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AngeChica · 02/02/2008 18:11

I had a post-mature appointment at the hospital at 12 days overdue. Since about 36 weeks the baby had been trying to engage and coming free again and was now not engaged at all. The consultant remarked that he thought I was carrying a lot of amniotic fluid and that this could cause problems with induced labours, the main one being the risk of the cord prolapsing if my waters broke. I had to go in as planned for my induction on the Saturday night and it would be monitored more closely than usual. I was told to throw any birth plan out of the window and my delivery would be medically managed throughout. Both disappointing and reassuring!

I was admitted Saturday night but the delivery suite went mental so I didn?t get my first dose of prostin til 2.30pm on the Sunday afternoon! Everyone was reluctant to start things off until consultant gave the go ahead. I was then periodically monitored as they were worried about the risk of cord prolapse (and subsequent crash section under GA).

On the Monday morning everyone was talking about prepping for a section but then the consultant swept in on her rounds and said try yet one more prostin and then controlled ARM - waters breaking - at 5pm that night.

When they eventually broke my waters an absolute lake let go but his head still didn?t come down. I then spent 12 hours on the Syntocinon drip strapped to the bed with continuous fetal monitoring. They cranked it up to the max allowed for the last 6 hours but it never established proper contractions - I just had severe backache. I had had nil by mouth al day as well because they initially thought I was going for the section. I hated this bit - it was like the longest night of our lives!

Eventually the on duty registrar agreed to do the section. He examined me and could still push the baby?s head up - it was not engaged at all and still in a lot of fluid. He mentioned the strong possibility of CPD at this point (large baby, small pelvis). Although it was the lowest category of emergency section I still felt extremely anxious about having a surgical procedure.

When our son was born the staff all shouted that he was a very big baby to us straight away - he weighed 10 lb 14 oz. They gave him to my husband to cuddle and they went off to recovery because I started to feel really sick and dizzy, so they gave me an additional narcotic to the morphine (not sure what!) which sent me extremely out of it for about half an hour. I then actually had a larger than normal bleed from the placenta removal. All I remember is the horrible sensations - that it was quite violent getting Aleksander out and then even worse when they were massaging my uterus to get it to contract down - like being punched in the stomach. I also felt them insert something up my back passage to help stop the bleed.

I had nightmarish visions of the section afterwards and when doctors and midwives tried to talk to me about it I would get very upset. This has gotten a lot better now.

I?ve been told Aleksander was macrosomic (although his blood sugars were fine) and I had polyhydramnios (excess fluid). None of this was picked up in my ante natal care although I had high urine sugar for ages, I never tested positive for gestational diabetes which is the most common cause of the above conditions. Also they will confirm that I have cephalo pelvic disproportion at my debriefing at 6 weeks. I was told I will have to have an elective c section if we have another child and at first I found that thought terrifying but getting better about that idea now! None of this is what you read about in Dr Miriam?s childbirth book either!

The 24 hours in recovery and 3 days on the ward afterwards were horrible but I have a gorgeous big strong baby boy who was never in any danger and DH and I adore him. I am disappointed I never had and never will have a ?normal? birth and that it was all so ?medical? though. I know these things don't happen in the majority of cases but wanted to share my story because I think it may be useful to others, if only to say make sure you prepare yourselves for all eventualities!

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beansprout · 02/02/2008 18:21

First of all - congratulations!! and welcome to Aleksander!!

I'm sorry to hear your care wasn't what it should have been and that you have had an upsetting time. I had planned a water birth in a birth centre and ended up with an emergency c-section (and a 10lb 5oz baby) so can relate to a lot of your story. I have just had my second by elective c-section and it was a very different experience to my first. Do try to get some support and talk through what has happened. I wish you well and hope you and ds are doing well.

yama · 02/02/2008 18:30

Congratulations. I love, love the name Aleksander.

What an ordeal Ange. What a shame you had to go through all that.

I too will never experience a 'normal' birth due to a spinal condition but I just focus on the positives. My elective section was straightforward and I recovered quickly.

My Mum had 4 sections (2 emergency and 2 elective) and says the difference is huge. She says her electives were like going on holiday in comparison.

MarsLady · 02/02/2008 18:32

Congratulations on the birth of your son. He sounds a good size (my 5'2" cousin had an 11lb 4ozer).

I second Beansprout. Do talk your birth through with someone and de-brief it properly.

I hope that everything else is working well for you.

OverRated · 02/02/2008 18:51

Congratulations

ayrshirelolo · 02/02/2008 21:08

Congratulations Ange, and thank you for sharing your story. Sorry it wasn't the way you planned, but delighted that Aleksander arrived safely, and what a big boy!!!! Hope you are feeling better soon, and the experience hasn't put you off having any more! x

omy · 06/02/2008 12:30

Thank you for sharing your story AngeChika. You really went through the mill but you all came through! I have just been told I will have to have an induction on Tuesday if no baby by then so am getting my head around the idea. Enjoy our lovely Aleksander!

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