Why does no one care about your second child?

[Tiredmumoftoddlerandexpecting]

I had my second child 4 months ago, very few people even asked to visit and people just generally don’t seem to care or offer to help the way they did with the first.

just met a friend i hadn’t seen in a while, who is pregnant so naturally thought she’d be more interested but didn’t even ask me his name.

I didn’t do an announcement on social media this time so no one knows details, but put a family photo of the 4 of us so people know I had him.

is it just me or is this common for your second?

With your first, people are partly excited/congratulating you about becoming a parent.

With your second, that's all been done.

Exactly the same for me. My first DC had so many gifts I didn’t know what to do with them all and people scrambling to see them. The second DC received next to nothing and very few people came to visit in the first few months. I didn’t like it because to me meeting the baby is about the baby, not us as parents. I felt offended on my baby’s behalf!

You don't expect people who live and care about you too be interested in one of the most significant parts of your life? Why not?