Did you do a gender reveal? How did you do it?

[PrincessBananaHammok]

My OH has paid for the early scan as an anniversary present next week and we don't know how to reveal it to our families

My wife did it with a cake. If it comes blue then it's a boy and pink if it's a girl.

Gender stereotyping a half baked baby. Must be some sort of award for that.

Jesus wept, does everything have to be an event now, a drama production. Just ring them up and tell them, 'It's a boy/girl/alien/etc.'

We found out the sex only because it would determine whether it was worth having the enormous argument about names that having a boy would cause.

It wasn’t. We had no intention of treating/dressing a boy or girl child any differently so that was it.

I'm so glad this wasn't a thing 20 years ago!

It didn't even occur to me to do a gender reveal. Jesus wept.

We text our parents to say we were having a boy. Not everything needs to be an ‘event’.

Babies don’t have a gender! Babies have a sex. Gender is what gets layered on afterwards!

We hired a local ballet school to perform and give our friends little pink cupcakes for our eldest daughter. For our son we had a private screening of the History Boys and wore matching blue outfits.

No I’m getting muddled .....we just rang the grandparents after the baby arrived. It seemed to work well enough.

My partner and I are desperate to find out the sex and start buying and decorating! One of my friends suggested having the gender written for us in a Christmas card and opening it on Christmas morning as a kind of gift to ourselves, I love that idea but just don't think I have the patience!

Told my parents after the scan that they were having a granddaughter.

I really didn't imagine that anybody would be interested enough to make an event out of it.

Not being rude but I doubt people are actually that excited about whether you're having a boy or a girl obviously it's very exciting for the actual couple, but I just think all these big deal sex reveals are totally unnecessary and a bit cringe. I just called family and told who wanted to know.

We weren't sure whether to find out so asked the sonographer to write the sex down. She said she wasn't allowed to!

Ours involved her telling us and is telling our parents. Everyone was happy!

CherryPavlova

God there are some partypoopers on this thread. I didn't do a gender reveal party because it wasn't a thing when my dc were born but I wouldn't begrudge anyone else doing it. But I love watching them on fb usually balloons or a cake they seem so joyous. And clearly people do care, just not the po faced posters here 🤨

I don’t understand how you can- apparently gender is “assigned at birth”....

(Shuffles back to feminism chat board)

The thing is ... nobody else really cares!! Harsh but true.

@MrsFogi are You Paloma?

My DS rarely wears blue there are so many colours out there and I'm not blue fan.

I don’t understand how you can- apparently gender is “assigned at birth”....

With our DT’s we didn’t find out in advance which for me was a big plus as I didn’t want the pink for a girl and blue for a boy. (We had b/g)

Iv loved going to my friends gender reveals! Most of my friends have went for a gender scan but asked for the gender to be wrote on a piece of paper and put in an envelope so they can't see it, they've took it straight to our post office where they buy a large black balloon filled with either pink or blue confetti and they don't find out until everybody else does when they pop the balloon at the reveal!

Why not make an event out of everything, having all your family and friends around to share your exciting news will feel amazing!

Sex, not gender. It's a sex reveal.

Just reading through this tread and wondered if one of the 'it's sex not gender' pro gender neutral posters could clear up a little confusion for me please as I genuinely don't understand all this gender neutral stuff. My understanding us that train of thought is that a child chooses a gender for themselves. My question however is that how does one know or decide whether they identify as a man or a woman? Surely this decision comes down to a range of factors including their like of a range of norms??? Hence isnt this gender stereotyping in itself???

Or is that the point that they dont identify as one or the other but the idea is for everyone to be neutral and gender not be a thing, only sex?

@Lookingforwardtoourrainbow the point is that gender is a bunch of made up stereotypes and the only thing that's real is biological sex. You don't get to choose based on whether you like pink and kittens

Thanks that was what was confusing me. So I guess what is meant is there is no such thing as gender? Personally I've asked for grey and white clothing for our baby regardless of sex as people are asking me what colour to knit in and I like those colours! Also like blue lol for boy or girl!