Baby envy

[Chudasama89]

Hi all,
So in Dec/Jan just gone, my cousin, my best friend and myself all found out that we were all expecting a baby, and that our due dates were within 4 weeks of each other. We called ourselves The 3 Mumsketeers! My cousin had her baby 2 weeks ago and my best friend had her baby yesterday (both overdue).
I sadly lost my baby at just over 2 months and having to watch 2 couples that I absolutely love with all my heart, go through that wonderful experience when I should be too, just tears me up inside. And to really rub salt in the wound - my due date was yesturday, when my best friend gave birth...
It hurts so much.

Hi
I completely understand how you feel as I lost my baby at 14 weeks due to a number of complications. Even now I feel bitter when someone announces they are pregnant (4 years almost).
Although it gets easier and im sure when your ready you will try again and be successful, its an awkward time for your cousin and friend. Im sure they want to be overjoyed but im sure they feel guilty for their happiness and dont know how to act around you.
My best friend announced on my birthday she was expecting and has never once acknowledged how that has made me feel but iv always smiled through gritted teeth and made an effort with the baby (and often cried on the way home)
I am now pregnant again and im so scared but im more scared to tell my friend whos been trying to conceive for a year as I know how shes going to feel.
Your not alone in your feelings, stay strong and stay busy and also be honest x

I'm so sorry. That's incredibly hard. Your feelings are very normal and I would suggest mentioning it, if only briefly, with your friend and cousin how you feel. I'm sure it will be on their mind anyway. My good friend lost her (almost full term) baby just a week after I had mine. I have been very grateful that she has remained my friend but I have always tried to be sensitive with her.

I had a missed miscarriage with my first at 12 weeks. It's very sad, and always is in a way, but time passes and now I have a 5 and 2 year old.

Let's yourself be sad and cross but don't allow it to beat you. X