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What's your opinion on telling social media about your pregnancy?

34 replies

El77 · 02/09/2021 14:30

I personally don't mind it and like to see other people's pregnancy posts but im interested in other people's opinions!

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bookh · 02/09/2021 14:33

I am the same as you re other people's. I however could think of nothing worse for me! Infact I never really told anyone I was pregnant with dd1 except work and dd2 I just never told anyone with covid. Except family who live close by. To the point that I was pushing the pram in the local town and someone asked me who the baby was

Trinacham · 02/09/2021 18:52

I'm 19 weeks and haven't yet but I think I will after my 20 week scan. I enjoy seeing old school friends announcements

AliasGrape · 02/09/2021 19:00

I put a post on social media after 20 weeks, no picture of my uterus or anything (I always feel a bit funny about scan pics on social media not sure why) just a 'by the way we have a baby due in July' type thing.

I was very very anxious throughout my pregnancy and I was conscious of trying really hard to feel more comfortable sharing the news. I also enjoy seeing other people's news - even when I was struggling ttc myself. I'm not sure I'd bother 'announcing' if I had my time again though, in retrospect it probably increased my anxiety more than anything.

Greytminds · 02/09/2021 19:04

I personally wouldn’t but I’m not a big user of social media. I’ve also had four miscarriages including a later one at 16 weeks. When I was struggling to conceive I did find the announcements hard to see sometimes, especially if they were close to my own due dates, but really it’s each to their own.

One acquaintance always did these detailed curated announcements - they were lovely. Only after the last one, no baby ever came as she had a loss around 20 weeks or so.

Knittingupastorm · 02/09/2021 19:07

I didn’t announce it at all. But I like it when other people do because I’m so nosey! But that’s the same for everything on social media, I never post, I just like seeing other people’s.

PrimeraVez · 02/09/2021 19:08

I didn’t announce as such, as the idea makes me cringe a bit (can’t really explain why, I am totally indifferent to other people doing it) but I didn’t shy away from posting photos where I had an obvious bump and would make references to pregnancy/being pregnant/having another baby in my captions.

ContadoraExplorer · 02/09/2021 19:13

I don't mind seeing it but I didn't with DD1 and won't be with this pregnancy. I've told or will be telling those who matter directly and that's enough for me.

DaisyChain16 · 02/09/2021 19:46

I changed my profile pic to one which had the pram in it so I guess it inadvertently showed I'd had a baby but I didn't announce it. Like others have said I didn't post anything about being pregnant or the birth etc etc and I 100% will not be posting any pictures of my daughter online. I think it's really weird that people are happy to do this.

Dipsydoodlenoodle · 10/09/2021 11:40

FTM 29 weeks here.

We told parents straight away, a very few select group of friends and extended family were told at 12 weeks. I then told a slightly larger group of friends at 20 weeks and then put a post on facebook a day or so later.

firstimemamma · 10/09/2021 11:43

I'm not on social media and only close family are allowed to see my scan pics but each to their own.

GinIronic · 10/09/2021 11:48

Close family and friends only. I would tell them in person. No one else will care.

Anon08 · 25/10/2021 16:12

I think it’s a polarising topic. Personally I haven’t and won’t. I know from speaking to friends that those announcements can cause a serious amount of heartache and I would never want to cause someone distress.

Miliao · 25/10/2021 16:47

Yes just close friends and family. Also agree with these kind of announcements causing a lot of heartache so I don’t see the point of inflicting that.

unknownscot · 03/11/2021 08:19

As someone who has gone through years on infertility and 3 rounds of ivf to get to where I am (7 weeks) I absolutely hate seeing social media posts.

We won't be putting a post up.

Evianontoast · 11/12/2021 04:27

I only put something up at 33 weeks. Just something brief saying she'd be here soon and a picture of me and my big old belly. I was in two minds about it but I've been anxious my whole pregnancy and hesitant to celebrate the whole time because I feared it'd go wrong. For me, making the post was a massive f*ck you to my anxiety, which felt really nice. Sometimes announcing can be good for you in that way. It made me feel like I'd really over come a lot and was finally allowing myself to be happy and celebratory about being pregnant, rather than giving in to the fear, but I understand it's not for everyone.

MelonTits · 11/12/2021 04:31

I didn’t but I understand why people do. It was occasionally quite awkward running into people in person and either having to tell them (“so what’s new with you…? Any holidays planned?) or it being very obvious. I’m not a gushy or exuberant person and I hate being made a fuss of, and sometimes I found that quite awkward.

RedRobin100 · 11/12/2021 05:08

No thanks. Anyone that really needs to know I’ll tell in person

Flutterby8 · 18/12/2021 08:54

I didnt announce my pregnancy online nor have i announced the birth. It just doesnt fit right with me. The people i needed to tell were all told personally. Social media is a bit of a rabbit hole. I have facebook and instagram but never post on there anymore.

EmilyZed88 · 13/01/2022 16:10

I've chosen to share on social media, at 29 weeks. We've suffered both an early loss at 9 weeks and the loss of our son at 24 weeks. I told family and are closest friends in person, and then only shared on social when we felt comfortable. We shared our sad news a while after the stillbirth to try and make more people aware that it happens, so we wanted to share our joy too.

I know its hard for some people to see pregnancy or birth announcements as I found it hard when close friends were posting their happy news after our two losses, but I personally would never want them to feel like they couldn't share their joy with the world.

Margo34 · 27/02/2022 08:16

I didn't bother with a pregnancy announcement but did do an update that baby had safely arrived about a week or so after birth.

No pictures of my LO on social media, I personally don't think it's fair on them to have their childhood splashed all over social media with no say in it themself.

Chocomelon · 27/02/2022 08:38

I think it's a bit tacky and unnecessary. You tell then people who are close to you by phone call / text / in person. Anyone you don't know well enough to tell isn't worth telling.

Dreamingof3 · 03/09/2022 09:00

People can do what they want. If I see an announcement I always think ahh isn't that nice, and then go about my day. Whether someone puts their pregnancy on social media or not has no effect on my life. Also if I put mine on social media and someone thinks I shouldn't be...doesn't bother me 🤣 people need to stop being so bothered by what others do or don't do

Springblossom2022 · 24/09/2022 18:49

I love seeing other people's on social media, it just makes me feel happy and excited for them. I think when the time comes I would share on social media at some point after 12 weeks. I'm a bit of an over sharer and will probably be excited to the point I want everyone to know haha!

MrsRinaDecker · 24/09/2022 18:55

My youngest is almost 16, so all my pregnancies were pre- social media, but I love seeing pregnancy and birth announcements on Facebook.
The only posts I don’t like are those oversharing later on, eg about a child’s bad days / potty training / pictures of a sick or injured child etc.

PizzaFunghi · 24/09/2022 19:16

I'm glad when people post, as it saves any awkwardness about not really knowing if they're expecting or not, and lets me know what's happening in their lives if they're not someone I see often (my social media mostly has people that I'm in hobby groups with , typcially see them weekly for a while, but they might take time off etc). So I like knowing what's happened to them, how they're getting on etc. Or if they're old uni friends, knowing what is up with them, as I won't see them in person any time soon. That kind of thing. But I guess it depends a lot on who is on your facebook.

I suppose I'd feel a bit sad if I saw someone with a baby and hadn't known in advance at all, as I'd know that they didn't see me as someone important enough to share the new with, evne though we didn't meet up in person very often. It very much sends a signal about what 'level' of friends or acquaintances you are, and I guess that makes it clear that I'm not in the group that is important enough to be told in any other way.

So I really appreciate it when people do share on social media, as I like sharing in their happy news, and I like feeling valued enough to be part of (possibly very wide) group that they've chosen to tell.

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