November 2012 - nearer the end than the beginning

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dectective hope you managed to get some rest and have a better day today.
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detective so sorry you have had that happening. It is even worse being a midwife I am sure, as you know the score, and cannot be placated like regular mums. Hopefully the night brought you sleep and rest, and the tightenings have gone. Good that little one was wriggly though x

DD2 has chickenpox. Thankfully I am a bit more mobile today, and as yet she is not too bad with it. Fingers crossed she just has it mildly. Just messaged her best friends mother as they are due to go abroad soon. She may not thank me for it, but I for one would rather know. She can then decide for herself.

detective glad all seems to be ok at the moment. Hope you got some sleep and that the tightenings have stopped today.

I've had nightly tightenings for a few weeks, midwife says its Brixton hicks they only last a couple of hours but are enough to make me wince. Glad you're ok though Detective
I plan to stay in today and snooze an maybe potter.
I have an extra child after school today, I'm not looking forward to it, she is a little madam spirited lass.

Hope the tightenings are gone this morning detective and you managed to get some rest! It was good your little on was wiggly last night

detective hope it is 'just' an infection and nothing more sinister. Must have been v scary.

Hope you're ok detective and everything's calmed down this morning. Last day at work for two weeks :)

detective I hope everything is ok today, i'm certain you'd know if something just wasn't right. Fingers crossed the tightenings have stopped now :)

Kyzordz Try and get a moisturiser that isn't water based, as they don't work. I use palmers tummy butter when i'm itchy and when I get out of the shower, and it's fab.

For the stats - I'm 24 weeks today and due 9th November :)

Swiss if you are due 9th, you will be 23 weeks today.

Detective - sounds scary I have lots of pg paranoia this time (hence this post) and hopefully it will be that or at least something easily sorted.

I am 21+ 4 today and have an anterior placenta. I had my 20 week scan 2 weeks ago ago and all was fine. I hardly ever feel this baby kick. Sometimes I get more than others but recently this seems to have decreased. I feel absolutely crap too (nausea and tiredness returned). Am I just being paranoid or should I ring the midwife?

Thanks for your advice in advance x

detective how are you now? scary stuff, i'm glad you got it checked out.

YellowWellies the whole 'compress the windpipe' thing is a new one on me!! I had heard you shouldn't put a baby in a car seat for longer than a couple of hours because it is a curved position and they should lay flat as newborns, therefore can put pressure on their spine. I always feel sorry for the little ones I see in car seats whilst Mum is pushing baby around Bluewater or whatever for hours on end... I am sure if there was a real suffocation risk then it would be common knowledge. However, my DD was almost able to hold her head up from birth, so I had no concerns there.

Jen I'm of the opinion that any worries at all should be discussed with a midwife, they shouldn't mind putting your mind at rest.

NEWS FLASH! My bellybutton is popping out never happened with past pregnancies and I'm not nearly as big with this one... How does that even work?!

Haha Fatima! You have cleaned them out!

The car set thing is interesting. We were talking about Christmas last night. Both sets of parents live quite a distance away - 150 miles and 250 miles. My parents will have two grand Babies to choose from as my sister is due a fortnight after me. I don't think I will be up for going anywhere actually. If I can breastfeed I will be at it every two hours (I think. Am I right) and just don't think I would be up for sitting around in company while doing it. DH is completely fine with that and people can always come to see us as they won't be staying overnight. It's all quite a thought.

jen may just be growth spurt, or you brewing a bug, but you are clearly worried about your baby. Get it checked out, and you may well feel a lot better. Much better to seek advice than get yourself more and more distressed x

When I had DD1 she used to spend hours in her car seat, as we had a travel system. It has all changed in 6 years. She is fine, still breathing and spine is ok. You can always get a baby out on a plane or in airport, and it will need feeding and changing anyway. I must admit I would not now use a carseat on a pushchair.

The windpipe compression isn't an urban myth. When my premmie niece was being released from the NICU - she had to pass the car seat test (i.e. able to sit in it for 20 minutes without any of her stats suffering) - babies are best lying down as you say because it keeps the spine straight but also as the weight of their head doesn't compress the wind pipe when lying on their backs, but in a car seat - their wee heads often end up on their chests. Try breathing with your chin on your chest. It's a SIDS risk until they can support their own head. Sadly, working in science, lots of real risks are not common knowledge or generally acknowledged, and being a bit of a misanthrope I don't have your faith in humanity!!!!

Detective, hope all is ok with you. When my sister went into early labour with her daughter at 27 weeks - she didn't actually get any tightenings until she was actually in the labour ward and it was very obvious it was full blown labour. The symptoms were pink discoloured wee the night before (which she put down to eating beetroot), period type back ache (but nothing as painful as a normal labour) and just a remote feeling of needing to be alone and lie down. So tightenings don't have to mean that little un is on their way.

MissMummy - good luck for your scan today!

Breast feeding will be constantly initially! Then there is the cluster feeding from 4pm to 10pm. Does not last for that long though.

I never minded feeding in public, but my MIL for one thought it was not nice, bad for the baby, did not agree with demand feeding etc. She stayed for 2weeks after DD2 was born - not to help, just to see baby and ignore DD1. She gets up about 10ish, and did not appreciate being woken by a crying baby and fractious 3yo. Needless to say this will not be happening this time. I have already told her. Did not go down well. I had had a section too, and she didn't even make me a cup of tea in the whole two weeks (not bitter though).

I had my tits out at every opportunity when she was here. Sometimes just to piss her off.

Valium I just realised that, whoops! 23 weeks today not 24!! :)

It is always annoying losing a week! I am wishing the weeks away, when I should be enjoying them I guess. Congratulations on reaching 23weeks! Yay!

My belly button is coming out too, it's half and half and looks odd. I feel really big today, def feeling the effects of the growth spurt!

Baby is rolling and kicking right down on my bladder/ cervix but can't work out if it's feet or head!

Valium Lawks, she sounds awful. I'm surprised you didn't toss her out on her ear!

She is ok really, just never does anything, and she does not drive more than 2 miles, so as I could not drive, I could not take her home. She has panic attacks on public transport, and has a bad back. She raised a lovely son though, and I could not have done that to him! Families eh?

Jealous of outies. Always wanted an outie.

I like my inny - will I definitely get an outy?

I must admit that I am a but squeamish about public breast feeding. Not other people doing it! Just me. I certainly think I would feel weird in front of my parents or my parents in law. Both sets of parents are used to us just doing our own thing so I hope they are understanding.

Just realising how little I know about babies. I don't know when they start doing things, when they stop doing things, what they wear, what to put them to sleep in! I was trying to tell DH this but he just said "we'll know when he should be doing things when he does them". In a way I think this is a great attitude but I am used to being ms informed and want to know stuff. Any tips ladies? Good books?

Your DH is right about you knowing. You will know your child better than anyone else. You will be the expert. There are major milestones, but these are guides and children do it at different stages, and this is nothing to do with how bright they are, how good a parent you are etc.

They tend to roll at around 4 months, sit around 6, walk around 1 year. Some crawl, some bum shuffle, some just get on their feet and cruise before walking. Obviously if a child is way out on these, there may be an issue. As a parent you would probably know this, and the HV would hopefully pick up on it.

With regards to sleep, they all like different things. One of mine hated being swaddled, the other could not sleep without it. I swear by gro bags, but others prefer blankets etc.

Thankfully they develop fairly slowly, but you will find once you are used to one stage, they will be moving onto the next.