November 2012 - nearer the end than the beginning

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Shelly he got in at 3.30am (we're in Birmingham so he had to come back on the coach to the city centre and then taxi home) and left for work at 7 this morning so I haven't really seen him to talk to him about it yet. At least he has the day off for our scan tomorrow so he can have a bit of a lie in (and then probably sleep all afternoon once we get home!)

fatima I got a baby jogger city mini funnily enough from the same website that thedectective posted. Got a very good deal and was delivered in days. It's ace, I love it and is so easy to fold its untrue! Your mum would love you for it if you got one for her to use

I have my scan tomorrow. Luckily it's at 10:15am so I don't have to hang around waiting. As the scan date gets nearer I'm getting so tempted to find out the sex. I really don't want to though so hoping I stay strong. I think it's because my 2 friends who are due within in weeks of me have both found out. I can see the pros of finding out, but as I didn't with DD I have enough unisex stuff and the nursery is unisex so I have no need to know. Good luck to those with scans coming up. chunky can't believe you haven't even got your date through yet. You're being very patient.

I only got my pram now as it was such a good deal, honest!

That blog was very amusing! I have been ok mood wise. I had a phase at weeks 8 and 9 where I got tearful but generally I have been pretty much the same. I have a colleague who recently essentially told me that 'baby brain' was an inevitability and that I would become irrational. I am not saying that it doesn't happen to some but to assert with such confidence that I would become like this made me absolutely furious. The issue I have is that it becomes, in some people's eyes, like self-fulfilling prophecy. I can imagine that every decision I make he will discount if he disagrees with it by claiming I have 'baby brain'. In my opinion he told me I would become worthless in the workplace. Well, I'm not bloody having it! The next day, having already been told how I felt, I struggled to remember the name of something (he can barely remember what he did in the last 10 minutes) he state again that this "was the slippery slope". I can categorically state that he won't do this again.

Everyone responds differently but he wouldn't put down every annoyed moment I had previously down to me being pre-menstrual. I am sure there was no harm intended but I was deeply offended. It was demeaning.

Anyway, after that wee rant (which has nothing to do with hormones or 'baby brain' I am enjoying a nice wee chilled day.

horsey I think we are similar in levels of preparedness. I know nothing about babies and have planned nothing beyond its immediate arrival.

chunky if that was me they would be getting daily phone calls until they gave me a date!

We put the cotbed up yesterday so the nursery is coming along nicely now. It's painted, got the curtains, got the furniture. I just want some wall stickers and possibly a rug and changing unit then it will be done.

Now we have found out it?s a boy I?m desperate to name him. I thought we had decided but spoke to DP about it briefly last night and he said he needs more time to think about it. So now I?m not sure because he obviously doesn?t love it. Neither do I but I would be willing to use it if it was a name he really wanted because it?s Persian.

Just back from a long weekend away and wow-- you lot have been busy on here!

Congrats on all the scan results and welcome to the new people.

All fine here. Bump is getting huge. I had two people last week ask if I was around 7 months pregnant. Um ... no, almost five, LOL.

The LO is moving around lots. We haven't decided on a name yet. Boys' names seem so much harder than girls' names. There are a few we both like but aren't in love with. I haven't yet managed to convince DH of my top choice, but am not giving up hope.

Haven't made a decision on buggies yet. Will need a double that will work on public buses and the Tube -- probably a Phil & Ted's, I guess, but really haven't looked into them much yet.

Right -- off to deal with the laundry. Oh the joys of returning from holiday!

Pass I have some clothes etc but not even started looking at prams!! A friend is selling a cot so looking at that this week but still trying to make dh decide which bed were getting rid of!!

I agree everso boys names are a lot harder. We have had our girl's name agreed for 9 years but don't have a boys name. I have a feeling he will be unnamed for a while yet. There is one name we both love but we are a bit torn between that and choosing a Persian name to please DP's family. We can't use one as a first name and one as a middle name either because the ending of both names is the same and it would sound odd.

Hi, not posted for a few weeks as my new business has been crazy busy then I had a bit of drama.

A week ago I pulled in front of a van when driving home. Totally my fault, totally destroyed car. I was taken to hospital and after hours in A&E got to hear my baby's heartbeat. Today was my 20 week scan and despite the sonographer being able to see the internal damage to my left side, the placenta is on my right and baby is absolutely fine and regularly kicks my bruised womb.

I'm not sure when (if ever) I'll forgive myself for causing such a stupid accident (other driver was fine and utterly lovely as were the police and paramedics). It's been a wake-up call as to how hard I was working.

But we've found out we're having a boy. We're absolutely delighted and while it's what DH predicted I realised I wasn't at all surprised. I'm a bit reluctant to tell the world as everyone (except my stepsons) seemed to want a girl and frankly I feel like the luckiest woman on the planet just to have a baby that looks like it'll be perfectly healthy

Poor you Waiting seems like you've had a rough time, but at least he's healthy!!

Apple and Eliza on the MW literature about apppointments etc it says that the anomaly scan is at 22-23wks (I think I remember correctly) - which is obviously later than the standard, and I think its a bit poor as its probably as a result of too many scans, not enough sonographers, rather than any medical need/protocol, plus with the redirection of letters required

Ok I'm totally unorganised too and fully intend to remain that way for at least another couple of months - but I'm using the excuse that as baby will be in our room for the first six months to help with breastfeeding and reduce the likelihood of SIDS (something to do with getting breathing cues from you?), there's no reason to sort out the nursery yet (though we did paint the spare room at the weekend and have ordered carpets! that's more to give me / DH somewhere to sleep when my monster snoring kills all joy at sharing the same bed...). Nursery furniture is lovely but think we'll just be getting some ikea essentials to be honest having seen the Mammas and Papas prices!!!! (There are cots in there that cost more than our king sized bed FFS!!!).

Nappies etc will be changed on a changing mat on the lounge floor in front of the TV - not some £500 changing table junior is only going to fall off when they get mobile!!!!

Horsey try insureandgo - we went with them and they consider pregnancy to be an entirely normal condition, so bar being beyond 33 weeks don't charge you any extra for being updiffed. Insure direct also have a similar sensible approach.

Woo waiting - glad to hear you are ok - must have been really scary. Congrats on your blue bellydweller!!! xx

Lane81 I think you may be mixing me up with someone else. I haven't been to a yoga class. Did you talk to the person you thought was me. I'm so curious!!

WaitingForMe my goodness. Glad you and the baby are okay. Congrats on your boy. I got hit by a bike last week, it was partly my fault but it did make me realise that I'm not invincible. I kept thinking, what if that was a car!! Not good.

Passme and horsey I haven't done anything for this baby either. We've looked on line and have even gone into john lewis but haven't bought anything. We will at some point.

16 days till my scan!!

Waiting how scary?! Glad all ok apart from bruising.

Glad I'm not the disorganised person!!

Yw I know about furniture that's what I said to mum he'll have a new matters but if it's ok 2nd hand (I don't plan on paying what they want for it!) then we may as well buy him that and a brand new matress!!

Hi everyone! 20 week scan today, DS3 for us! :)

Everything is fine except the lazy little toad refused to lay any other way except on his tummy with bottom in the air

We're going to call him Johnathan.

Waiting so pleased you are ok and congrats on your baby boy :)
Good luck to everyone who has scans this week. I feel a bit over-prepared now to be honest, if that's even possible?! I have had everything - and I mean everything - for weeks now!! It must a mixture of excitement about it being our first baby and me being a control freak
14 more get ups until the 6 weeks holiday...cannot wait! Hope everyone is well :)

WaitingForMe That must have been scary but glad you and your little boy are ok

Titsalina Congratulations! I would love to have three boys. Nice to see more good scans and good luck to everyone that has one coming up.

I think we are going to call our son Cyrus. DP was so tired last night when I asked him that I don't think he took it in. We were both shattered and went to bed 2 hours earlier than normal. Even the dog crashed out and took himself off to bed without us telling him.

My cousin who is the same age as me has been trying for a baby for several months but nothing has happened yet. She already has a little girl but is desperate for a boy and is a bit jealous that everyone seems to be having boys at the moment. Hopefully she'll get her wish and not be far behind me. We grew up together and my mum even had a double buggy for the two of us so it would be really nice if our children could grow up together as well.

So, have my scan date!!! Next Tues 11.50. After keeping me waiting all this time, they give me a week's notice??!! At least its a non-work day, so no cover required. :)

yw your attitude towards 'stuff' makes me feel much better. We will also have baby in our room for first 6 months so there really is no major rush. Our house is tiny as well so there will just be no room for masses of new furniture. It would be nice to have a large sunny room with a theme and a rocking chair for me but baby doesn't need any of it.

waiting that sounds awful. I am glad you are baby are fine.

Hooray chunky!

Yay chunky. Finally!!

waiting that must have been a horrible experience, but so glad that you and your little boy (yay!) are ok :) And definitely fate that the opposite side to the placenta got hit!

chunky Glad you got your date! To be honest I envy the fact you only have a weeks notice - that would have done me just fine as I knew really early on when mine was and all the waiting and worrying drove me crazy!

Thanks everyone - feel quite calm about the scan at mo because s/he is very active in the last day or so, so I kind of know s/he's 'ok'. Remind me of this in a week though won't you?

Best/most useful hint/tip I got re; changing baby. Get 2 changing mats. One for upstairs, one for down (if that's relevant to your accommodation) as it really saves your legs!! Our Boots changing mat is still going strong 2+ yrs on & the cheap Asda one only recently got disposed off, with the slight tears at thd seams. We were given a changing table (wouldn't have bought one) but found it useful for storing a lot of baby stuff early on. As soon as DD rolled/nearly fell off, it went in the loft!!

Quick question... is anyone decorating their nursery? If so, what colours are you going for?
I want something bright and cheerful but not too sure about yellow being a bit boring. We've been looking at the Crown 'Soft lime' '1977 lime' or 'lime green' and also Crown 'Happy daze' which is yellow. Thought about half yellow, half green or all green. I really want bright orange but think it may be a bit much so i'm going to paint some bright coloured canvasses instead I think

waiting and tits congratulations on baby boys :) and glad you're ok waiting - that must have been scary.

yw DD has only just moved into her own room, after I finally got sorted and decorated - she's 18 months! I am determined to be slightly more organised with this one, but not to the point where I plan to do anything before she's actually here.....

I bought a Phil and teds off ebay, picked it up yesterday, it looks really good BUT .... I cannot get the bloody thing to fold! I've had a look online and apparently there is a bit of a knack to it so tomorrow I shall have another go and fingers crossed I can do it or I'll have to walk everywhere!