Dad is dying and I have no idea what to say to him.....

[Meglet]

He's in a hospice and probably on his last legs due to prostate & bone cancer. Has fluid on his lungs, weird pain in his stomach that morphine doesn't really help with, very weak, lost loads of weight, seems to be slipping in and out of conciousness etc. He had a blood transfusion today but was not perking up like they hoped so looking at him I think he only has weeks left at the most.

Should I be honest and ask him about what he would like for his funeral? In the past he has always had a pretty impressive dark sense of humour and now I feel I'm desperately not tying to mention he is so ill that I have no idea what to say .

I am lost for words .

thank you .

I was at the hospice most of the day. His kidneys are failing and there is fluid on his lungs so his body really can't hang on for much longer. We watched the Grand Prix qualifying. He had lots of visitors early in the afternoon and was chatty for the odd minute or two but since then he has been sleeping nearly all the time and is hard to wake up.

The dc's saw him and he did perk up for a couple of minutes when they were there, he was having a toungue poking out competition with 20mo DD.

My sister and stepmum are staying with him from now on so he's not on his own. Not sure how things will pan out but the Doctor and nurses think he is very close to the end. His sister is catching a flight from the states tomorrow to arrive on monday although she is aware she might not make it in time. We will see what tomorrow brings.

Meglet,

just, well....

best wishes and keep those memories close.

xx

Meglet I am sending you peace and strength and warm wishes. It is so hard.

My dad died of a brain tumour last January, he was only 60. He was in Australia but I flew out to see him to say goodbye, he had been moved into a hospice as he wasn't safe at home.

For the week I was there I sat with him for quite a few hours a day, reading whilst he slept then chatting whilst he was awake for short spells. When it was time to leave I told him how much I loved him and how much I would miss him, I don't think he understood by that time but it was important to me to say it.

I hope you have some precious time with your dad and that his end is comfortable and peaceful. We're here when you need us xxx

Sending you a huge hug as this must be such an emotional time for you. Take the time to let your dad know how much you love him and like others have said be lead by him with regards to talking about funeral plans. He will gain huge comfort from your love and presence. xxx

Thinking of you. xxxx

Meglet {{hugs}} I remember it like it was yesterday with mum. look after yourself too xx

thinking of you and your dad meglet. xx

xx