Hey everyone! Am new to here but would really appreciate some advise on this matter.
A few months ago I found out I am expecting a baby with my partner.
It all came as a complete shock, but I never contemplated the thought of abortion. Even though it was so unexpected, both partner and I are so very happy and excited.
Both partner and I have full time jobs, drive and have money saved up and are planning to put a deposit on a house very soon. (We are 21 y/o)
We both are uninteresting in partying anymore and we can't wait to start our new little family.
I have chosen wisely who I have broken this surprising, but lovely news to. Everyone has been so lovely and supportive and have mentioned how capable we are of achieving this and how lovely and exciting it is.
Now I chose not to tell one of my 'best friends' until now, as she has been very judgmental in the past.
She is a sweet girl but very opinionated and has everything provided for her as in her parents pay for her rent, car, uni and give her £800+ a week for uni food/pleasure money. She also calls herself a devout christian, which is nice as I would also class myself as a christian too in some ways.
I rang her yesterday to explain I was pregnant and she said she would drive over today to speak about things. She arrived today and gave me a big hug which I found reassuring. However it became clear she was only being nice because she felt sorry for me.
As soon as she realized she had got the wrong end of the stick and that she wasn't round to 'help speak about abortion' , she decided to state that it was an awful idea, that she thought I was a very silly girl and that I had ruined my life. She said my partner would probably be a bad father and that we would both be better off just getting a termination and carrying on our lives. She started picking holes in my life and said she feared the baby would in fact be taken away as we wouldn't be a stable family as we are not married, then decided to sprout absolute nonsense that baby 'probably already has a disability' due to me being on antibiotics a few weeks before I found out I was pregnant. Such bizarre nonsense. I quickly explained to her that I found her outburst very rude and upsetting, I would never say such a thing even if I thought it the worst idea in the world!
Explained that partner and I love each-other very much and will do everything and anything for our baby. Also that if worst came to worst and we broke up, it does not mean the end of our world for our child. I see many capable single parents or parents who have divorced and still parent their children brilliantly and their children do not feel less loved at all!
She then became quiet, looked very awkwardly at her phone and then said 'well will I be godmother then!?'
Opinions would be greatly appreciated lovelies.
Lots of love x