Pregnant and scared to tell my mum

[Emma2407]

Hi ladies, so as strange as this might sound, I'm 34 and 5 weeks pregnant with baby number 4. My other children are with my ex husband. I'm with someone new, the happiest I think I've ever been and we move in together in 3 weeks. Now I will need to tell my mum at some point but my mum is extremely reactive and screamed and shouted at me when I was pregnant with my 1st, I was 22 and engaged and living my now ex husband. She is scary and uses things against me and spews venom when she's mad. I'm pretty stressed anyway with the move and other things going on that I'm actually terrified to tell her and I have no idea how to go about it. If anyone has any suggestions they would be very welcome. Again I'll add she's been very explosive my whole life and is pretty much the main source of my anxiety.

Don't tell her. She has no right to have a say in your life. Your life your body your choice

You'll have to tell her at some point. Will she react badly as your current children don't live with you?

My children do live with me well me and my ex have 50/50 shared custody so one week on and one week off. It's nothing to do with that I think it's just she wanted my life to be a certain way and is always going on about her friends children having degrees etc which I don't have but it's like my life choices aren't good enough if you know what I mean and I can never get anything right.

This

Your a grown woman op. Tell her, don't tell her but if you do just say ' baby due x month' and leave it at that

If she becomes explosive walk away, put the phone down you don't need to hear it.

Tell her in a public place if you're going to tell her face to face.

If she screams and shouts, tell her to fuck off. You're a grown woman and you can do whatever you want.