Asking my baby’s dad for child maintenance for the first time after being born

[Georgia0810]

Does anyone have any advice on how to tell my baby’s dad that he’s just been born and to find out from him if he’s willing to support us financially? He cut us both out his life completely out of the blue a few weeks ago. (I’ve now found out the reason was because he’s been seeing someone else for the past 5 months).
Also baby isn’t here yet, I am still pregnant, he’s due in 4 weeks and just trying to prepare myself! I’ve felt hopeless, confused, absolutely broken and so depressed over the past few weeks not knowing how I’ll ever get through it and I don’t think he’ll even reply, but just so I know in myself I’ve done what I can to let him know he’s been born and I would like to know if he’s going to contribute financially to look after him and how to approach it in 1 message.
Thank you x

Go through the CMA process- do you know his address? Ideally his Nat Insurance number.

Hi.
just to inform you baby was born on x date.

would you prefer to go through CMS for child maintenance or a direct arrangement?

Don’t give him the option to not pay.

"Hello (ex partners name). I just thought that you would like to know (baby's name) is here now and was born (date). Obviously I would like to do what's right by our child and for you to be involved in their life and for you to financially support them. I would like for us to do this the amicable way so would appreciate you getting back to me as soon as possible so we can come to an agreement we are both happy with. If I have not heard from you by (give a fortnight's notice thats plenty of time) I will be assuming that unfortunately you will be choosing to not be apart of our childs life and I will be going to CMS to make arrangements for you to financially support our child if I have not heard from you by that date"

This one. No need for waffle, keep it businesslike.

*Danikm151 *has nailed it. Short, sweet and to the point.

I asm so sorry you are going through this unhappy time.

This works.

I'd say "your son/daughter, firstname, secondname mumssurname was born yesterday at XXX hospital. (S)he's doing well.

I'll submit a CMS claim for his/her maintenance when I get home unless you would prefer to pay directly."

Attach a photo if you want them to have a relationship.

Congratulations OP, and good luck.

This. Short, sweet and to the point.

No need for padding or politeness.

Did your ex-partner want this baby?
Were you using any contraception?

Noooooo - keep it brief!

Irrelevant.

Dont link being in your babies life with maintenance the two are entirely separate.

Was HE using any contraception?