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Announcement drama

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aniluap1 · 15/08/2022 18:42

Hey

I am currently pregnant - 8 weeks.
I wish to tell both sets of parents at 12weeks.
However, as my mother has hiders she said not tell anyone until 16 weeks. Reason being let the baby fully grow and as extended family members find out they tend be jealous.

Everything I read online says 12weeks is normal time tell. She is insisting that I wait until 16 weeks. I am getting soo annoyed at her! Any advice

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Hippopotas · 15/08/2022 18:43

So your mum already knows?

youlightupmyday · 15/08/2022 18:43

12 weeks and it is your pregnancy not hers

youlightupmyday · 15/08/2022 18:43

Hippopotas · 15/08/2022 18:43

So your mum already knows?

Good point

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aniluap1 · 15/08/2022 18:44

Hippopotas · 15/08/2022 18:43

So your mum already knows?

Yeah she guessed it

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GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou · 15/08/2022 18:44

Tell people whenever you like. It's not up to her.

TimboWimbo · 15/08/2022 18:44

What is hiders?

Indiana2021 · 15/08/2022 18:45

Hiders?
Why would your extended family be jealous?
How can you tell nothing sets of parents at 12 weeks if your Mum already knows?
I'm confused.

Indiana2021 · 15/08/2022 18:46

both sets but I see you've now explained that your Mum guessed.

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aniluap1 · 15/08/2022 18:46

aniluap1 · 15/08/2022 18:42

Hey

I am currently pregnant - 8 weeks.
I wish to tell both sets of parents at 12weeks.
However, as my mother has hiders she said not tell anyone until 16 weeks. Reason being let the baby fully grow and as extended family members find out they tend be jealous.

Everything I read online says 12weeks is normal time tell. She is insisting that I wait until 16 weeks. I am getting soo annoyed at her! Any advice

Reasons not hinders
Extended family not being happy.

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HSKAT · 15/08/2022 18:47

Tell people when you want to

LaCasa · 15/08/2022 18:48

I told everyone as soon as I found out. It's entirely up to you OP.

LividLaVidaLoca · 15/08/2022 18:48

My advice is you’re going to need to be more assertive as a parent.

Do what you want and stop listening to your mum as if you were an errant teenager.

SirChenjins · 15/08/2022 18:50

It’s more common to tell people after your first scan around 12-14 weeks once you know everything is ok at that point - but do what suits you. It’s not your mum’s baby.

Johnnysgirl · 15/08/2022 18:51

as extended family members find out they tend be jealous.
Seriously?! Even if this were true, why is the time they find out of any significance?

LIZS · 15/08/2022 18:52

Being jealous Hmm won't change whether you announce it 12 weeks or later. Do whatever suits you. It is usual to wait until at least the 12 week scan.

NerrSnerr · 15/08/2022 18:57

Just do what you want. It's your baby. If she is going to be dramatic then step away from her for a bit.

dmb91 · 15/08/2022 18:57

I have a scan at 9 weeks which is when we will be telling parents then will tell all other family after 12 week scan.
It's down to me when I tell people, not my mum (although she's going to be so excited I'm not sure how she's going to keep her mouth shut!)

Your mum had her time of announcing pregnancy/s, this is your time.

You do you OP!

wishingitwasfriday · 15/08/2022 19:00

I would imagine that your mum is loving the fact that she's the only one who knows. Tell people when you want. Her opinion on this doesn't matter.

girlmom21 · 15/08/2022 19:02

Who cares what extended family think?

CaptainCreepsBourgeMobile · 15/08/2022 19:02

Your mum is a drama llama. Agree with pp you need to learn to be assertive. You're an adult (I hope) and don't need your mum telling you what to do.

And I'm not sure who is jealous and what they're jealous of? Do you mean you have relatives who are struggling ttc and it might be tough for them to hear?

ThirtyThreeTrees · 15/08/2022 19:08

"Thanks mum, you know I appreciate your opinion, but I have to do what's right for me".

On repeat. It's your pregnancy, your joy, your news. Don't get anyone spoil that for you.

Lmf685 · 15/08/2022 19:13

It’s your baby and your choice.if she decides this for you then what’s she going to decide for you next. Go as you mean to carry on. Mums tend to know best, but you ARE a mum now so you know best for your child and your pregnancy.

Iv had a miscarriage in the past so didn’t tell anyone when i was preg with my DD and lived in fear most the pregnancy of something happening.

However, I am currently 15 weeks pregnant and most people have known since week 5 as I have had the worst morning sickness. So work had to know and our close family as I just looked like death most days, couldn’t eat and was exhausted.

Searchingforsunshine · 15/08/2022 19:22

We waited until 20 weeks to tell any family for both pregnancies.

3amAndImStillAwake · 15/08/2022 19:32

She is insisting that I wait

So? This is your pregnancy, and your baby - she doesn't get to insist on anything. She can give advice, but she can't make you. I'd announce it when you want. 12 weeks is fine, so is waiting longer.

TheBeesKnee · 25/09/2022 23:23

What do you mean jealous Confused is everyone in your extended family sterile or something?