Pregnant soon after birth

[Twelve8Ts]

Hi all,

I’m looking for a bit of advice please. I had my lovely daughter 4 months ago and have just found out I’m pregnant again. There will be less than a year between them.
We are really conflicted over what to do.
My main issue is that I wanted a baby for so long and I love her so much, that I feel like I’ll have taken all the attention off her by having another. Will I be able to enjoy her as much as she deserves?
But there also positives to this too.

Has anyone been in a similar situation and how did you cope with two babies so close in age?

Thank you x

I haven’t but had family born 13 months apart. The first year was hard (to watch let alone live) and my cousin says she barely remembers that first year as she was so tired and wrung out. But they’re 6 and 5 now and best friends and they are so thrilled they did it. Definitely pros and cons. It depends if you’re able to access a lot of support when they’re both small and you’re likely to need it! Congrats (on both babies!) xx

There's a year between me and my sister. I cant speak from my mums pov but I wouldn't have it any other way - we've been best friends our whole lives because we essentially grew up together at the same time. Probably wouldnt be the same if there was a bigger gap (I'm the younger if that makes a difference)

Thanks both. Fingers crossed! x

I have just over a year between mine. It wasn't planned that way.
I spent the whole of that pregnancy feeling awful that I had ruined my dc1's life, that they would never remember life without dc2, that I loved them so much and they'd never have those memories of us giving them all the attention...
They are now in their teens. They are really close friends (they are different genders) and genuinely get on brilliantly. They're supportive of each other. I don't regret it for a minute. Yes the first couple of years were hard work but when is early parenting not? Since the youngest turned about 18 months it's been great and it wasn't that bad before that!

I have 16 months between my two (second DD 3 months early!) It's hard work but not the end of the world. My one piece of advice try to get them to nap at same time once a day so you can have a breather!

Thank you ladies! x

I'm 8 month pregnant with a 13 month old. It was much better in the sickness/exhaustion phase as my little girl couldn't move 😂! I don't think I could have coped going through that with her running around like she is now. Only thing I'd recommend is making sure your DH is a big help as my body feels like it's falling apart, hurts like hell to climb the stairs and pick her up etc now. Couldn't do it without DH being so hands on! It's not the easiest but I don't think being pregnant with your second will be as easy regardless of the age gap!

Yeah that’s true, I didn’t think of that. I was in hospital due to the sickness with the last pregnancy so I’m praying this time isn’t as bad!
Oh he’s amazing so I’m not worried about that. Good luck! x