Aibu baby shower

[Briar250]

Hello there

my little one is 7 weeks old, and I’m over the moon.

thing is, a distant relatives gf is having a baby shower and asking for specific gifts.

this relative has not even been to see my baby.

my aunt who is the relatives mum in law, came to visit but not even a card. And forced her way in practically.

am I being Unreasonable that this person is expecting me to buy her a gift and attend for her baby when they made no effort what so ever with mine?

i can see that they have no obligation and likewise, just feels a bit of a cheek tbh.

thanks

YANBU- if you want to attend, if you don't/
Don't. I wouldn't take a gift. If she gives you a gift for your baby at the shower. You can always get her one when the baby arrives

It is an invitation, not a summons, and therefore no more or less cheeky than any baby shower.

If you don’t attend, there is no need to buy a present.

Did you have a baby shower and invite either your aunt or relative or the mother to be? If yes, you can’t complain about being invited as they are simply reciprocating. If not, you can’t complain about being invited because they might actually want to see you (shocker, I know).

As for only aunt (not relative or mother to be) visiting the you and your baby - do you think maybe they are tying to give you space and wait to be invited?

Don’t attend. In my culture baby showers are unlucky so I don’t attend (I used to, but have since grown a backbone and don’t attend).