When to tell husband?!

[MrsP24]

Hi, Got my first faint positive today at 11DPO. I'm so excited to tell my husband (of 3 weeks!) as he'll be over the moon and I've planned a surprise way to tell him. But I've just read that 50-60% of early pregnancies will end in a chemical pregnancies which has brought me back to reality a bit - so I'm wondering if I should try to wait a while before telling him?
It would just be awful if we were both really happy and excited and then AF turns up in a few days!
Just wondered how soon you told your partners?
Thanks

I told my DP when I was going to do a test and that it was positive straight after it never occurred to me to turn it into a surprise because he was involved in every step

As soon as I knew. If anything goes wrong at least you both know. I can't think of anything much worse than dealing with that disappointment on my own. Mind you, when I was last pregnant, you had to wait until your period was late, the tests weren't so sensitive.

Tell him now. Surprise other people

DH was with me when I did the test - not something I wanted to keep a secret from him. We told family and friends after the 12 week scan.

I would have to do a blow by blow account of everything everyday. I'm no good at keeping things to myself with a partner.

Did test with DH there. Unfortunately there is a high risk of miscarriage before 12 week scan, and no guarantee everything will be ok after that. I lost my first baby at 9 weeks. Whenever you tell him there will always be a risk so I'd just do it as soon as possible. If something does go wrong would you want to go through that alone?

Thanks everyone. You're totally right, I'll tell him when he gets home . My massive grin will probably give it away anyway!

Good stuff, congratulations

Congrats. Waiting for your next update for the next AF. It is not necessary that AF turns into negative. My first test was a faint positive line. I was even not sure am I pregnant. I asked doctor are you sure? She said why you are in doubt? Although it is faint but it happened. I reassured after two weeks. Finally I satisfied with second test. As my hubby was with me at every test so he knew it from very first day. With the first test, he insisted me to believe on good news. I was not expecting it. It was the end of second year of our marriage. We just celebrated our anniversary when I got it. In start, I hardly managed time for my health as I was doing a tough job. I shifted to other city from my home town so that I can give more time to myself.