! Just trying to catch up.

All ok- doctor wanted to talk through the results. Made me worry over nothing really.

Feeling crap today. On the sofa with two massive pile of books to mark: 34 books and one weekend. It has to be done!

Lexiindisguise · 14/09/2012 17:25

Sheldon I'm still wearing my medium heels Grin
Tramp sorry you have had a bad experience. I've had better experience at our hospital, that said the labs have lost my 12 week bloods twice!!

theTramp · 14/09/2012 17:43

Shel - welcome back

JoJo - I'm writing a book called "What the F is that about?" which is all about the glamour of pregnancy. All additions welcomed.

Turkish - really pleased you're ok. Mean GP.

The staff are lovely but the experience isnt. If I had the money I'd donate it to just give the reception a face lift. Thus far the NHS Lewisham is proving not to be the best organised unit.

theTramp · 14/09/2012 17:44

Lexi - they lost your bloods twice?!

sundaesundae · 14/09/2012 17:49

theTramp, for your book - suddenly throwing up in the car whilst stopped in Newmarket waiting for the ponies to cross the road. It was not just me who was thinking "What the F is that about?"

I don't wear Heels anyway, I am too clumsy, except in winter boots, I need some new ones!

Turk, glad it was nothing!

Tramp that sounds crap!

Zoey - rest up duck!

Sheldonella welcome back!

theTramp · 14/09/2012 18:27

I wear heels on occasion - sturdy & chunky for day time and less so for events where I get to sit down alot (I am rubbish at coping with painful feet), but I'm already feeling back twinges when I'm wearing heels so it'll be flats with some orthopaedic in soles soon I think

Lexiindisguise · 14/09/2012 18:27

Tramp yes, the hospital labs have. Midwife, sonographer and clinic staff have been great (Lister Hospital, Stevenage) but I had my bloods taken at 8 weeks, the phlebotomist didn't label the samples, so I had them done at the 12 week scan and the lab have lost them! So annoying. Am sure nothing is wrong but it's not great - and equally frustrating for the antenatal clinic staff who have to keep calling me, doing new forms, etc.

theTramp · 14/09/2012 18:28

But buy them they sound fab!!!!

(channeling my inner Imelda - not hard for me to do)

theTramp · 14/09/2012 18:29

Lexi that's really rubbish. Glad that otherwise all is good

sarahs999 · 14/09/2012 19:18

Tramp, so with you on lewisham women's health. Whenever I'm lining up to be patronized/shouted at by that foul receptionist I always look at that photo of Laurence Llewelyn knob face opening the 'new, improved' women's health services and think Christ almighty, what was it like before???? And what really gets my goat - those bloody vending machines. They sell exactly the same fizzy drinks and crisps that they sold when I had my son 7 years ago and yet all they do is nag you to eat healthily! How about starting in your own back yard!!!! It's a disgrace. Particularly as lewisham has a very large percentage of people whose diets are not all they could be. Daily mail rant over.... Blush

JoJoBella84 · 14/09/2012 19:55

gummi may have accidentally just been for a cheeky chicken tikka saag and Becks blue... For the sake of my health naturally ;)
tramp for your book - don't forget to add the hobo chic style vomiting in public places... I've achieved the local park and outside the library... I'm sure someone else had a hobo chic moment too!!

Rainbowbabyhope · 14/09/2012 20:00

Tramp - it is not "understandable" that people done don't tend to talk about stillbirths or publicise it much as you suggest. 11 babies are stillborn every day in this country - thats 8000 grieving parents every single year. To say its understandable that people ignore this topic is incredibly cruel to the thousands of us who find ourselves in this position each year.

HermioneBoo · 14/09/2012 20:01

It's been very very reassuring to read everyone's take on the losing identity thing, it's just good to know that I'm in no way alone in feeling what I'm feeling!
Been feeling a lot of baby boo today, had a very active day today and yesterday as we gear up for enrolment and handover of several projects at work so I've been running around like a loon. Plus I was manager today, I hate being manager, I can't manage people to save my life! Persuade people to do things for me, yes, but not manage anyone.
Did anyone see that Hilary Devey program that's been on? It was really interesting and showed why women aren't represented equally on exec boards and the like.
I found at my scan that it was over before I could get my head around it. It's a new hospital and the staff are nice, not overly so but they've seen it all a hundred times I suppose. We were scanned and blood tested within 20 minutes so I felt a little dazed and like it was all a dream when I left. However, got the downs test result back and came back as low risk - no other info than low risk though!

sundaesundae · 14/09/2012 20:15

Hermione do you mean movements? I am pretty certain I have felt movements this week, an hour or two after my scan I felt a bubbly, fluttering, twirly feeling right where I know bub is. Have since felt it a couple of times since!

I am feeling quite overwhelmed with the idea of having a baby and what will happen, so it has been good to read so many opinions and insights.

theTramp · 14/09/2012 21:41

Rainbow - I meant it is understandable that it is painful, personal and private grief and a grief that parents would find hard to share, to talk about. I don't and didn't mean it is understandable that the topic is ignored. I am sorry that you took it that way, but that really was not what I meant and reading back I don't think I come across as sounding as if that was what I meant either. You have been through that pain and you can share that with others which is very brave of you. My mother had one still birth and one child who died a day after being born. It was 24 years before she talked about it with me and I don't think she had talked about it with anyone else until then either. I can understand why. Even after 24 years I could see how painful it was for her.

Sarah - I am so glad it isn't just me. I have just been told by someone who had their baby there that the MW led birth unit is lovely and the staff are lovely. I really hope so. I'm starting to think it may be worthwhile booking in a private 20 week scan as well.

mandasand · 14/09/2012 21:42

Hey ladies! Well, I must say, I feel like I've just stepped out of a salon! Everyone so excited at the hairdressers and joking about what a beached whale I'm going to look like next time I'm in :-/ hmmmm?! Had about two inches off and it's lighter and I feel great! Unfortunately took best part of three hours so there were no nice coffees or lunches afterwards: I just hot-tailed it home and continued with my pesky book introduction (boo).

Cor what a horrible dream you had last night, Lexi. Mine are all really vivid at the moment (and some are horrible too!) I read somewhere that this is a symptom of pregnancy - weird, eh?

JoJo, impressed by the breakfasting! You can get the anaemia sorted out really quickly though. Am sure they will look after it with the op coming up. I'm only nearly borderline and was told to take vit. D3.

Zoey, has the pink bleeding stopped since this morning? Am sure it must just be from the sutures, no?

Dame thanks for sharing the Dotty P's story - I shall avoid them like the plague! Feeling pretty good about my wardrobe at the mo. Tried an old (and non mat.) dress on with a sort of waterfall front and it's perfect for the bump and looks great with my grey mat. tights, so that'll do for a big meeting next week! Have a great wedding! Hope you got a nice outfit sorted. I'm sure you should have a glass of fizz. My MW told me I could have occasional glass of whatever, so it must be okay Smile

Bah, sorry your NHS scan wasn't up to much, Tramp. I've been really lucky - people nice and waiting rooms not grim at all. Feeling very lucky.

Welcome back, Sheldon! Like you're philosophy of muddling through. That's what DH and I do. Our motto is 'see what happens' and usually good stuff does. (Tho left to my own devices I'm also a ferocious planner!) Not wearing heels at mo, but I never really do anyway - I spent teens and early 20s in DMs and Converse so missed the necessary years of training!

Funny - phew! Hope the marking goes well this weekend and you get some time off in between!

Hermione, whoop for feeling baby boo a lot!

On another note ? and please forgive the rant which is not at all directed at you but the programme from last night!!! ? I saw it too but I'm afraid I was immensely irritated by it! It could have been really good in its presentation of really important issues, and yes it's criminal that only about 15% of exec. board members are female, but it was the entire programme was all about (a) the professions, esp. commercial sector and (b) rising to 'the top'. What about the challenges that face people in other sectors and other kinds of career? What about childcare for them? Deeply uninterested in the very successful engineer woman who gets to drop her child off at the work creche: good for her, but what about people who don't work for companies with a creche? What about the women, unlike her, who can't actually afford childcare on their smaller salaries? My nose really got out of joint when they showed two work-from-home BT employees. The way the woman was represented was v. much, 'oh look, isn't she clever - she gets the breakfast, then drives boys to school, then does terribly important job, then fills the boot with home-baked goods, then drives to school to organise some event'. By contrast, the bloke said, 'yeah, it's great, I get to be around for breakfast a couple of times a week'. Wasn't sure what kind of helpful 'ideal' that sequence was trying to promote! (Womderwoman?!) In my experience of working in the public sector (and entirely within the universities, so v.v. limited) is that a great number of women 'at the top' are pretty good at shutting the door behind them (perhaps from some weird sense that they had to fight and scramble and compromise and don't want to give others an easier leg up - that's my pop psychologizing of it anyway!) and, interestingly, not one of the women 'at the top' in the programme wanted quotas as a way of evening things up; instead all said 'Oooh let's just encourage companies to hit a target' ? erm, if companies wanted to increase female representation on boards they, perchance, would have done it already?! I really wanted sociologists, economists etc telling me some hard facts, not some woman in a Bentley (was it?) having her make-up done, and trying to learn (and, forgive me, she may be uber successful businesswoman but she wasn't v. bright!) about the complexities of why societies are so gender-unequal in the sphere of work.

Rainbow, I think Tramp just meant that it's understandable that people who have experienced stillbirths don't talk about it or broadcast it much. I don't think she meant that it's understandable that society as a whole ignores it or however you read it. Obviously it's a really painful thing to happen and not everyone can talk about it openly or comfortably. My Mum can't even talk about her MCs and my DH who lost his father last year - they understandably find it difficult to talk about those losses. Tramp did also say that it's 'beyond awful' to go through a pregnancy and not leave hospital with your baby, so I think it was just a mis-reading of the first bit. Hope you are doing well.

mandasand · 14/09/2012 21:45

oops x-posted with you tramp

zoeymlucas · 14/09/2012 21:48

OMG iwas in bed earlier and heard a delivery and DH said it was the next book so went back to sleep, went down earlier for dinner and there all unpacked and built is the blinking iCandy peach blossom he bought me in black - he bought it as a surprise to cheer me up weeks ago for delvery after operation! I actually cried as he had been saying £1000.00 was far to much and there was no chance I could have it, plus he has been saying its too early to buy anything etc!!!!

Have pushed it round front room and blinking love it and love it more than he surprised me with it as normally a hint of a surprise and I am all over it I ruined his proposal that way but this time I had no idea Grin it's now packed up and pit away in garage but am soooo happy- plus he said to keep the we quinny (I won it in a raffle a few months ago)

theTramp · 14/09/2012 21:50

Mand - no worries. I was just thinking I would look that programme up but after your description I think I will avoid as I am feeling shouty angry just reading your review. I bloody hate anything that purports to be about "female power" and/or "equality" and turns out to be a bunch of women juggling everything apparently perfectly and Saying "well of course I had to make sacrifices". This extends to shit like Sex in the City and Desperate Housewives which I am apparently meant to connect with because its smart sassy women. Oh go F yourselves TV execs. Every single one of those women is hideous and if that is what I am supposed to want to watch or aspire to then I might as well give up right now. I appreciate I sound a bit crazy here and that most women seem to love these shows. It's a bug bear.

I just watched 3:10 to Yuma and cried during the gun fight. Hormonal much? I'd best steer clear of the Naked Spur or I'll be crying like a baby.

theTramp · 14/09/2012 21:52

Zoey - your OH sounds absolutely wonderful. Awwww. I'm so chuffed for you. that's just fab. Now get back to bed, rest up and get better.