Telling people I'm pregnant before 12 weeks

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I have just found out I'm pregnant, and it's not hit the 12 week mark. I'm really close to my family. I'm a only child so certain cousins are like my sisters.
Im usually in the pub most weekends, kinda known as the drunk cousin (makes me sound terrible🤣)
But im obviously not drinking now, and im dying to tell them.
I dont want to tempted fate but im also super excited, it's my first child and I dont think anyone ever expected me to have a kid.
Just after people's opinions what would you do?

Totally up to you. I’d tell close family. If the pregnancy doesn’t last then they can support you. If it does great!

Tell people.

1. if you have nausea etc, it’ll be so much harder if you have to hide it
2. someone’s going to say something at the pub anyway
3. it’s not like a miscarriage or telling people of it is miraculously not going to hurt you at 12 weeks + 1 day

4 - you ARE, indeed, as of today (and any other subsequent day you may want to tell people) pregnant!

Thank you ❤️ I probably will tell them because I can't hold my own wee.
I had a bit of s rough time in my 20s my fiancenhad cancer and passed away. Now I have a boyfriend who i love dearly. And were expecting, so as im sure you can imagine im over the moon. I just wanna share the excitement 🤣 xxx

I’ve never really understand why people don’t. Should the worst happen you would need the support of those closest to you, and if not then why not share your excitement?

Tell the people you need to for your own needs and support. If you need that person’s support should the pregnancy not be viable, tell them.

There's no magic "12 week mark". If you want to tell people, you should tell them.

I think the 12 week thing is quite old fashioned. That you wouldn’t talk about having a miscarriage. Whereas society has changed and it’s better to share hard times with people. If you want to tell them, then do it. Hope everything goes well for you 🩷

Im scared to 'tempt fate' but it's people I'm ridiculously close too

By that logic, you’d have to forever keep your kid a secret. Even if they were 18!

I think the 12 week rule just deprives women of support! Im nearly 9 weeks and I've told people close to us.

I need support and if this pregnancy doesn't progress I will need more support.

Congratulations!

About 6 weeks, I've booked a 'before the stalk' scan. And the midwife is due to call next week

Ah congratulations to you! ❤️

Agree, confirm there’s a heartbeat flicker first

Thank you! One bit of advice! Maybe push your scan back a week or so! You won't see much at 6 weeks and it can cause alot of anxiety! 8 weeks and you will see a lovely heartbeat.

When I was barely pregnant at all (6 weeks), we met friends for dinner.

’We must not mention it!’ we both agreed.

We sat down in the restaurant. The first thing my friend said was ‘are you pregnant?’ and I immediately admitted it. 🥴

I always told my family after my first hospital appointment- think around 8 or 9 weeks- I have been fortunate though and not lost any pregnancies. But I think I would have wanted them to know if I did so it made sense to me.

Oh really? I was going to do a 'before the stalk' scan because im just so excited! So if I do that I cam say to the midwife push it back and bit and hopefully they will! Xx

It’s not tempting fate. It’s putting support in place, should you need it. But also getting to share the excitement.

Depending on how far along you are, you can have an early scan. Rates of miscarriage decrease quite a bit once you have seen the heartbeat, so around 8 weeks.

On a transnational scan, they saw mine’s heartbeat (and could measure the BPM) at 6w2d

Transvaginal!

Yeah im in the position now. But because I've always been the "party girl" they will 100% get on to it when I dont drink x