Giving the big news this Xmas

[ExpectingLady93]

I am currently 7 weeks pregnant, still very early days and due my first midwife appointment on 3rd December. Taking each day as it comes and being careful. Big fear of mine is telling the wider world and unfortunately losing baby.

We are being careful who and when we tell just for our own fears, we are both nervous as first time parents (28) but excited! DP is especially nervous but expect he will come around 😆

We were planning to tell family a week before Xmas. Would it be nice do you think to do it Xmas Eve or Xmas day? I don't want to shock my poor parents (will be a big shock for them, I'm the youngest sibling- it will be the first grandchild to my parents. My DP's parents have x2 grandkids already from his sister.) I am also seeing my sister and her partner on Xmas eve and Xmas day so I don't want to take too much away from them on their Xmas day... I know it's stupid to think that

Wondering how to break the news also, maybe a postcard? We don't have a scan photo yet! X

@Flyingbymypants

Please don't do it on Xmas eve/day. My stepsister announced hers at the table. What she didn't know was that I had had 3 miscarriages over the preceding 18 months.

Congratulations and wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy

So sorry @Flyingbymypants

Thank you very much. Definitely won't be announcing it over Xmas, the replies I've had have just confirmed it for me.

@ExpectingLady93

Sorry should have said, she doesn't have infertility issues that I know of. I know she's on contraception.

Yes but if she’s not in the position to be having children and wants them, the emotions are going to be similar.

You think you’re being kind telling her face to face but this really isn’t what most women who will be upset at pregnancy news say is how they want to find out. No one wants to cry about what should be happy news. It’s much nicer to do that on your own then you can put on your best fake smile when you meet in person.

At least drop some serious hints so it doesn’t come totally out of the blue.

@PurpleDaisies
I need to really have a think how to approach it.
Any ideas for some serious hints? Good idea

You may be very sick and feeling exhausted over Christmas. I would have been in every pregnancy I’ve had. First trimester can be seriously rough.

I’d tell them a couple of weeks before in a low-key way.

Thanks @Greenmarmalade the plan I am thinking is to drop the news a week before, then it will be a week until Xmas so hopefully waters have calmed by then.

@Greenmarmalade I'm very lucky haven't had any symptoms yet ... 🙏🏻🤔 just a very BFP!

Besides the cravings for juice and tiredness... I've had no nausea and breast tenderness. X

Let them whisper about why you aren't drinking but don't announce at 7 weeks. It's too early