I'm not sure if I'm being over the top but I do not want visitors after the birth of ds2.
Ds1 was born with his bowel on the outside of his body so spent a lot of time in nicu far away from home. I was unable to hold him straight away and I feel this is the reason for me not wanting visitors second time round. But am i being unreasonable? I don't want to upset family/ friends, nor be bitchy about it but when family come to visit us while ds1 was in nicu all they could do was bring presents/ gifts for the baby, knowing we had nowhere to store them and to not know if he was going to be okay in the long run, dispite being told this. Basically didn't take me or partners feelings into consideration just put more stress on us really. Even when ds1 became ill whilst in hospital with sepsis, they didn't stop. They just continued to drive to the hospital with bags of gifts and pop in to see the baby for 10 minutes.
I eventually flipped out and stopped being nice about it and told them straight basically in stead of countless times I previously told them a bit nicer and most of them don't talk to me anymore or even ask how ds1 is. ( also because I have a small flat and literally had no room to accommodate any more items! ) oh and not to mention the fact that me and partner would say we were going to buy something for baby and they would rush to buy it themselves!!!
Sorry for the rant. It's needed lol. Am I just pissed off with them for this and holding grudges or am I right to be putting me and partners feelings first especially after birth of ds2?? 