Calling all third time mums...

[SamanthaB123]

While posting on another thread it became apparant that I wasn't the only third time mum feeling a little lonely and 'out of the loop'. There will be a ten year gap between my youngest and newborn and I don't know anyone in real life who is either pregnant or who has smaller children. Equally I have come across other mnetters who have two small children and are pregnant again who are also feeling a little worried. I thought maybe we could worry together...

Hi Sam, am also a 3rd timer with a 5yr old and a 2.9 year old. Although am absolutely over the moon am so much more worried this time also soooo much sicker!!! When is your baby due? Am almost 13 weeks so having scan on Wed, think that is making me nervy!! Although on the plus side have no worries about the actual birth!!

Hi wriggles . I am 29+5 and just feel like it's the first all over again. I am really excited and can't wait for the baby to arrive but nervous too. Good luck with your scan, do you have children of the same sex at the moment? It might be that you are more sick because you are carrying the other kind!

hi am goin to be a 3rd time mum in march, i have a 14 year old and a 1 year old so i no what u mean about the age gap i was scared but as soon as my daughter was born it was like i only just had my son a lot of things have changed though like with making the milk i used to make his up for the day and night and put them in fridge now you cant u have to make them when u need them,but am worried about my daughter she going to be 2 when this new one comes she been out star shes had mummy and daddy to herself as i dont get much out of my 14 year old,he to busy with his own life. but worried how she going to cope having to share us,,, ahh the joys and worrys of having a baby but at least i like the idea she has someone to grow up with unlike my son i no he ok and happy but i no he wanted a sister or brother when he was younger ...

Yeah both my dcs are girls so I could be having a boy or as one joker keeps saying it could be more than 1!!! Although my dds are fairly close in age, my eldest is 5 (just) and seems to have grown up so much, she has just finished her first year of primary school, my younger dd is very, very attached to me so am slightly worried that the new arrival will put her nose out although she is "baby mad". I am planning on not telling them for ages yet, I am already getting "when's Christmas?" questions!!!!!

Hiya :) Hope you all are well XX

I am a 4th time mum :)
I have Kieran 8, Kezia 3 1/2, Jorgia 2mths :) and My Siamese Angels i lost 7yrs :(

I had Hyperemesis throughout my preg with Jorgia and was a nightmare.. On Cyclazine which helped a lil.. went from bein sick 15x a day to only 2/3x :)

My Lil one Jorgia was 6wks early due to stress but was born very healthy weighing 4lb 14oz and didnt need special care. However soon after she was allowed home she sick alot and has now been diagnosed with reflux problems.. This means very lil sleep for me as she gasps n chokes on her sick at night and in the day.. she also gets very bad wind which she just will not bring up.. I am exhausted lol.. She also feeds EVERY 3hrs day and night as she was so ikkle he he
She is on baby gaviscon atm to see if that helps..

I have been anxious and have baby blues now as the stresses that brought labour on are still ongoing. But have escallated which isnt good.. The docs have put me on 'Happy Pills' but am very reluctant to start taking them..

6wks holidays and its tiring but well worth it :)
We had DP Other children too at the beginning for 10 days and they are Damo 6 (autistic) and Katie 4.. So was a mad house but still made it 3hrs away to skeggy for the day wll ALL of em... A nice stressfull day tho lol.. 5 kids in total aaarrgghhhh hehe

emma Dont worry as long as she gets 'mummy' time all will b ok.. Kez was used to only having me as KJ at school but now has to share me with Jorgia plus my DP other kids every so often as have only JUST started bein allowed to come visit us.
Congrats on all your Pregnancies XXX

Wigglesrock... Every time my kids see something they love they say.. I'll ask santa for it.. (even tho they both do not believe in santa)

T care all and i'll keep popping in to say hi so i know all is okies :) if u dont mind that is

thanks smilerjane we were talking about it tonight how we goin to include Eva into everthing am a childminder so i think she used to having lots a children around but this will be different as it wont be goin home like the other do at the end of the day a lot of changes to come my 14 year is all so called kieran kj as a baby but all grown up now hes fine with it all as long as they dont slobber in his room !!

Hi SamanthaB123 i am pregnant with my third too and will have a 10 year and a 7 year gap. It is weird how much has changed since last pregnancy (and how much more expensive things are!). Are your elder 2 boys or girls? You look like you are expecting around the beginning of Oct? I am 34 weeks, due Sept 20th. Good luck!

Hiya Emma.. Its ok :)
When i was able to after Jorgia was born i took all the kids to Build a Bear Workshop and 'Jorgia' bought the kids a bear each and my big lad 2 ds games as a 'welcome i'm here' gift so they saw her early arrival as a good thing.. Kezia still thanks Jorgia for her wonderfull Teddy with her own beating heart inside lol..
I find that eases the LOs as they have something else to focus their attention on.. Also if friends and family come with gifts have a few lil gifts in a drawer so she doesnt feel left out.. From experience of others the only reason the their other children felt pushed out etc is that every1 coos over baby and forget the other LOs.
My lad (also Kj, Kieran Jordan lol) Good Taste lol He was only botheres about having to share his room but being a lil girl he doesnt now so he is happy :)
No Thanks needed hun xx Try not to worry and concentrate on enjoying your pregnancy as i jealous of ladies who can lol.. hypermesis stopped me enjoying mine :(

take care sweetie
and keep smiling

Hi, I'm on pregnancy no 3 too Due 17th Jan! I have small gaps though, ds1 is 2.5 and ds2 is 14months So will be managing (somehow!) with 3 under 3. A little worrid, but vvv excited too!

Sorry for your loss smilejane Glad to hear your younget=st was so well being premature. My ds1 was 6wks prem, but poorly with it, he was 3lb6 and in SCBU for 4.5 wks. But that feels like it was a lifetime ago! Hoping that this pg goes like pg2 - to term and a homebirth!

Hiya mamasunshine

Congratualtion... Your baby'll be due near my 2 DC birthdays (Kj 23rd Kezia 19th Jan lol)Gosh u are brave Only joking, having 3 whatever ages is hard but definately exciting/rewarding.. because of bad preg i need time between to get healthy again b4 i even think of it next lol.. My DP already joking about No 4 AARRGGGGGHHHHHHHHH.....

Thanks, Its ok as i've learnt to deal with it now but never ever forgotten :)

Oh dear poor you with your 1st DC.. Hope he is doin much better now.. Jorgia was 4lb 14oz with apgar 9 so was really happy..
Homebirth!!! WoW always wanted one but my DP was like Hell No!! I could of done it tho ;) lol
Hope you go full term or only a lil early this time so labour goes as best as it can do :) XX
Will keep poppin on this thread to see if u post on how ya doing? :0)
Good Luck and Take Care XX

Hi Sam
Would love to hear how you told your 10 year old the news about a new sibling. I have just discovered I am 8 weeks pregnant (unplanned) and will have a 9 and 6 year age gap between the new arrival and its siblings- it's how I will tell the older two that's concerning me - their life is going to change pretty dramatically (good and bad, I know). Neither has the least bit interest in a new sibling! Any tips for breaking the news positively will be gratefully received as will any Q&A for handling the inevitable negatives! Thanks and good luck!

Hi hereweareagain you will have a similar age gap to me, as my 2 are 10 and 7 and am due in about 4 weeks. Are yours boys or girls? My eldest boy is so excited. I told him before i was 12 weeks as he was worried about me when i kept fainting! My 7 year old boy I told after our 12 week scan, and he was happy, but not really that bothered. He is however VERY pleased about not being the baby of the family anymore. I have also asked them both if they would be able to help me with the baby when it comes to things like feeding him/her and dressing etc. Both were quite happy about that and the younger one has drawn up a timetable of who is to help and when - totally unrealistic timetable but he enjoyed doing it! We also had a family discussion about which room to put the baby in, and they were both very much involved in that, and getting some of the new baby bits and pieces. Other than that though, they aren't overly bothered about it all the rest of the time! Good luck and congrats on your pregnancy!

Hiya hereweareagain

Congratulations on your news hun :)

My eldest is 8yr old and i just told him right at the beginning (well couldn't really hide it throwing up 15x a day) lol
My son was very supportive so i am sure your kids will handle the new arrival just fine. He did have some concerns as what happened with my 2 angels in heaven but i asked him to come to the scans to show him all was ok :0)
Keep them involved as much as you can (and they allow) and be there to listen to any worries they have is all you can really do..
Good luck
:)
Congratulations and Good Luck cluds as not long left i see.. I hated the latter stages of preg esp with hyperemesis
xxx
T care all

Thanks Cluds and SmilerJane - sounds like it will be fine! Have one boy and one girl, Cluds, so I am sure the biggest hurdle will be which one gets a sibling of the same sex! Think it's a great idea to get them involved - now debating if I should let my eldest know now, like you both did so that he feels a bit important at sharing the secret with us. xx

SmilerJane - so sorry, I have only just properly read your message from earlier (that'l teach me!). I am so very sorry for the loss of your Siamese Angels. How utterly devastating for you. I am a bit worried about you as you say you are suffering from depression at the moment. If the Dr has prescribed you Happy Pills, take them hun, please. He/She wouldn't give them to you if he didn't think you needed them. I had terrible depression after my DS2 was born, and wish, wish, WISH i had gone to see the Dr and got some pills but I was too bloody STIFF UPPER LIP BRITISH to accept that i had a problem.

I really hope you are ok? Look after yourself, you sound like a busy mum with your kids, and then entertaining your DP's kids too.
Lots of love x

Hey..

hereweareagain Hahaha.. Yeah my biggest thinga was the sex lol.. Kj said at 1st he wanted a brother till he realised he'd have to share his room... Then changed his mind to a sister.. When was confirmed i was having Jorgia he went 'yes' i dont have to share my room... But now he is like 'bummer' as when we finally move he'll have to have smaller room as girls would be sharing lol.. I have to say i have the most amazing loving caring lil boy and does anything for his sisters

cluds Thats fine sweetie Thanks.. Was a while ago now and having my DC makes it easier to deal with. The fact they were joined at their head makes it easier to deal with the heartache as what sort of life could they have had?? If gone full term there was no guarentee they'd even survive or even be separated. They would of been identical twins you see..
I know what you mean bout the stiff upper lip thing... I know i have a problem with depression that stems from my childhood.. good thing bout kids is that when they are about you can pretend everythings all good n happy.. its when they go bed the tears start or when having another tiff with my dp...
If it continues i will start taking em.. Dont worry tho hun as i'm used to bein superwoman n just gettin on with life :)
And yeah really busy when all kids here.. in the 6wks hols had 5 for 10 days then my nephew to stay for a wk, my eldest 2 went grandmas for a wk on hols and had my niece to stay and went home yest.. 2 days with my DD then they both off again till thurs.. then 2 birthday partys to go to then start school again on 6th so manic YES big time but great fun :)
Hows ur preg going? 4wks hey oh i giddy 4 u? Know what ur having yet?? T care hun.. Thanks 4 thinking of me

smiler you are one busy, crazy mama! Sorry only replying to this now, but relatively new to MN and so didn't know that you had replied to my post!
Preg going fine thanks, not nearly as nice and smooth as the first 2 pregnancies, but they were 10 and 7 years ago so am much older now! Really suffering from breathlessness at night and painful hip so not sleeping very well, but i guess that is natures way of preparing me for the sleepless nights when this one comes along. No idea if a girl or a boy and no real wish either way - just healthy please!
Try to take some time out for you! Even if it is just kicking everyone out of the house for an hour whilst you sit back and have a cuppa!
Take care x
38+1

Hi SamB :)

(& everyone else!)

Due in October also have dds 10 & v almost 9

One of my best friends is pg and I know people that are but no one to meet up with. Just been to local childrens centre this afternoon to see what's on so I can meet other Mums.

Hi cluds
I am not sure if you will check this thread again but *have you had baby yet?? And what is your angel if you have

Hi SmilerJane Thanks for your message - no baby yet! Was hoping the full moon on Thursday was going to help but no luck! Good luck with your move!

I'm also expecting DC3. I have two boys (5 1/2 & 3 years).

Despite DS2 being young I feel completely out of the baby loop! Apart from my job (part-time) our lives are packed with the boys activities, DS1s reading, writing, playball, ruby, play dates etc etc. I'm not sure how a newborn fits into all of that!

I held a friend's 10 week old DD last week and it felt really un-natural! Didn't know how to hold her, support her head! I handed her back pretty quickly!

I'm 18 weeks preg, due late Feb 2011, and will have a third cesarean.

Hello ladies

Cluds Thanks.. still awaiting final date and is frustrating but i'll cope
No baby Awww bless Gosh.. bless you so anytime now then.. Good Luck
Its still busy for me lol and now depending the outcome of my friends court date 2mo (if she gets her children back or not) (long story) i may end up having another 2 boys living here. If they dont go home this is her 2nd choice!! OMG what have i let myself in for???
There is no way i am seeing those lovely boys in the care system if i can help it i love them way too much...
So then that'll be 1 man (hardwork) Kj 8, Kez 3, Jorgia 3mth, simon 8, corey, 6, Two step-children damo 6 and katie 4.. oh and 2 cats 1 dog 1 terrapin ha ha ha ha ha
I would rather work longer hours doing things for the kids than see them in care!!
Apparently i'm selfish tho

Its not happening yet just got to wait till the courts decide.. Hope the SS etc see they were wrong and let them go home to their mother.. She is my good friend and she didnt ever do anything wrong apart from ask for help!

Hi Celia
You have 2 lovely DC who i'm sure you have done a great job with and i have no doubt you will continue to do so when your baby arrives and you melt into each other Just dont think to much of then, concentrate on now and be less stressed.. As you feel him/her grow your anxieties should lessen XX If not speak to your HV about it :-) (or you can chat here) I'll listen
Hope you have alot of support when you have your section
congratulations on your pregnancy sweetie

Its not easy juggling but if i can do it with my lot and i still manage to fit in cooking, cleaning, reading, playing with my LOs i am sure you will have no problem XX

T care all

Check back soon lol

Hiya,moms yes i feel the same as you all.I'am going to be a mom again have 2 daugthers age 7 and 6 now.i do have it hard sometimes, it has been a 6 years gap between this prenancy and my second .

Yep'does anyone get to feel a bit lonely?
Is just that i'am feeling most days really tired to do things.

Hiya i'm in same boat, have dd12 and ds9, and am nervous about starting again, and very nervous about being pregnant again, I was alot less neurotic at aged 23 than i am now at age 35!

you and me both broughtimroundtotheidea ! However, my gorgeous 3rd child was born 1st Oct, a girl, and the 2 older boys are being fantastic. So, so much easier than doing it with a toddler in tow! You will be fine.