DS was born on Friday 9th weighing in at 10lb 10.5oz
As many of you know I was desperately hoping for a VBAC
However DS ended up being born by elective c/s at 10 days overdue on Friday 9th Nov.
I'd tried everything to get things "moving" but nothing had worked
My BP had been starting to rise and on Monday 5th my BP went over the magic safe limit. Trace of baby was fine though, so we continued...
Went for further tests & pre-op clinic (had elective c/s booked for 9th, but never thought I'd need it...) on the Tuesday, to fine that baby, who's head had been almost fully engaged, had disengaged & gone into an oblique lie
More monitoring on Thursday, baby back to head down, but head free, cervix totally NOT read, my BP still a little too high, so reluctantly agreed to go ahead with el c/s the next day. (Induction ruled out due to cervix being totally unripe as my hospital will only give you one shot of gel if VBAC due to rupture risk)
m/w & theatre staff did as much as they could to make it special - a much better experience than when I'd had DD as an em c/s.
When we found out the weight of DS it made me totally sure that el c/s was the right decision, even though I had wanted my VBAC so badly. I think DS disengaging was his way of saying "I'm not coming out THAT way"
If I'd have tried to deliver naturally, at best I would have probably ended up with an assisted delivery & a trip to theatre anyway to repair the damage, but more than likely another em c/s.
Amazingly the el c/s also managed to lay most of the "ghosts" from DD's birth to rest (which is why I'd wanted the VBAC in the first place) and all fears I had with trouble bonding were totally unfounded.
I will still mourn the loss of the experience I will never have (DS is DEFINITELY my last) but overall I'm feeling postive about the whole thing