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Finally home... and in time for Doctor Who as well! Yes, it's Mossy's (vvv long) birth announcement!!

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Mossie · 14/04/2007 17:33

Oh what a relief! I can't believe I'm home at last!!!! Honestly I was starting to think I'd be trapped in the LWH for the rest of mine and Bertie's life!!

Well - first, the birth.

First pessary seven thirty.

Contractions started slowly, more like bad period pain, and then started to get more regular, and stronger, about every five minutes or so. Had an examination..... and I was one cm dilated. One measly cm! I wasn't amused. I'd been rocking backwards and forwards listening to Primal Scream "Higher than the Sun" on my ipod with nowt more than a codeine for pain relief thinking, "hey it's not that hard this labour lark, what's the fuss for?"

They stuck me on a monitor to measure Bertie's heart rate, and my contractions. They got stronger and stronger, but another problem reared its head. I needed a wee. More than anything in the world. And I was strapped down!! Finally got a mw to unhook me, it was so frustrating! This happened a few times during my stay on this induction ward.

Contractions continued and at two thirty in the morning they introduced the second pessary.

At ten thirty in the morning they finally moved me into my own room in the labour ward. Where they put me on a drip, broke my waters, and then the fun really started. Luckily the midwives here were lovely, really looked after me. Which I needed. They didn't go for the intermittent monitoring but were really helpful with getting me to stay upright even on the monitor & drip.

Gas and air made things a bit better, as breathing through the pain wasn't doing enough at that point.

At about five o'clock in the afternoon I gave in and asked for the Diamorphine. I was sure I didn't want an epidural, because of the worry it would make my labour even longer than it already was.

It barely touched the sides of the contractions themselves, but according to dh, and mil, my two birth partners (oh did I mention mil wasn't allowed in the induction ward, only dh? She wasn't allowed until I was in the labour ward!) it did make me witty and amusing between contractions. I do recall cracking a few jokes.

And then at about eight o'clock I told the mw that if I didn't go to the loo soon I'd poo myself...

... and then it all went a bit weird. I just could not push him out at all. At first they said, "you can!" but then realised that I couldn't, so I had to have an episiotomy 'cos the cord was wrapped around his neck. The mw cut me and he came out, purpley blue. Very scary. They whisked him off to check him out, thankfully they explained to us all what was happening so we knew, but I can honestly say I've never been so scared in my life. Mil and dh were both frantic.

They brought him back so I could do skin to skin, but then told me they'd have to take him away to SCBU for the night to keep an eye on him in case he needed any recusitating or had a fit... ... well thank goodness I was drugged up on diamorphine. Sounds weird but it's the only way I managed to get through that night.

And then the fun really began. But that's a whole other story, involving some great midwives... and one awful one who I am going to make a complaint about.

But none of that matters for now as I'm finally home, Bertie is adorable, he is now feeding fine and dh is being an absolute star with him, doing everything around the house while I bf, and also learning how to change nappies, bath him, that sort of thing.

Next couple of days I may be a bit quiet on here while I get the hang of this newborn lark, but I'll be back!!! (Once I've checked April's antenatal to see who else beat me to it of course!!)

Just wanted to say a huge thank you to the three MNers whose mobile numbers I had while I was on the ward, and who helped me enormously while I was there and made me feel a bit more human, Dolly, Lulumama and Kitty. Thank you girls you really saved my sanity!!!

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Mossie · 15/04/2007 07:45

Ah thank you everyone!!

Yes the birth was a bit but the memory of it has started to fade now. And I have to say, mil, & dh were such excellent birth partners, dh didn't faint although he did have a little cry when I had the worst of my contractions on that godawful drip. Bless him.

It was afterwards, when he got taken off me into the SCBU that I did lose my sense of humour. He wouldn't latch on, and there was no one around to show me how to express colostrum so they fed him formula from a special cup (i.e. rather than get him confused by giving him a bottle). Next day the bf councillor on SCBU gave me a lesson on bfing but he still wouldn't latch on. Finally that night I got him back to the ward, I was so happy! But he still wouldn't latch on.

And I was disraught, I gave him a cup of formula and he didn't even seem to want to suck from that so I called the night mw. She said:

  1. I know this might make you distraught but not all babies can bf, they can't all latch on, yours might just be one of those.

  2. He doesn't want to cup feed, if I had my way I'd give him a bottle but I'm not allowed to if you have told us you want to bf, it's hospital policy.

I had gone on a bit of a strange "journey" about bfing, when I first got pg I thought I'd give it a go but only because it was cheaper! But as I learned about it I thought it was something I really did want to do. So the thought my baby might be one of those babies that can't bf almost destroyed me. She left the room and I was in tears, I cried and cried and cried.

In the end I managed to get some of the cup feed down him, I was determined not to use a bottle whatever.

I texted Dolly who told me the mw was talking crap. The next day I made a fuss, once the scary mw was off shift!, I demanded to see the bf team from the SCBU; she was busy so they sent a mw and bf councillor from the ward who was BRILLIANT.

She gave me some new positions to sit in so that I wasn't in pain from my stitches and after a few tries, he latched on. She also showed me how to express colostrum by hand and gave me a little syringe to get the droplets out with so I could drop them in his mouth if he had trouble latching on again.

After that, a few more feeds and I got the hang of it really easily. But I was so p*ssed off with that other mw. What if I had believed her? I might have just given up.

So I'm going to complain about her. Not out of some kind of need to get her into trouble out of revenge, but for the sake of some other 1st time Mum like me wih the same problems.

I had to stay in another night after that because they thought I might have bladder problems, but it proved to be nothing more than a mental block on weeing 'cos of the stitches! [owwww emoticon]

I'm still trying to get my head around everything, as is dh, just basic stuff like, how often do you do X? Are we doing Y in the right way? and so on. But I absolutely adore little Bertie.

I have made a makeshift sling out of my dressing gown so I can type two handed!!!

Right I'm going to go of to post natal now to check how everyone's getting on!!!

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Mossie · 15/04/2007 07:46

Oh will do some pics now too.

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Katy44 · 15/04/2007 08:41

Ah congratulations Mossie!
Glad you're all home and everything is going well now, looking forward to the pictures!

Katy44 · 15/04/2007 08:42

Oh he's lovely!

foxcub · 15/04/2007 10:35

Mossy he is beautiful

so glad that you eventually got some decent advice in hospital and that - despite a traumatic birth - you are enjoying time with Bertie now. Brill that you are BFing him too!

did he enjoy Dr Who last night? he must have recognised the music from when he was in your tum!

BandofMothers · 15/04/2007 10:51

Don't know you very well Mossie, (or at all really) but know you waited a long time for him. Remember your waiting for minimossie MN name.
Congrats on his safe arrival and thank goodness you got some good bfing advice in time. It's a wonderful experience to feed your child using your body. Wierd, and wonderful.
He's very cute and teeny.
Don't know if she was on the April 07 thread, but PHDlife had her baby on Friday. Boy. Thought if you know her you'd like to know

MrsWho · 15/04/2007 14:57

He is gorgeous Mossie!

Piffle · 15/04/2007 16:50

mossie not sure if you've "done it" yet
but the mental block on the weeing has nothing on the mental block on pooing
And I speak as someone who never had a stitch or tear...
Oh he is lovely Mossie how much did he weigh etc?

LunarSea · 15/04/2007 17:10

Mossie - to get you over those hurdles you can try pouring water over your stitches when you wee for the first time - or even wee in the shower. Not suggesting you make a habit of it, but hey - if it helps as a one off.

And for the first poo, prees a clean mat pad against your stitches - helps give you a lot more confidence that they're not going to split.

Piffle · 15/04/2007 19:43

or even better than water is distilled witchhazel from Boots cheap and so soothing

Mossie · 16/04/2007 14:29

Thanks all,

Thought i'd have a bit more time on here than i do iyswim!!! Bless him he is hungry even now!!! Constantly feeds... but then, he does sleep for hours afterwards so con't complain!!

Did a poo (tmi I know!!) and it wasn't too bad, mw came round, think she thinsk I'm a hippy 'cos she was shocked that I am both bfing & using reusables lol!

Did his heel prick poor lad cried & cried!! And on Friday she'll look at my stiches check I'm okay.

Bye for now... will come back a couple of days I think, not being rude just getting into the swing of things... very hapy though with my little man, and have to say dh is being great...

Thanks toi you all for your lovely congratulatory messages. XXXXXX Mossy XXXXXX

PS will go on Dr who thread at some point next week Mrs Who & see what you're all saying about him not being the last!!!

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NormaStanleyfletcher · 19/04/2007 14:34

MOssie!!

Well done girl.

I have not been here all that much as I was away over easter and am now back at work part time (just by your house!)

Bertie looks positively edible. Hope you are still doing OK (seen your BF thread too btw)

Birdiemum · 23/04/2007 17:52

Belatedly checking out the birth announcements and WELL DONE MOSSIE!! Sounds like you and Bertie got through a hell of a time fantastically well.

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