November 2012 - nearer the end than the beginning

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:( about the Tena lady, I also might have to look into it. Usually I have a bladder of steel but an unexpected sneeze had caught me off guard a couple of times now Lovely response from your DH Waiting - mine would probably wave them around and crack a joke!

Congratulations to all those with positive scan results. What shape is your placenta StuntNun?!? Did your Dh turn up with a bargain McDonalds and you all smiled indulgently at him? (Sorry that was the image that came to mind!)

Scan this afternoon! School have given me the whole afternoon off which is really nice but can see that it is going to drag as I won't have anything to stop me from worrying - hope I can come back later with good news and a lovely scan pic.

Good luck Candy hope it goes well for you too.

Bubba seemed to have doubled in strength overnight. His/her kicks were so strong that I'm sure if I looked at belly it would have moved! Bubba also seem to have moved higher up towards the centre of the belly.
Is this a paranoid thought .... But I can't help be worried about bubba getting into a twist and wrapping its cord around its neck . U hear it can happen at birth but what if it happens between the last scan up unto birth ?!

Anyway need to get through till early afternoon then will find out whether we will have a ds or dd!!! Good luck lilliana and any others with scans today !!!

Another one going to be requiring tena lady - I suffer with hayfever really badly this time of year and cant take anything, and with every sneeze I have to clamp my legs together - not always possible or practical and am having some leakage!

I'm sure the risks are minimal candy. We all got here ok didn't we?

Hmm... I woke up this morning and I feel normal. The constant ache I had across my stomach the last two weeks is gone. I'm not sure I want to feel normal though. Still not feeling baby moving much because I have an anterior placenta so I need some kind of reminder I am actually pregnant and not imagining it

The cord is always a risk, but most babies are born fine, and some are born with true knots in the cord. Sometimes babies do die in the womb, but worrying about it will not help at all. We have to stay hopeful. Getting this far through means our chances of getting our baby are very high indeed. The riskiest time is passed. Our job is to look after ourselves and baby as best as we can, and report any concerns to the professionals, like reduced movements later on as this is the best sign that baby is struggling with something. The cord is a wonderful thing as it gives the baby everything it needs for life.

Good news on all the scans and good luck for the ones today :)

Very true valium! I know the risks are low but just can't help worrying about it, but I guess from the day we got ourselves pregnant we have signed ourselves up to a lifetime of worries!!

On a lighter note , anyone thinking of getting professional newborn pics done ?

Candy I had that worry too still does in a way but as you've said a lifetime of worry ahead!!

Yes might get some pics done at about 6weeks for Xmas presents lol

Good luck with all today's scans!!

Lilliana apparently my placenta is lobed instead of round but a quick check of Dr Google seems to say that placentas come in different shapes. It must be the caesarean scar that affects the formation.

Anyone heading for the Tena Lady please be sure to do your pelvic floor exercises whenever you remember them. Every time helps even if you only remember them once a day. Plus they're supposed to make sex better too if we ever find ourselves in the mood!

I'm having a hard time deciding whether to go back to work after this DS3 or not. I've been keeping the childminder waiting as she needs to know whether to look for more business but I need to make a decision soon. Currently 40% of my take-home pay goes on childcare and petrol costs for work. If I return to work it will go up to 60% of my pay. It's hard to weigh up whether we need the extra money enough to justify sacrificing so much of my salary. I feel like I'll be working just to pay the childminder but in reality those extra few hundred pounds a month would make a big dent in the mortgage. There's also the worry of trying to get three children, one of whom has special needs, ready and out to the childminder every day. When I had DS2 I felt like I wasn't seeing my children at all during the week and cut my hours from 40 to 35 but then it makes it less worthwhile to be working at all. DH doesn't want to make a decision because it's too stressful. I am very aware that whatever decision I make has to be the right one because if I'm going back to work I'll need to keep getting childcare vouchers while on maternity leave and pay the childminder a 50% retainer every month. Whereas if I give the childminder her notice I probably won't be able to find a childminder in my area that can take all three children.

Sorry for the essay, it's good to get it off my chest though.

I definitely want some professional photos done. Great idea to give them as a xmas present as well, I hadn?t thought of that. I have seen some lovely photos people have posted on facebook and will get some quotes nearer the time.

Thinking about childcare and coming back to work is a headache isn?t it? People are asking me already what my plans are. I just want to meet my baby first and enjoy him for a while before thinking about anything else. The only thing I know is I am absolutely not working full time.

I wish I had a choice about going back to work. I am not sure how I will afford childcare for three. Will likely have to drop hours so I can at least have all three from after school. One will be in school, one will qualify for free nursery hours, and the baby obviously will be full time. Need to talk to work and nursery to see what I can do. DH is a sessional worker. Unfortunately he is not cut out to be a stay at home dad. I would love to be able to give uyp work. I have considered moving to a cheaper house with no mortgage, but with three kids that will be tricky to manage. Thank God for tax credits.

Stunt 50% retainer is a huge sum of money to pay out every month?! Only you know your financial situation and what you can afford to do.

Hopefully it'll all become clearer!

Valium I am with you on tax credits - they do make a difference (and child benefit). Lovely to hear more good scan news and good luck to everyone today.

Went to Ikea yesterday and after 4 hours (and a really nice breakfast) came out having spent a fortune. Funnily enough, the baby's stuff was the cheapest - 34.99 for the cot and 59.99 for a mattress (I wanted a spring one). I think some sort of nesting instinct has kicked in and everything we've been meaning to do for ages (paint the DCs room and get them proper wardrobes, get dining room chairs that don't wobble every time you sit in them, etc) suddenly has to be done before November. Going to write a huge list of jobs for DH today - normally I'm quite laid back about things round the house, so I don't think he's going to know what hit him!

Good morning,

Congrats on all the lovely scans.

Pre-pregnancy I would have argued that my pelvic floor muscles were in top-top condition. This would appear not to be the case. Sneezing, coughing and generally having a small person playing bouncy on my bladder seems to be reeking havoc. I have had bladder issues pretty much from the beginning and it is now getting pretty bad. Most days I end with with wee-knickers even if I am completely unaware of it happening.

Am watching This Morning for the first time in a very long time. I hadn't realised it had become the TV version of the Daily Mail.

Anyway, my actual job for this week is to sort out clothes which I can no longer wear. My drawers are stuffed with clothes that no longer fit and the ones which do lie in a pile in the 'nursery'. I have no idea what I will do with them once they have been taken out the drawers.

I really struggled to get to sleep last night due to back pain. The ONLY position I could sleep in was on my back. I know it's not ideal but lying on either side was just making things worse. I was looking at a cushion which rolls up into a circle as can be used as a nursing cushion. I think that would be good as I am not having a nursing chair so will be sitting in bed or on the sofa.

I need to write some to-do lists as well. I want to have everything bought/the house sorted by the end of next month really while I still have the energy and my bump isn?t too big.

I?m doing exactly the same thing at the moment Passmethecrisps. I have tonnes of clothes I don?t wear and no room for the ones I do wear so it needs to be sorted.

Congrats on everyone else that has had their scans and good luck to those today.

fatima I will try and remmber to take a photo and upload it to my profile. I'm not very techy though so goodness knows if I can! I could do it to fb but I'm not a member of the group, need to sort that out! Plus I don't have the room set out proparly yet, everythings still in boxes with crap in the way but I'm very pleased with the colour. Once I get the rest of the furnishings (curtains etc) and the furniture up I reckon it's going to look very good.

I'm away next week in a cottage I've been to before that doesn't have wifi so I could struggle to keep up with this thread! Having a shopping trip to Ikea when we're back to get DD a new bed, chest of draws and furnishings. I may even treat the baby to something. Feel quite bad as haven't bought it anything yet. All purchases have been for DD so that her baby stuff is free for number 2. Better get some bits so that it deosn't just have hand me downs!

We're planning on going to Ikea tonight Daisy, is there much baby stuff in the sale? I think we're just going to be looking at things today, but if we see anything we really like we might as well start purchasing!

I'm begging to get a it antsy about not having anything! I have made 6 fleece lined blankets in them most adorable fabrics I could find (DP picked a lot of dinosaur/animal based ones!) and MIL is knitting a rainbow blanket for us, I can do anything on a sewing machine but knitting needles baffle me.

Apart from that, nothing! The big furniture isn't possible yet because we have some moving around to do, but vests/babygrows etc I want to get in.
I'll be bfing so I won't need bottles and sterilisers urgently, I keep worrying that i'll buy newborn stuff and end up with a whopper that wont fit in to anything!

Well, that was depressing! All my clothes now fit in one drawer. Over the last couple of years I have put on a few pounds so there were plenty of clothes I was looking at I was thinking "will I EVER fit into those again?"

At work, loads of woman have come back to work looking absolutely fabulous - much thinner than before. It is such a stupid thing to feel pressure about when there is so much else to worry about but I do. Don't get me wrong, I am not talking pre-baby body to Heat proportions but all these ladies come back looking so fit. I know that when the time comes I won't actually care.

I think my cat just felt the baby poke her! Made me laugh. I had been gulping a can of lemonade straight from the fridge which made the baby do a great big kick right against where the cat was lying against me. It can't have been much but it was enough to make the cat lift her head quizzically. I am sorry that DH has missed this - he giggles to himself whenever he thinks about that happening.

misslaughalot I couldn't see any baby stuff in the sale (couldn't see much stuff at all in the sale to be honest, which was disappointing). Even not in the sale tho I think it is still fairly reasonable. They had a really nice big play rug for babies with a monkey and rabbit with ears sticking out and things like that, which I was really tempted to get, but I have decided that can be the baby's Christmas present (keep thinking that's another thing I have to be organised about as not sure if'll fancy lots of Christmas shopping was a newborn).

Has anybody considered getting the black and white canvas folding changing table from ikea? I will use a table for a couple of months until I can sit on the floor again. I do all nappy changing on the floor, but having a section will mean that is not possible. Hoping to have DD2 potty trained by then!

Good luck for the scans today ladies. Mine is on Friday and I can't wait to see the wee parasite again! (Must think of a nicer nickname but damnit that one has stuck).

Passmethecrisps haha re your cat. I think our cat is getting pissed off at my new (more) convex shape as it's difficult to balance on for him.

I'm now intrigued by the idea of a video monitor rather than playing the 'standing silently outside the bedroom door listening and wondering if they will self sooth' game. Am off to scare myself by seeing how pricey they are!

Oh and anyone struggling sleeping - I'm loving my £9.99 bargain full body pillow from Lidl - you can sleep on your right, left sides and on your tum on it. Brilliant! Am sure you can get similar on ebay if you don't want to go for the £40 branded versions like the dreamgenii - and you get £30.01 extra to spend on cake things for the baby.

DS3 for us here! Scan was great, nice chilled healthy baby, just seems an age until I meet him properly. My two DS's are totally unlike each other so cannot wait to see what DS3 is like. I am really hoping for brown eyes (i know this is weird) but I have a gorgeous blue eyed boy, a beautiful grey eyed boy so it would be nice to have the set!

Physio tomorrow and cannot wait. Hoping they have some magic fairy dust to make the pain go away. They will right?

Off to buy blue things..

Yey Brockle! Fingers crossed you get a brown eyed boy. (I have a friend who has triplets, and they are brown, green and grey eyed respectively - so you never know!)

Damnit I now want a video monitor - the BT 1000 looks awesome. Are these bad boys reliable / long lived enough to buy second hand on Ebay?