my friends baby died funeral tommorow HELP PLEASE

[starshaker]

we will be unable to go as would have no1 to look after dd. we want to send flowers but dont know what to say or what kind of thing i should get

any help please

that is really nice of you to offer but i dont think i could cope seeing the tiny coffin

I totally understand. Hope everthing goes well at the little ones service.

Aw, starshaker! Just to let them know you are thinking of them is probably all you can do.

Really sad seeing this. My cousin lost his six year old recently- he was awaiting a heart transplpant when he went in for a 'routine' op, there were complications anyway but he got MRSA and that killed him. Cousin wasn't allowed at the funeral as he had separated from his wife and she had her new partner there, he went anyway though, got there three hours early so she couldn't keep him out. They're only 24 (married at sixteen).

Like someone said, any behaviour is normal with grieving- she needs to do it her way, and I am sure the fact that you are thinking of them (and in contact in six weeks time, when everybody else starts to move on) will make all the difference to them. And it's all you an do, unfortunately.