TAMBA antenatal course if you already have a child

[BagofHolly]

Did any of you do the course and was it worth it? We had specifically asked when we booked, to go on a course with other couples who already have a child but the leader called today to say we're the only ones who are already parents. She didn't instil any confidence at all and just said that for the bits about handling a new baby, nappies, etc we could sit somewhere else and she would give us some other things to think about! She said the morning would be useful as it covers labour and birth of twins. I explained that I'm having an ELCS, it's booked etc and she snorted and said "oh lots of ladies say they're going to have a section but then they go into labour and it's too late." Er, no. No way. So on balance, this course doesn't seem for us. I've asked for a refund but they're trying to get us on a course at a different venue with couples there who already have children. So has anyone been on it? What did you get out of it, esp stuff related specifically to twins and a sibling?

Hi. I had twins my ds1 was very nearly 3. Didn't go on any course. Sorry. Sibling stuff is hard. 3 top tips:

1. When people visit/ help, hand the babies to them and spend time with your first child
2. Get the older sibling to buy the babies a small gift before they are born. And buy the sibling a gift from the babies. It was quite a lovely exchange. My 2 year old twins still have their small ikea cuddly toys!
3. Go easy on the older kid. Try and be 'nicer' than usual! (Which is hard when sleep deprived and child is misbehaving for attention).

In our case, I co-slept with twins (one or other or both, in our double bed) and dh slept with ds1 in a single bed, worked out for around 6 months. I think ds1 really valued that night time bonding with Daddy as dh works quite long hours. Not for everyone, but worked well for us.