How to tell

[goldenchick]

My OH has a son from his previous relationship. They are very very close and spend a lot of time together (his son is 9), my OH relationship with his ex is dreadful and my relationship with his son is non existent because she is unhappy for him to have moved on, so at present I have no relationship with him.
I am pregnant and the whole situation obviously needs to change. The ex would like to wait until their son is 16 before telling him about our child! Which is obviously outrageous and not an option. He fully intends to tell him about the baby and we want him to be a part of our lives.
Any advice on how to tell him/appease the ex at all. Just any advice on moving on in general in a positive light would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you x

Hey, I'm sorry you're in this situation. It seems that the ex wants to make all the decisions and I'm guessing she won't listen to reason if your ex tries to speak to her rationally about the situation. Her demands are obviously unreasonable and unfair on everyone involved, but I think she enjoys feeling like she still has control over his life. I think he needs to let her know kindly but very firmly that she's not the only one who gets to make decisions, and that it's in their child's best interest to get to know their sibling, rather than hiding it, which will certainly cause more problems later on. Good luck 🦋

*her ex, ffs