First Father's Day for me without a father. Anyone else in the same situation.

[anastasia74]

Just wanted to vent a bit really and talk about him.

Lost my lovely dad last July two weeks after a successful heart bypass - he developed complications which resulted in pneumonia.

This time last year we went out for fathers day feeling a bit anxious about his op. which followed a few days afterwards - then we had the relief of him getting through it and coming back home, we thought he was home and dry - little did we know what would follow.

After just 2 days later he was rushed back in hospital.

He spent a week in intensive care were he did so well. He was then moved to high dependancy were after a day he radiply deterioted and was put back in icu on a ventilator.

So shocking to see. He was'nt responding to treatment so the machine was switched off after a day.

I've felt very tearful and down all week really. It's like all the feelings we had last year the anticipation of his operation and hopes for the future, all the feelings we had seems so raw at the moment.

Felt upset at work when colleagues were discussing what they were buying for there dads.I know its early days and life goes on.Hugs to anyone else feeling the same who knows how all this feels.

SO sorry for your loss.

DH lost his dad in January from stomach cancer. Got the all-clear in July, first scan to check all was well in November, tumour back and aggressive, died a month after Christmas.

He was like a dad to me, we were so close. We're both feeling a little raw leading up to this weekend.

I'm running the Race for Life for him tomorrow. DH and the kids coming to cheer me on. Felt like doing something pro-active....

Hope Sunday goes okay xx

Hi,I have just seen the other thread. Did'nt realise one was already started for Father's Day.

Thanks Choc. now hope your race goes well. That's a lovely thing to do in his memory.X

Its tow years this July for me and I HATE Fathers Day. Have 2 DDs and haven't been able to face taking them card shopping for DH cos last year I spent the entire time in tears reading the cards.
Have to find the courage (might have to be Dutch courage) to take them out this afternoon.
Such a bitter sweet day for us as DH lost his own Father three months before mine

So sorry Anastasia, it is awful and sad.

I lost my father a long time ago, I was only 14. He dropped dead on Mother's Day, and I've never celebrated my mother's Mother's Day as it's too painful for her.
I can remember how shocking it felt when other people would talk about their fathers and presents and celebrations, as it was a painful reminder of what I had lost.

But, having had a DS from a marvellous DH, I can now celebrate it again without feeling too sad.

All I can say is that you'll remember him, and the hurt will get better with time. If you have lots of family share it with them.

Huge hugs.

Very recent for me.
Dad died 4 weeks ago after a very short illness. This is the first "milestone" for me.
I've got the boys a card for DH as I see that as different. I wonder whether they will think about grandad as well?

My Dad died three years ago in May. It does get a bit easier. Still find it difficult when dh buys a card for his Dad. Think I will avoid all that tomorrow. It's harder when you are with others who don't feel as you do, especially your partner's family. But it does get a bit less raw with the passage of time. All the best to all who are facing their first Father's Day without their Dad.

Lost my dad in March. Still numb - don't know what to think or feel. I really understand how you feel. Big hugs to you. When someone dies thats close to you friends and colleagues move on long before you and i think that first year can be particularly painful. Thinking of you.

My dad died in February and I'm feeling particulary sad as I've 'lost' my H - he left 9 months ago. As a result of that, I've lost my FIL too as none of the family want anything to do with me (wasn't my fault but that's a whole other story). DCs went to their dad's today and I just felt like shit basically.

I know it does get easier - my mum died years ago and I grieved for her a long time. I can now think of her with affection (and exasperation sometimes!).

Thinking of all of you, especially those facing the first fathers day since your loss. You just can't get away from it - I wouldn't be able to hold it together either if I read a card drivinmecrazy.