November 2012 - nearer the end than the beginning

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horsey you don't need a lot of stuff, babies just need someplace to sleep, something to eat and clothes to wear and some kind of transport and cuddles. There are a few lists going round on the pregnancy threads with what first time parents need.

But saying that, it is exciting buying for a newborn. If your budget will allow, go for it, most definitely!

It is exciting but as a first time parent I have found it overwhelming at times as well. It's all coming together now though. I've got all of the essentials now apart from clothes, a moses basket (which my mum wants to buy) and a bouncy chair.

My brother's girlfriend's mum has given me a load of boys baby clothes. They're mainly 6-9 months and 9-12 months so won't fit him for a while but it was really sweet of her to think of me especially as she hasn't even met me! There were a few baby books in there as well which are worth £15-20 each so I've got her a bottle of wine to say thank you.

I'm completely clueless when it comes to baby things - as is DH it would seem if the 'Rescue Boat' book he bought "for Junior" is anything to go by (still trying to convince him that a newborn doesn't need a Daddy sized quad bike...) There's so many things out there and I am an advertiser's dream - if you give me the right sales pitch and stick it in pretty packaging, I'll buy it. Our mum's (again not so much dads, I'm sensing a theme here with the men in my life and their ridiculous purchases...) have been fantastic at keeping us right about what we do/don't need and throwing the odd hand-me-down our way! My mum, bless her, is in the middle of moving house and I have to keep reminding her as lovely as it is for her to pass me box load after box load of 15 + year old baby toys and all my old school work "in case it's useful for work", we too are moving in a matter of weeks!!

On a slightly funny note - for everyone that's not me or the postie involved - I disgraced myself this morning jumping out the shower and grabbing the nearest towel to sign for a delivery (a hugely expensive boat helmet that we DO NOT need!?). Turns out my big pregnant boobs don't hold a towel up quite the same way as my tiny 32c ones used to. I don't know who was more embarrassed...

I think I need a list of things. We have been given a Moses basket (new) he'll need some toy bits (hoping other people will buy!) and a cot etc.

Think I'm just letting lots of stuff get to me at the moment.

I need to sort out the pony situation, then the holiday then I can focus on the baby. All while holding down two jobs and the business..... Yes that's why I nearly called in sick today.....shame I don't do sick days :(

Just back from scan. All is well. Baby's looking nice and healthy and of average size (whatever that is!). Managed to stay strong and avoid finding out the sex. Only another 4 months and I'll find out anyway...yikes!

Looking forward to checking in later and reading lots of other scan news.

Eliza brilliant news!! That's what I said about our llittle one everything was reassuringly average!!!

Great news Eliza!

Just home from our scan and everything is normal, I'm so happy to see that written in my notes! Our sonographer was really funny and he kept us relaxed all the way through, explaining what he was seeing but making lots of jokes too, absolutely fab!

Have a nice scan pic that I'll add to the FB group later.

We're still team yellow too!

Brockle Well I hope it gets easier for you work wise.

MissLaugh Birmingham, ouch. We are only 8 miles away from the centre of Manchester so doesn't take long at all, mine was in at midnight :) Congrats on healthy baby :)

Waiting So glad you are both OK, know what you mean about just glad the baby is healthy, I got so worked up at my scan, I didn't even think until after about the sex.

Titsalina Congratulations on your boy :)

Eliza Good news on your scan :)

So it looks like I am the only one who just doesn't get excited about shopping for all this baby stuff. I absolutely hate shopping and that extends to all this . A few weeks before I'm due I'll buy some white baby grows and vests, a white all in one coat thing, a few cardies and bibs and that will be it (nappies obvs). I'm being given everything else thank goodness except a cot which we'll get from IKEA after it's born (will sleep in moses basket for a bit).

When it goes into a bed, hubby is having to make a triple bunk bed so that the 3 youngest can share a room and the eldest has her own (teenage years) and that is the extent of our plans. It's not even because it's my fourth, with my second I didn't buy a pram until he was 3 weeks old, I just carried him about in a sling........

Congrats on the scans ladies :)

Shelly I'm sure you aren't the only one.

Great news on the scans, Eliza and MissLaugh.

Applepie when I had DD, I was amazed at how generous people were with their hand-me-downs. And they may look big now, but your LO will be wearing them before you know it!

Waiting So glad you're both OK.

Aye it's those middle of the night sleep apnoea / forgetting to breath moments that mean there's not a chance the wee one will be sleeping in the 'nursery' on their own until I've chilled out / stopped breast feeding / stopped being a total paranoid f&cknut!!! My niece (on DH's side) had an awful bright blue / stop breathing fit at six weeks, only noticed as DBIL was in her room putting washing away, and DSIL got bollocked by the hospital staff (nice?!!!) for not having her in their bedroom as apparently babies need sleeping cues to keep breathing all night. I just know that even with an angel sounds mat thingy I'd be up and checking it was working all night if I couldn't reach over and check the wee one right away.

Mindst I do sleep with the human steam train / aka Mr snorty Wildebeest (DH), and I myself do snore so loud so as to wake myself up (now I'm preggers ) so sleeping noises don't bother me (have shared a room with wee nephews and nieces as babies) if fact the poor little soul will probably be the one desperate to go into their own room.

Horsey don't worry about buying stuff, really really don't worry. If money is no object fine get a special baby chair, special baby mat, special baby changing station, special baby bookcase, special baby wardrobe, special baby chest of drawers, special baby car seat, special baby coat hooks, special baby decals, toys, toys toys, (repeat ad nauseum) but if on the other hand you think that life might be too short or, if like us, money is an object - then join the 'how much?!!!!, you must be having a giraffe' club . Babies seem to be like weddings - a great excuse for shops to double the prices - knowing that there is a huge guilt trip / lack of emotional sense involved in many purchases. Your little one really won't give a rats ass if the trimmings in their room are on trend, and realistically we'll all be so sleep deprived, covered in bodily substances, hormonal that the fripperies aren't going to make much difference. What you buy is not a judgement on how much you love your baby and it will make no difference in terms of how loved the little one will feel so long as he or she is fed, warm, cuddled and comfy.

DH and I figure that the less we spend, the less stressed we'll be, the longer I can be off with the wee one and the happier we'll all be. The best things in life are not things xxxx

Back from the scan! Everything was fine! :) The consultant couldn't be quite sure, as little wriggler didn't want to shift in a good position, but she couldn't see any dangly bits, so she said girl :)
I've got a very happy big sister here now although we did warn her we weren't 100% sure...
Consultant offered to see me again at 28 weeks for reassurance, which was very nice of her, as she had said before she would probably release me back to midwife-led care.

Blue that's great! Congratulations!

Congrats on all the healthy babies ladies!

Is it going really quickly for anyone else? I'm 22 weeks on Friday and I can't quite believe it!

As for buying baby stuff - I love it, and i'm one of those people who has to have everything ready. With DD I had everything by 6 months, with this one I have near enough everything apart from clothes and some more nappies! It's good though as I had so much stuff left over from DD so i've saved a lot of money!
No nursery furniture though as i'm in a 2 bed flat at the mo (trying to move) and baby will be in with us for the first 10 months or so. Already have cot and basket though! (The basket is a gorgeous handmade willow basket that my dad bought for me last time, but DD never slept in it so i'm hoping to get some use out of it this time!)
Took my icandy out for a walk today, DD loved it and so did I, especially when I was able to fit three bags of shopping in the basket

On a complaining note - I really have bad hips at the moment. It's so so painful to walk anywhere and just makes it worse. Thankfully I have a physio appointment in a week so I really hope they can help.
Is anyone else suffering with SPD? I feel for you if you are :(

Congrats to misslaugh, blue, eliza and titsalina plus anyone else I've missed out with a happy scan result!!

I'm back from 4 days in Ireland which was lovely but tiring.... And so hard not beng able to have a drink while everyone else can! There's only so much diet come and 7up I can drink, especially when the little one gives me bladder kicks!

Have you all seen that mothercare has 20% off orders over £100 online... Just ordered my cotbed mattress and it already had £14 off so paid £100 instead of £140!

Is anyone else finding it painful to drive? There was a time when I would happily sit and drive for 5+ hours at a time every weekend back in the days when DH and I worked at opposite ends of the country, and I had a 4 hour round commute for 6 months. But today, after a whole 45 minute drive, I was wrecked. My hips hurt, my back is sore and I was getting a horrible stretchy feeling in my pelvis every time I changed gear (none of the above probably helped by the fact I was desperate for a wee!) Surely 19 weeks is far too early for this?!

Diet coke not diet come... Ooops

Lovely news Blue xxxxx

Ya after today I want to hug you. Thank you. Right once I get finally get home after this shit day dh has another go at me for not completing many tasks and I've made a phone call I've been avoiding I may hang myself have a long bath and sleep!

littlelolly you have just made my day. Much hilarious laughter in the kitchen as I make dinner, to DS and DH's bewilderment.

My hips and lower back are achey. I had it last time but not till much later on. Felt loads better after a session of aqua aerobics last night, and am wondering if a. It of reflexology might keep me going.

Well done with the scans ladies

Congrats blue Eliza and anyone else I missed who had a good scan.

Looks like I have sold the pine double bed that was in our spare room. It's now the baby's room so I need it gone asap. Advertised it on Gumtree and a lady is coming to get it tonight. Just pleased to get it out the way but the money will pay for a mattress for the cot bed so that's a bonus.

blue and Eliza not blue eliza

littlelolly I laughed so much at that :o horsey sounds like you need a lovely relaxing bath and an early night, hugs to you. Congrats on all the scans that have gone well today :)