Is it weird to not tell anyone?!!

[Hey1256]

My husband wants to wait until my belly is too huge to hide to tell anyone. He thinks it will be more exciting!

I agree with him and tbh can't handle people giving me advice asking how I am etc for eight months that's remaining of my pregnancy. It will seriously do my head in.

So....he doesn't want to tell anyone on his side at all.

I've said I want to tell me immediate family and then a few close friends after 12 weeks.

Is it weird to not say anything to most people until I start showing? Even if this is 5-6 months we want to wait as I really want it to be private. I'm not comfortable with my body and hormones changing in front of everyone to see.

I also don't want to be thought of as a total weirdo! Or should I just not care what anyone e thinks?!

@GingerRH I was ten weeks Sunday but sadly the baby no longer has a heartbeat so I had surgery Tuesday to remove it.

Based on my above experience I'm sure aNd hope everything with your pregnancy is fine but next time I will not be telling anyone even friends or family until 20 weeks scan. Everyone else will find out when my belly grows. Purely because it was just as upsetting (if not more so) for the grandparents in particular when they heard about the loss and I don't want to potentially put them through that again.

Just my personal experience sorry to put doom and gloom on these things but reality is they can happen.

Xxx

@Hey1256 I'm so sorry for your loss!!

I had a MC in August. I was 5+6. We'd been trying for a year, and out of pure excited I told my parents. It was the worst thing having to break it to my mum that we'd lost the baby. This time round, I've said I'm not telling anyone until I've had the 12 week scan. Xx

@GingerRH it's awful isn't it! Sorry for your loss too; I think when you go through thAt the next time around I don't care who I'm offending by not telling them as I'll put myself first if that makes sense. Good luck with your announcements and I wish you well :) exciting times and congratulations 😊 xxx

We didn't tell anyone until about 20 weeks.

I don't get 'announcements', the social media ones are cringey! and I think keeping it private in the early stages is nice.

^Thats nice for you. I enjoy seeing others pregnancy announcements.

I'm so sorry for your loss @Hey1256

@smartcarnotsosmartdriver thank you so much. So kind of you to say xx

I think you need to do what's best for you! Some of my friends would be so upset not to be on the journey with me if I told them when I had a big bump but then again, it's about you both