I've been friends with 2 women for around 15 years, since we were teenagers. The friendship has waned but we still keep in touch via a group chat. It's mostly just big announcements and I wouldn't say I know anything real about their lives any more. I have a 18 month old and friend A has a 2.5 year old. She had a tough ttc journey and multiple losses before having her son, but I only know this from friend B who she is closer to.
Anyway I'm now 12 weeks pregnant with number 2 and starting to tell people. They'll both be offended if I don't tell them I'm pregnant, but I'm anxious because it's kind of "that time" when friend A may also be ttc #2. I don't want to upset her by just blurting out my news if she's ttc and having the same trouble she did before. I have no reason to think she is ttc, or even that she wants a second child, beyond the fact her son is 2.5.
So, wwyd? Just announce it normally in the group chat, or message friend B privately first to see if she knows anything. I don't want to make it into a big fuss, but don't want to upset anyone by being tactless either.