I went into labour and while in the hospital my baby’s heart rate dipped and kept trying to recover but would just dip again and again. A dr came in and checked and he said the cord was under babys head so cord was coming out first and this was an emergency and I needed a c section. I was so scared of needing a c section but of course I agreed because it was the only way my baby would be born safely. I was rushed into theatre and everyone was lovely except this one man dressed in red he was in his 50s and it looked like he was perving on me and he had to spray me with cold spray he kept lifting up my gown and spraying the sides of my breast I felt very uncomfortable I was naked under the gown because I wanted skin to skin and then once my baby was born my midwife put the baby on my chest and covered me and baby with a blanket and my partner looked over as he seen the man standing right behind me and he was staring at my breast that was on show that I hadn’t noticed as I was looking at my baby on my right side and my left breast was on show and my partner pulled the gown back over my breast and the man walked away. I was then asked about having a tablet placed in my bum and asked if I minded who did it, the man in red immediately said he will do it and I said no I want the midwife too as she said she would do my catheter so I wanted her to put the tablet in too, the man in red said I don’t mind you know. I said but I just want the midwife too! The other man who was the one who done my epidural agreed that the midwife would do it if I requested that as 99% of the women request the midwife and who want would a male putting things in her bum! I was then put in recovery some time later and the midwife was helping me to breastfeed and the man in red kept coming in and the midwife in the end told him to step outside of the bay and keep the curtain closed and he can talk to her through the curtain and that there is no need to him to be in the bay with us. He sat right outside where the curtains met and kept peeking through to watch me breastfeed he was staring at my breasts every chance he got! I feel really traumatised by needing an emergency c section and how bad things could have went but to have an old man perving on me at such a traumatic time in my life I feel violated and I know I wasn’t imagining it as my partner seen him and the midwife had to tell him to back off !
am I just being silly because I was having a bad day and now my hormones are coming crashing down or should I be feeling this way? I keep crying over it all and having flash backs of it all. Didn’t mind the midwife doing my catheter or putting a tablet in my bum or squeezing my nipple and helping my breastfeed as it’s her job but this man was just perving!