Irritated at reaction!

[TickTockBaby]

Warning in advance bit of a rant coming. . . . .

I am 12 weeks pregnant and very happy about it, after our scan today we popped to my mothers to break the news, my mums first response after I told her, "was it planned?"

I appreciate I may be hormonal and therefore overreacting but I'm so irritated by that!

For back ground I'm 31, in a stable and professional role, homeowner, very happily married to DH for 6 years, we have a DD aged 4 who is wonderful.

(I must add I don't think any of the above is important when having babies!)

Additionally she did the same when we announced DD way back when but asked that after initial excitement and questions.

I'm irritated and frustrated honestly why would anyone ask that of anyone? It just wouldn't even enter my mind as one of the many appropriate things to ask.

Sorry it's a bit long

I utterly hate that question!! My mother was obsessed with finding out if both my pregnancies were planned. So rude.

Yeah it's very rude! I'm not surprised you feel that way. I think there are certain things you just shouldn't ask people, especially not the first thing you say to them!

My mum said that too, I think she was just shocked. (I'm also married in a stable career and have always wanted kids. I was 25 when my LG was born). Honestly I just had to let it go. She's a wonderful grandma and got really excited when she came round to the idea!

I was 38 when Dd2 was born. I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 5mths. She definitely wasn't planned.
Dd1 was 23!
My family all thought it was hilarious. I was in total shock and upset.
No-one asked how I felt or if I was ok. Their reaction also pissed me off.

It's very rude and you should tell her so. What a boorish thing to say.

My mam replied with.. I'm sure there was something you could do to prevent this 🙃

I was I'll being sick after everything I ate when I fell pregnant so obv discussed with partner what would happen when my contraception wasn't working which we both knew what the outcome could be and both decided not to put any precautions in place & that was my mams first reaction.. she's still an arsehole to this day 😂

As long as you and your husband is happy and little one is happy then what's it to everyone else x

Well after my dad celebrated he then went on to ask if it was planned or "if it was a moment of passion"... so be thankful you didn't have that awkwardness!!