My brother assaulted me, now mam wants to tel him I am pregnant.

[user1498725320]

Basically my brother assaulted me recently, he went on an aggressive verbal rampage (unprovoked) and spat in my face as well as cocking his arm bearing his fist. He then made demands to my parents that he no longer wants anything to do with me. I (and my parents) feel that his attack was because I was preventing him from doing something sinister (with another woman, bearing in mind he is newly married). However I have since found out that I am pregnant (and was pregnant when he attacked me), my parents have informed me that theY are going to tell my brother despite my request from myself and my partner not to have my brother know anything about us, especially our address (as we have just moved into a new house). I feel that they are massively disrespecting our wishes and haven't spoken to them since. I have sent them an email expressing my feelings but so far (now three days) they haven't made any effort to contact me. Please help...am I out of order?

[kalinkafoxtrot45]

No, YANBU. Your parents are, though. What exactly was their intention? To let him know you are pregnant, to let him know that you were pregnant when he attacked you, or to pass on further information too?

[Inaquandrydm]

I would be telling them if they can't respect your privacy you will be nc with them also. .

[RiotAndAlarum]

It's not too late to report the assault to the police, especially if your parents can't or won't stop future confrontations.

[user1498725320]

I reported the incident to the police straight away and they went to see my brother. I didn't want to press charges as I wanted to give him the kick up the bum, plus that takes it to a whole other level for the family being divided. He has always treated my mam, dad and myself differently to everyone else. My dad is an ex-police officer so in my eyes he should know better. They want him to know for information purposes. The thing is he has requested to know nothing about me and said that I will have nothing to do with any future children of his.

[RiotAndAlarum]

In that case, your parents' pushing the relationship is bizarre!