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[nickelbabe]

ooops, got a bit carried away there.....

sign in everyone!
let's hope we get some new graduates on here too!

Sorry to hear that Nickel, the good news is mini-strokes don't tend to do any lasting damage, so the 28 days of not driving/drinking etc is really just a precaution. I had the same a few years ago with my mum's DP - was really very scary (they turned up at my house one day with his half his face drooping and then it took me 3 hours to bully persuade him that we had to go to A&E)! DPs dad has had several major strokes over the past 10 years - ended up having to have surgery on his cartoroid (sp??) arteries as it turned out he had so much gunk in there he only had 10% oxygen supply to his brain... didn't turn out to be any brainier or wittier after the op though I think they ended up using the gunk as a teaching aid

Anyway, all will be well Nickel, so fret not, your dad'll be in good hands and they're doing stuff to make sure it doesn't happen again, so that's the main thing.

I'm a copper coil girl here (haha literally, my Mum's came half out and here I am!!) and had more trouble getting the damn thing out so I could TTC than the whole time it was in. I should book an appt to get a new one, but until DHs imroves enough to make sex an option again, I can't be arsed.
Exclusive bfing can provide total protection, but there is no way of knowing for how long for each individual and the first period can --will- take you by surprise, so better safe than sorry if you don't want a 9 month gap.

Oh Nickel how scarey for your Dad (and you and your family).

I wonder if that's the same as my dad, then Katee - with the carotid artery.

thanks for the hug. :)

Sorry to hear that nickel

Sorry to hear about your dad nickel. He'll be well looked after though. I hope your parents can still make it down to visit you.

I am going slightly mad here, as DS has been off school since Thursday with a rotten cold/virus thing. He's a snottery mess, but still full of beans and driving me a bit mad as I just want to have a rest and do some pottering about. The flat looks like a bomb has exploded, and I'm starting to wonder how I will cope once Bean arrives!

I went back onto Microgynon after DS was born, but I never found it as good as it was pre-baby. It used to work really well, so that I had really light periods and no PMT or cramps at all, but after DS they got really heavy and uncomfortable again, so I was quite glad to come off them to JS! Not sure what I'll do after this baby, but I don't fancy anything that gets put inside me (fnahr, fnahr) and I definitely couldn't be organised to take the same-time-every-day pill.

thanks :)

I'm definitely never going on the pill again - i didn't have any hassles with it, but just thought it was messing around with my body too much.

Morning all! How is everyone?

Well, DS is back at school today, and DP is at work, so it's just me and the cat at home. Bliss! Unfortunately I need to go to Tesco, but it's so nice to have a wee bit of quiet and alone time. I have really never felt so exhausted. I thought it would be better by now (18 wks today - whoop!) but I am just constantly tired, and I've turned into a right crabbit old sod.

How is your dad today nickel? Did they manage to get train tickets to visit you?

Spoke to them last night - they relayed the story matter-of-factly, which is sensible, considering my need for no stress.
basically, dad's got to have the blockage, which they now say is a thickening of the artery, so they've got to tie off the artery, clean it all out and put it back into action. all while he's awake. and it'll take about 2 hours, so he's got to sit with his neck exposed for all that time. I'm hoping they'll prop him up. But I guarantee he won't have any entertainment during that time.
So after this, nice, calm rendition of facts, my big sis rang me gushing with all about how worried she is, and how worried little sis is, and how stressful it is for mum and dad. Exactly what mum and dad were trying to avoid letting on to me in my condition.
I'm trying not to think too much about it - keeping the calmness of mum and dad in my head, rather than the worry that big sis is conveying.

Dad's really quite excited about coming down on the train, he knows about how long it'll take, the change in London etc. He's still hoping they can come next Friday, but I think it might have to be the week after at the earliest, judging by the time-scale and how serious this is.
My mum isn't helping because she's been going on and on and on and on about how she doesn't like long journeys, how trains make her claustrophobic etc, which is not what dad needs to hear - he needs to hear that he's got a solution to the concern of visiting me, and that everything's all nice and normal.

Aw bless you nickel. It's lovely that your parents are trying not to worry you, but it's only natural that you are. It sounds pretty horrible, but (and I really know nothing about these things!) it's probably quite a routine thing for the doctors to do. Does your dad have a date for it? I'm sure you'll feel so much better when you can actually see him.

I had some really awful dreams last night which have given me new resolve on the smoking front. I have my patch on and feel really determined. The stop-smoking midwife didn't turn up last week, and she has failed to turn up in the past too, so I'm not going to see her again and just do this myself. I know another pg lady at DS's school who was supposed to see her, and she didn't turn up for her either. I know we should all be strong enough to stop, as it's obviously the right thing to do, but she is supposed to be providing support, and it's really frustrating when she doesn't come and doesn't even call or text to say so. Anyway, wish me luck please (again). I'm really determined.

yes, tomorrow.
Very quick.
they wanted to do it today, but dad said he needed "a day off"

not the best start to your cessation, is it! a MW who doesn't show up! You could probably make an appointment with a general cessation counsellor through your hospital or GP?
Good luck - just tell yourself you're a non-smoker :)

Good luck BamBam, you can do this, and you will do it - and sod the stupid woman who can't be arsed to turn up (can you complain about her btw, she needs to be pulled up on this!). Keep going with the patches, and remember that every bit of smoke you don't inhale is a bit of smoke your baby doesn't inhale either Remember there's also gum you can chew (though MIL is still chewing it 11 years on!) so patches not the only option - or why not get one of those electronic things which give you the feeling of smoking without actually doing it?

Hi Nickel, glad things are moving quickly - less risk of things happening that way - and at least if he is awake for the procedure he doesn't have to go through a GA, so will recover a lot quicker, even if it is unpleasant for a couple of hours.

Keep with the calm thoughts

Fingers crossed for your dad, nickel

bambam good luck and be strong. I'd also recommend finding another counsellor, it is really tough and you need support. The mental habit is hardest to break so one of the cigarette like aids might help, or finding another ritual. My MIL used cinnamon sticks like a cigarette -it had the same effect getting them out the packet and chewing, plus apparently the cinnamon does something.

10 health benefits of cinnamon

Thanks for the support and advice ladies! I'm just back from Tesco and still have my patch on. I'm finding Fruit Gums are great to suck on as well, as minty things often start off a craving with me. It's now been 5 hours since I had a puff (pathetic I know, but great for me!) and I'm still feeling really determined. I will check out the cinnamon, and make sure it's okay to take in pregnancy. I also heard that liquorice root helps with cravings, so I might check that out too.

Gosh nickel it's all moving very fast for your dad, but it's great that the problem is going to be dealt with as soon as possible.

health benefit #11 (though probbly a load of old cods wallop) is it helps regulate the hormonal imbalance the causes a short luteal phase. Like I say no proper scientic evidence to prove it, but I drank cinnamon tea the month DD was concieved and she is now 9 and a half weeks old.

Keep fighting the good fight BamBam.

Hi all.

How did it go today for your dad nickel? I hope everything went well, and he'll be right as rain very soon.

I've been pretty crap on the quit smoking today, but preparing to get back on the wagon tomorrow. It's so fecking hard, and I feel so fecking useless. I've been feeling some rumbly-tumbly movements in the last few days though, so hopefully that will be a big incentive for me, plus scan in 12 days.

Hope you are all well.

It went well, apparently :)
They all waited in the waiting room while it was going on, they cleaned out his artery - the doctor said that it went well, and that he'd gone to recovery.
Then his blood pressure was low, so he had to stay in recovery longer until his bloodpressure went up to normal.
he was in the ward overnight, so it was all fine.
Mum says they're not going to visit when they said, but they will as soon as they know he's well enough to travel. This is actually mainly because she doesn't like travelling, and makes herself panic when they're due to go on long train journeys - which means quite often they're cancelled.

She also started telling me that there may have been little incidents before that now make sense - like him getting eye twitches and some ditheriness (which they put down to his age in general)

you're not useless, you're doing the best you can.
just remind yourself you're providing the best start for your baby. It'll be okay.

Really glad to hear that nickel! Hopefully it won't be long until they can visit you, and you'll have a fighting-fit dad and a chilled out mum!

Glad to hear things went well nickel.

Bambam you are doing well by continuously trying. Keep it up!

thanks :)

Good news Nickel. Really pleased for you that it's gone well x

Keep up the good work BamBam.

Dad's home now - he came home yesterday afternoon.
Mum says he's annoying her
that's got to be a good sign!
He's getting busy making plans for coming down to visit, but they've post-poned it to mid october now. I think it's helping to take his mind off it all.
He did give me a lovely gory discription of the op, mostly that he could feel them faffing around, but it didn't hurt.
and that the anaesthetist used to live on the same road as us growing up - he didn't know which of the brothers it was though!

Bambam - hope you're coping today :)

can you get them to time their visit to coincide with DH going on his trip nickel? Might solve the cat litter issue glad all went well!

Keep going Bam!