Do I need to wear black to a funeral?

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It may seem a weird question, but I am going to my bf's funeral and I feel quite strongly that she may prefer us to wear a bit of colour. (she was only 31).

I do appreciate black shows mourning etc.
But will her family be upset if I don't mark her death with black clothes? They know me well, but I think if I asked them they may think it is a bit shallow.

I have been only to elderly relatives' funerals, and I would only wear black then, so I think this might make a difference because of her age, maybe?

Please tell me what you think?

sorry ds helping me post!

TBH - I think my friend would have liked lots of colours there, but I will wait and see what her family say.

I will be able to give lots of colours in her flowers instead maybe?

why not wear muted colours and a bright scarf. tie it to your bag?

I never wear black to funerals - I don't own anything black! Mostly I wear a navy suit with a different coloured scarf and/or top.
When my friend died, lots of the women in our group of friends wore pink tops - we hadn't organised it - it was just her favourite colour!

mil wore purple suit at her fil.
My mum wore the suit my Dad liked her in at his.
A friend wore a white flowered dress at her mums cos her mum loved to see her in it!!
The family might not have considered colour as there is so much to think about. Maybe if you spoke to them they would be thrilled to have colours there. Ask

when my friend's son died at 5 months old we were asked not to wear black, I wore a navy suit with a pink top underneath.

I'm so sorry to hear your friend died

How are you feeling at this time?

I wore black trousers, a black shirt and a beige cord jacket at my nanna's funeral 3 yrs ago. Just go with what you're friend would have wanted. If she was a bubbly and smiley happy person wear something to reflect that iyswim, or if she had a particular favourite piece of clothing she liked you in, why not wear that and just bring it up in conversation to one of her relatives that 'bf always liked me in this. I hope I haven't offended anyone by wearing this colour..'