No congratulations from gran

[FluentBee]

Hello
I'm looking for an outside perspective. I had a baby 4 weeks ago which I am over the moon and iv got nothing but lovely messages congratulations presents cards etc from family and friends.
However my nan - who is 86 and is compus mentus.Has lots of friends, always on WhatsApp didn't say congratulations to me. I don't expect gifts etc but I didn't even recieve card from her or a congrats message.

It's slightly complicated because my mum, my grans daughter are always falling out. My mum found out my gran didn't congratulate me after a week of my son being born and my mum called her out for it. Still I didn't recieve a text or card.
It borderline feels like my gran is not congratulating me and punishing me because my mum has spoke up about this

I am focusing on all the positives with having a new baby but I still feel a slight negative dint in this all.
Would you be bothered about this or forgive your gran?
It feels abit rubbish my son hasn't been acknowledged on being born :/

Have you sent her a photo of your new baby?

Many congratulations 🎉

Bearing in mind she is 86 I would start by at least calling /messaging her, informing baby is born and maybe showing or sending a picture.

I know she already must know but then at least you’ve tried and done your bit and then her response is then up to her. Regardless of her interactions with her own daughter she shouldn’t be taking it out on you and your own child.

Unfortunately we can’t control other peoples action and I understand it must hurt ,but focus on those people in your life that are there for you. Enjoy your little bundle of joy because being a mama is absolutely amazing and full of emotions that I just wouldn’t waste any energy on people that make you feel sad.

your boy has you and plenty of people that love him and want to be a part of his life. I’m sure though once she’s got over her hump with her daughter she will message and congratulate and even if she doesn’t I’d say don’t waste any energy on it.

Congrats on your baby and good luck on your new journey. I hope you enjoy every second.!

She’s 86! Give her a break. Don’t fall out with an old lady (who, not to beat about the bush, won’t be around to irritate you much longer) out of self-importance and silly family feuds. Take your son to see her.

Why care so much? Rise above this. maybe she thinks this is worth more than a glib text message. I would.
I have a friend whose family took offence about who saw the child first and how much congratulations they offered when she had her first daughter. As such they haven’t spoken for 17 years. So unnecessary.